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Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things by Randy O. Frost & Gail Steketee

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Services for Real Estate Pros with Casual Uncluttering LLC

I wish I'd read Stuff by Randy Frost and Gail Steketee a long long time ago. Because it's the first book I would have always recommended, and it is now the first book I will always recommend, to anyone who thinks s/he/they may have hoarding challenges, or to anyone who has suffered the impact of knowing a person with hoarding tendencies.

Because this is the most compelling book I've ever read for teaching people with acquiring habits, and the people around them, that they are not alone, not deliberately evil, not unintelligent, not lazy or any of the other horrendous stereotypes.

They are in need of help. They are troubled. They are facing a horrible struggle to learn healthier sensibilities concerning their possessions.

Their efforts can earn results. People with collecting behaviors can reduce their accumulations and learn to organize what they keep. There are resources for their support, from Buried in Treasures groups to therapists to self-assessment and self-help tools. There are also resources for their loved ones, such as Children of Hoarders, and the broader communities affected by their behavior, for example hoarding task forces.

If you think you need help, don't give up trying to find it.

 

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Richard Weeks
Dallas, TX
REALTOR®, Broker

Great information, thanks for sharing.  I hope you have a great day.

Dec 09, 2022 03:05 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Richard Weeks Thank you, and you as well. Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:30 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Lauren. I am not a hoarder and my son is definitely not a hoarder. If it serves no current purpose he disposes of it. That said I have met people when active in real estate that needed help. Enjoy your day. 

Dec 09, 2022 04:17 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Wayne Martin Hoarding disorder is insidious - seen in every socioeconomic class, all sorts of professionals afflicted, even kids as young as five years old can be diagnosed. It's no surprise that real estate agents are going to come into home where someone suffers from the illness. Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:32 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

This is great information to share, both for people who might need help, and for those of us in an industry where we might meet people who need help.

Dec 09, 2022 05:03 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Kat Palmiotti And sadly, it's very difficult to provide help for a myriad of reasons. Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:32 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Lauren,

I've only had experience with a few hoarders in my lifetime but they are troubled people and your recommendation of reading "stuff" is a good one. Its a resource I'll file away in case I need to pass this one to someone in need.

Dec 09, 2022 05:36 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Dorie Dillard Austin TX If it helps even one person, Hurray! Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:33 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Lauren - that's quite the book endorsement.   I think most real estate professionals have experienced a scene or two similar (or maybe worse) to the one in the photograph of your post.   

Dec 09, 2022 05:57 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Michael Jacobs I wouldn't be even slightly surprised to learn that real estate agents encounter the worst possible situations. People with hoarding disorder often have very little awareness of how dire their circumstances are. Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:35 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Looks like our house on moving day, well the garage anyway. Sounds like a great resource. For some it is a matter of time and always procrastinating about tackling the mountain, rather than breaking it down to a single bite at a time. This is a resource to tuck away ready for when needed.

Dec 09, 2022 06:46 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 OH YEA, I've had absolute chaos and overcrowded rooms on moving days... Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:35 AM
Joe Jackson
Keller Williams Capital Partners Realty - Columbus, OH
Clintonville and Central Ohio Real Estate Expert

This is an excellent post with great information. Thanks for sharing it.

Have a super fantastic week!
Joe Jackson, Realtor-KWCP

Dec 09, 2022 06:46 AM
Lauren Williams, CPO,CVOP

Joe Jackson Thank you! Lauren

Dec 13, 2022 11:25 AM