How to Avoid Non-stop Verbal Leakage

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Real Estate Agent with Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 UT DRE# 6541633-SA00

How to Avoid Non-stop Verbal Leakage

 

We all know an acquaintance or colleague that always desires to be heard, often overrunning everyone else's conversation with consistent dialogue. It's true that extroverts have more to say than introverts!

 

In business though, it's important to remain quiet when clients discuss their wants and needs. Those who refuse, appear to be self-important know-it-all's, who verbally purge their way through most everything.

 

Showing a compulsive side in business dealings does not bode well for the following reasons:

1. Buyers and sellers deserve a good listening ear, rather than demanding to be heard above all and anything else.

2. There is little negotiation power by incessant talking when the other side of the transaction has an opportunity to present.

3. Controlling situations by excessively using words rather than a show of respect, indicates a lack of internal, deeper thinking.

 

My advice: Avoid verbal leakage from spilling over and into every, in-person or, phone conversation. That often turns into a huge time suck. Texting and e-mails might be a better way to effectively communicate.

Learn to walk away from such behavior or cut them short by holding tight to boundaries. Exit the conversation after allowing a few minutes time, then explain you have an appointment and must prepare.

 

Otherwise it may soon be discovered that...

Some mouths are like fast running, spring streams that never stop and there is no way of shutting them off! 

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Comments (44)

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Glad you appreciate the term, I like to play with words, Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400!

Jan 26, 2023 05:18 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Your comment made me laugh and then I thought, it would be twice as bad if coming out of both ends, Dr. Paula McDonald! LOL

Jan 26, 2023 05:21 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Courtesy comes into play whether listening our speaking, Ed Silva. It would be helpful if more people realized that!

Jan 26, 2023 06:14 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

I like the visual that came from your comment, Kathy Streib! LOL

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Jan 26, 2023 06:15 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Wanda,

What a wonderful term "verbal leakage!" We all know someone who is cursed with their non-stop verbal leakage problem. Sometimes you just have to cut them off and take leave, it's the only way not to be hemmed in and taken captive!

Jan 27, 2023 06:16 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

After a few rounds with a fellow agent Dorie Dillard Austin TX, I finally had to close the office door to prevent an hour's or more worth of chit chat every time she showed up. Away from work, I enjoy getting together with family and friends and enjoying one another in good conversation.

Wishing you a wonderful weekend!

Jan 27, 2023 08:03 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! - There is something so special about how you describe your titles.  "Verbal Leakage" is a classic and I love it. 

My husband and I went down to the Phoenix area to check out communities and see what was offered.  We visited an on-site real estate office, and I told the agent on the floor that I was an agent from Sedona and wanted to see the models offered.  Almost immediately, he started talking about his screensaver and his hobby.  I was mortified! 

Jan 27, 2023 08:36 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Ahhh, apparently, he had 'Allaboutme' disease as well, Sheri Sperry - MCNE®. When it comes to business, I prefer a higher level of professionalism, like you do. Time is money!

Jan 27, 2023 09:01 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Wanda:

There's lots of sound advice here. Some people do not know when to be quiet and let the other party talk...it happens in business and in life. There are agents who do not know when to be quiet, just as there are buyers and sellers who don't. No one benefits from incessant chatter. It's supposed to be a dialogue, not a monologue!

Jeff

Jan 27, 2023 08:05 PM
Gary J. Muccio, Associate Broker
Keller Williams of Central PA - Camp Hill, PA
Exceptional Customer Service!

Good morning, Wanda! 

Great post! I try to follow the rule of listening 80% and talking 20%. You gain so much insight from listening to others. By listening, you're better able to understand their fears/concerns over selling/buyer, and whether they are rational or not, it provides you with valuable insight on how to best work with them through the transaction. Everyone likes to be heard, but the listeners win the race! Continued success to you!

Jan 28, 2023 06:01 AM
Candice A. Donofrio
Next Wave RE Investments LLC Bullhead City AZ Commercial RE Broker - Fort Mohave, AZ
928-201-4BHC (4242) call/text

I learned in publishing that short, compacted sentences carry the most power.
You have no choice. Get those points into those characters and columns neatly!

In real estate transactions as well, less is more! 
What's the point, get to it, everything else is extraneous and can and will be used against you -- or at least make you look like a jerk! LOL 

Jan 28, 2023 07:34 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

I probably WAS that person who talked too much for a lot of my life.  Then God sent me a friend who does it and that helped me to be better at listening.  Now I know I'm a better listener.

Jan 28, 2023 01:47 PM
Wendy Rich-Soto, Realtor/Broker Associate
Keller Williams Realty, LA Harbor - San Pedro, CA
Getting you to your next with a zero failure rate!

Great advice and that picture really got my attention!  The more you know the better off you are!

Jan 28, 2023 06:08 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Getting constantly interrupted when trying to make a point can be frustrating, Jeff Dowler, CRS. I do like your comment...It's supposed to be a dialogue, not a monologue!

Jan 29, 2023 08:34 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Good morning, Gary J. Muccio, Associate Broker, yes, everyone wants to be heard and some only want themselves to be heard. Take turns, I say! Thanks for stopping by and offering a comment.

Jan 29, 2023 08:35 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

You know me, I am a short and to the point type of person, Candice A. Donofrio. That way, other people can just drone on if they wish! LOL

Jan 29, 2023 08:36 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

God sends those special people to us in time of need, glad he did so, Tammy Lankford,!

Jan 29, 2023 08:37 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Expanding the knowledge base helps us grow in so many ways and being courteous to others plays a big part in being a good listener, Wendy Rich-Soto, Realtor/Broker Associate!

Jan 29, 2023 08:39 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

Non-stop Verbal Leakage!

I do not believe that I have ever heard a better description of one who dominates a conversation instead of listening to what the other party has to say.

Jan 29, 2023 07:10 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

It manages to say it all in few words, John Juarez. Happy Monday to you!

Jan 30, 2023 09:01 AM