Tuesday's Treasures: deciding comes first.

Real Estate Agent with Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 MD594797

New year's resolutions are not for me. Instead, I have goals, dreams, and ambitions. Some of which I renew on January 1st, some I adapt to changing circumstances, and then there are some that I let go of.

I choose a theme for each new year based on one of my core goals. 

Some years I set the theme with intentions, other years, it just sort of finds me - as it did for 2023. A few days ago I received a package from a friend who shares my quest for self-improvement, living mindfully and with purpose, and treating our bodies and minds with love and kindness. Our gifts to one another always come from the heart and are very personal. She gets me. 

This time she gifted me a set of motivational wraps which come with pendants (that can also be attached to your sneaker's laces, perfect for this REALTOR® on the Run) from Momentum Jewelry. Each pendant is engraved with a motto, or spark, a gentle reminder when things don't go as planned, doubt is whispering in your ear and wants to hold you back, or you just need to refocus on your why

Motivational wraps from Momentum Jewelry

Intuitively, I picked DECIDING comes first as my theme for 2023. It is my reminder to not just dream but to go after it, to change I wish to I will, or I am. Making the decision is the first step to realizing one's dreams. Growth can only happen if you decide to improve.

I have a few dreams and have decided which one will get my full attention this year. When I reflect on 2023 on December 31, I am going to say: I am so glad I made that decision! 

What about you? Would you pick one of these three? Do you have a theme for 2023? Feel free to share, I'd love to hear all about it! 

*Wishing you a happy, healthy, new year filled with precious moments that will turn into the best memories. May 2023 be a kind and gentle year for us all!*


P.S. I do hope there'll be many homeowners deciding to make a move this year. This market (still) needs you! Inventory levels are still very low, rates have come down from their late autumn high, and the spring market is just about to begin. If you would like to sell your home in Silver Spring, MD, and beyond, please call:

Andrea Bedard (240) 593-2860.  

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Comments (18)

Chrissi Chapman Topoleski
Coldwell Banker Realty - Woodbridge, VA
Helping agents live an exceptional life!

I love these bands and love your theme! Intentional language is part of my every day language- I wish or I am going to don't commit! Have a wonderful 2023!

Jan 03, 2023 04:47 PM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you Chrissi Chapman Topoleski! It really helps me be more present in each moment and shift my focus back to my intention(s) when I get distracted. Happy 2023! 

Jan 04, 2023 08:34 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Andrea- I love the idea of choosing a theme for the year!  What an interesting way to add focus and intention to what you do!!

Jan 03, 2023 07:19 PM
Andrea Bedard

I've found setting a theme for the year more productive, more fun, and more realistic in achieving my goals Kathy Streib. I started a few years ago when I really needed to get serious about self-care and being kinder to my body. Instead of committing to losing x lbs, or saying I will go to the gym 3 times a week, I decided that the entire year was going to be about living healthier in general. That's the year I figured out I am allergic to dairy! What a difference it has made! 

Jan 04, 2023 08:39 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Hello Andrea Swiedler, I love this idea, what a great reminder to stay focused on your priority, you've selected a great theme for the year. I can't really say I have a theme for 2023. Wishing you a fantastic year!

Jan 03, 2023 08:47 PM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you Beth Atalay! It really is a great reminder, it's right on my wrist and impossible to ignore. It's my little nudge every day. Happy 2023! 

Jan 04, 2023 08:40 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Like you Andrea I do not do New Years Resolutions... most fail in the first 30 days others fail by the six month mark... I have goals and dreams and they are on  target:)Endre

Jan 03, 2023 10:24 PM
Andrea Bedard

That's wonderful Endre Barath, Jr. - and, of course, just what I expect from you :)

Jan 04, 2023 08:41 AM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
http://www.medicalandspaconsulting.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

No one follows new years resolutions so your method of hopes and dreams is much more useful and purposeful!!

Jan 03, 2023 11:48 PM
Andrea Bedard

I think so, too Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD! It has definitely been working for me. Perhaps my post can inspire others to give it a try.  

Jan 04, 2023 08:41 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Andrea,

Love your idea of a theme for the year and the bands are so fun! "Deciding comes first" is a great theme. Growth can only happen if you make that decision to improve. Well done.

Jan 04, 2023 04:45 AM
Andrea Bedard

There are so many options Dorie Dillard Austin TX! I glanced through Momentum Jewelry's site and will probably end up gifting a whole bunch, too! Thank you! 

Jan 04, 2023 08:43 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I like Excuses or Solutions, you decide! Not for me but for others! Too many people I know opt for excuses. Drives me nuts!!



Jan 04, 2023 05:11 AM
Andrea Bedard

I love that one, too, Kat Palmiotti. I have been pretty good on my follow-through. Once I decide to do something, I'm doing it - no excuses here! I'm giving it to my college-bound child as a reminder :)

Jan 04, 2023 08:45 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

I like the excuses or solutions the best especially if it is followed properly

Jan 04, 2023 06:43 AM
Andrea Bedard

I passed it on to one of my children Ed Silva as a reminder that we always have a choice!  

