Motivational Monday - Accepting Reality & Others in All You do

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Motivational Monday - Accepting Reality & Others in All You do


Of course, external factors have an impact on our motivation levels during our work days, the one thing WE can control is the attitude that we bring to the table each day. On Mondays, I feel strongly about how significant our own attitudes are!


In our business, we all know that Mondays are often our most hectic days - the attorneys and many lenders, surveyors, inspectors…heck, almost all of our team is off over the weekend. Mondays are catch-up days, often requiring our firemen’s hats that day!


Based on my experience as a professional, my own attitude helps increase self-motivation and professional effectiveness, especially when it comes to judgement. Yes, MY judgement of others can impact my self-motivation. 


The best advice I can give you this Monday morning is to accept reality and others as they are. Self-motivation begins with having realistic and appropriate expectations of those around you. Circumstances don’t always conform to your agenda. Accepting the circumstances as they are, leads to finding common ground more quickly, being more efficient & achieving the results you set out to achieve. 


Accepting others as they are leads to our being better problem solvers - and, after all, isn’t that one of the most important hats we wear?


Happy Monday Everyone!


© Debe Maxwell, CRS | The Maxwell House Group | Savvy + CO | | Motivational Monday - Accepting Reality & Others in All You do

Comments (34)

Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, when it's crazy busy, Monday's fires to put out can be quite extensive, George Souto!

Feb 06, 2023 05:17 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Hey Girlfriend! It's SO good to see you here in the Rain again, BethAnn Long!

Yes, I had one of the craziest Mondays I've had in a VERY long time. I'm happy that it's over! 

Funny but, I wrote this post yesterday, ahead of time...totally not expecting today to be as crazy as it was! LOL

Feb 06, 2023 05:19 PM
BethAnn Long

Debe, way to plan ahead! I sent you a message :)

Feb 06, 2023 05:26 PM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

Buyers and sellers have thought about gotta call my agent/broker/REALTOR first thing Monday morning over the weekend. And they do first thing Monday morning one by one. Don't make appointments going into a Monday morning so you are free to expect those calls, deal with them.

Also when the buyer and seller want to know where the appraisal report is, did surveyor get out to the property, is the attorney title work done, etc ... Let them all know reaching out but don't give expectation you will know in minutes and update them just as fast. It's Monday morning all across the Monopoly playing board.

Those other professionals are in the same MASH real estate emergency field hospital doing triage problem solving. Probably won't come up for air to make calls, answer emails until the afternoon Debe Maxwell, CRS .

Not having your calendar loaded to the brim going into a Monday helps ... frees you up to take the flock of new walk in lobby  patients and wall to wall calls.

Mondays are much harder when Saturday was not action packed productive. You go into a Monday way behind with loose ends from last week crowding your schedule. Sleep, exercise, nutrition and cheerful helps your performance too. It is not about you, it is all about how can you help them.

Think customer. No time to waste emotion feeling sorry, back biting or being self centered recoiling reactive for poor me. If you do, it's not the work load pulling you under water on a Monday More your your own attitude... it's taking an upset buyer or seller and the need for something to happen ASAP personally. 

Feb 07, 2023 03:33 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

That is some very wise advice and our lives will certainly be more enjoyable if we adhere to it.

Feb 07, 2023 04:42 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Deb, I like the way you refer to many 3rd party representatives, ie title, inspectors, etc, as part of your team.  Not enough realize the difference.  Kudos to you.  mdm

Feb 07, 2023 09:33 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Every day is a good day, especially Mondays, a new start.

Feb 07, 2023 11:26 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Debe - I arrive at your post a day late (after first published) but with the reality that the big picture in so many ways remain important.  Context is a part of that.  

Feb 07, 2023 01:37 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, so true, Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573! It absolutely IS all about them and putting yourself, as their trusted real estate advisor in the best 'mental' state - attitude - is so very important. Like you, I don't schedule ANYTHING on Monday mornings simply because I dedicate that time to the normal Monday calls after a busy weekend with clients. And, you can absolutely make your normal prospecting calls in the afternoon - it definitely WORKS! 

Another thing that you mentioned is setting expectations. I do exactly that all of the time - not just on Mondays. But, I will ALWAYS tell a client (or agent, attorney, etc.), "I have reached out to _________ and will get back to you as soon as I hear back from them. That has been one of those 'secrets' I learned back in the hospital - "The minute I hear back from the doctor, I'll be back to you with an answer!" 

Feb 07, 2023 05:48 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Hey, Brian England! What is is - if we "fail to plan, we plan to fail?" Well, if we don't plan these things, the craziness ensues, for SURE!

Feb 07, 2023 05:49 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

And you know I'm still holding out for the opportunity to finally meet the fabulous Candice A. Donofrio!!! I'm sure Rocky Dickerson has something amazing planned!! 

Feb 07, 2023 06:06 PM
Brian England

I hope that Rocky Dickerson is planning a great meetup for us on February 26th!  I am still hoping that Leanne Smith, Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ, and Steffy Hristova will join us!!!

Feb 07, 2023 05:54 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ

Great post Debe!  So very true.  Although yours is a judicial process, ours can be hectic as well ;)  Sorry Brian England , Steffy is not coming.  I'm also swaying toward no as I have so much going on and business in the air.  Darn! 

Feb 08, 2023 07:45 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

OH NO!! I was so looking forward to finally meeting you in person, Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ!!! I hope thing get squared away before the end of the month so you can join us. Looking forward to seeing you, Brian England!

Feb 08, 2023 06:03 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Thank you, Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho! Oh, yes, we cover for everyone over the weekend, don't we?!!

Feb 07, 2023 05:51 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Absolutely, a fresh, new start, Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543

Happy Tuesday - great seeing you today!

Feb 07, 2023 05:52 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Hey, I'm ALWAYS a day late to the ActiveRain parties so, no biggie that you're a day late to my little Monday post, Michael Jacobs! I'm just honored that you stopped by! 

Feb 07, 2023 05:53 PM
Scott Schulte
Scott Schulte LLC - Phoenix, AZ

🔨🔨 Nailed it the 2023 real estate market slap in the face "Circumstances don’t always conform to your agenda" 🤔

Feb 08, 2023 04:39 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Thank you, George Souto. I know you are as on-point as anyone on this platform. It takes people who are actually 'boots-on-the-ground,' for sure.

Feb 08, 2023 06:05 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Thanks, Scott Schulte! They most certainly do not! This crazy market is another reason we love what we do - it keeps us on our toes, for sure!

Feb 08, 2023 06:06 PM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

During the season last year when my Dawgs were ranked 2nd and 3rd Donald was yelling and I was excited because it always gives them more to strive for.

Feb 09, 2023 08:11 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

Coincidentally, my parents, also living in GA, are huge Dawg fans - second only to Clemson & SC (alum schools). Anyway, Mom's last night here on earth with us, we all watched that championship game with her - well, the first half anyway...

It was such a blow-out, she fell asleep & we left and to go my brothers for the evening. When we came back early the next morning, Ray asked my mom how she liked the game the night before. She said, "What game? It was more of a demolition derby!" Glad they won for her last football game to least here on this earth! 

Another coincidence, the very first heart attack she suffered was while watching a college football game. She was PASSIONATE about college ball!

Tammy Lankford, 

Feb 09, 2023 07:17 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Debe- I love your post. I have to continuously work on accepting others and situations for who or what they are. I can't change everything to fit what I think things should be. 

Feb 09, 2023 06:28 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

I struggle with that also, Kathy Streib. Our Realtor® Code of Ethics doesn't allow us to voice our opinion of others, regardless of how wrong they are (on an issue or something they did wrong in a transaction.) It's a double-edged sword for MANY of us!!

Feb 09, 2023 07:20 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Debe:

Your advice to "accept reality and others as they are" is spot on, and something to always keep in mind...even when it's particularly challenging to do so. True in life and in our business. Our attitude plays a key role and that's something WE can control.

Enjoy your weekend!


Feb 10, 2023 11:46 AM
Sharon Miller
RE/MAX Platinum - Crane Hill, AL


This was great timing on your part and the subject is spot on with much of today's existing business climate. Let me mention a phrase which has stuck with me for decades. Over the years, when a situation would interrupt my effort or bring my progress to a halt, I would recall the motto our United Stated Marine Corps lives by, "Improvise, Adapt and Overcome"! When experiencing a "Titanic-like" moment during the course of a day, I would refer to this phrase as a means to readjust my effort in order to address the situation. Think about it? What can I do, how can I adjust and what needs to take place in order for me to succeed? With these words to back me up, I would put the wheels in motion instead of fussing over what "coulda, shoulda or woulda" have taken place. 

Involving one's self with the marketing and sale of real estate ..... you can "expect the unexpected" to take place with regularity today. Having a "motivator" such as the now famous phrase associated with our Marine Corps, will keep the adrenaline flowing and lock in one's focus to "get 'er done"!

See ya,


Feb 13, 2023 07:57 AM