Jan 04, 2023 08:46 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Excellent post! 


Andrea your friend really gets you.  To pick something so unique that repressents you, running or fitness,  is a good friend indeed! Your ideas and thoughts speak volumes.  I think the only way for a good intention to be followed throughout a year is for it to also be in writing, posted where you an see it.   Not exactly like a vision board, but almost.  

New Years resolution, with good intention and follow through, can be a growth experience.  Mine is very simple this year.  Always seeking to improve upon aspects of myself, this one is to stop or limit unsolicited advice.  How often are you in conversation and someone reverts to their own insights instead of responding to you?   When others, maybe unkowningly, respond with something about themselves, it takes the focus away from the person who started the discussion.   I don't do this, but it's the same outcome.   I tend to offer up a solution when maybe someone isn't looking for a solution.  They just want to be heard.    Points to ponder!  

Jan 04, 2023 07:43 AM
Andrea Bedard

You as well Jan! 

Jan 04, 2023 11:43 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ

Exactly Andrea!  We've both, most likely, been a recipient and know how that feels.  Nothing worse than being invalidated!  Have a great week

Jan 04, 2023 09:25 AM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you, Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ! Self-improvement and limiting unsolicited advice sounds like a great theme to me!  I am so with you on that. Sometimes - or often - people just want somebody to listen and are hoping for compassion and understanding. I just read a great article about this a few days ago, why do so many people tend to respond with their own experiences instead of just words of compassion? It may be because the assumption is that being able to relate can be comforting or helpful. But no two experiences are ever alike, and they can actually invalidate the other person's feelings. That's anything but helpful. I've been guilty of it, too. Reading this article (I wish I could remember where it was!) really got me thinking. 

Jan 04, 2023 08:53 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Andrea, what a great post, and love DECIDING is this year's theme.   We do have choices, and making the right decision is crucial.

Jan 04, 2023 08:55 AM
Andrea Bedard

I love my dreams Joan Cox, but I realized that if I don't put a plan in place and take concrete actions they will remain dreams. The first step is deciding that I'd very much like to pursue them and make them come true! It's exciting!  

Jan 04, 2023 11:45 AM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Love your approach!

Jan 04, 2023 12:40 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

You have found your source of inspiration from within and graciously shared it with us. Thanks for your insight, and I wish you a wonderful year with all your goals, dreams, and ambitions coming to fruition.

Jan 05, 2023 02:25 PM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you very much Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400! You, my friend, are always a source of inspiration. I hope 2023 will be another stellar year for you in Real Estate!  

Jan 06, 2023 08:23 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jan 07, 2023 05:50 PM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you Kathy Streib, always an honor!  

Jan 09, 2023 09:58 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Andrea. My intention, and I willful many times, is to "seek first to understand" before I offer my thoughts. Ponder a bit more. And, I know I will fail many times but I am going to count the successes this year. Enjoy your day.

Jan 08, 2023 05:08 AM
Andrea Bedard

I like this very much Wayne Martin, not only the intention but that you'll count your successes.  

Jan 09, 2023 09:59 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
CEO of Vision Drive Realty - Coastal San Diego

Very cool share! I'd pick this one, because I literally need this reminder a couple times per week LOL...

Jan 08, 2023 07:05 AM
Andrea Bedard

You and me both Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets! A few deep breaths can work wonders.  

Jan 09, 2023 09:59 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Andrea,

Kudos! This is the way to start this year.  Here is my mantra for 2023...

Find Joy In the Journey - Momentum Jewelry

Last year was my most productive year ever.  But I didn't stop to smell the roses as often as I should have.  Life is too precious not to enjoy the journey along the way. 


Jan 08, 2023 07:47 AM
Andrea Bedard

Thank you, Sheri Sperry - MCNE®! This is a wonderful theme and intention. I'm noticing how much faster life seems to move now, and wonder which moments did I really pause to enjoy?! Has it been enough? Can I do better? Am I choosing the best, most meaningful, and most valuable moments? 

Jan 09, 2023 10:03 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Andrea what a wonderful friendship you two enjoy!  As for me my motto every year for years is simply - BE HAPPY.  From that mind space all works out well for me and others around me.

Jan 08, 2023 10:37 AM
Andrea Bedard

I am very lucky to have her in my life Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker, although we do not live near each other, much to my regret. BE HAPPY! Yes to that theme. Love it!  

Jan 09, 2023 10:04 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, I love this, Andrea! And, I'm with Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - this is my mantra for the year...It's ALL about finding the joy in everything! Happy New Year my sweet friend!
Find Joy In the Journey - Momentum Jewelry

Jan 08, 2023 10:04 PM
Andrea Bedard

Happy New Year to you, too, Debe Maxwell, CRS! I am pretty sure you've been practicing that already.. it's a wonderful theme to keep going. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! 

Jan 09, 2023 10:05 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Debe Maxwell, CRS it truly is all about finding JOY in the Journey - and to me this means simply - Be Happy!

Jan 09, 2023 10:49 AM