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Happy Valentine's Day - You Left this World but, not Our Hearts

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Real Estate Agent with Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 228209

Happy Valentine's Day - You Left this World but, not Our Hearts

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Valentine's Day this year will be celebrated but, with a bit of a heavy heart. My parents, who were high school sweethearts and married for 66 years last month said their final, "I love you" while together here on this earth. It was one of the most heart-wrenching moments of my entire life. My parents were not only high school sweethearts; they were sweethearts until the moment my mother took her final breath. It's such a rare thing to see two people so in love, and for that many decades.

My heart aches terribly for my Daddy who was left behind, trying to process this tremendous grief. Just thinking of Valentine’s Day and what it means to us, it certainly has to be overwhelming to, not only my Daddy but, to those who have lost their soul mates over the years. I simply cannot process that sense of emotion.  

 

While Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love, it is also the perfect opportunity for us to reconnect with the true meaning of this day. It is about love, sharing and giving.

 

Forever in our hearts

Love is what makes us human; love is what makes life worth living. If you think about it, nothing else really matters. The size of our homes, our bank accounts, the number of likes we get on Facebook, the brand of our car, who we voted for (or didn't vote for!). The list of things goes on and on and still, none of those things matter in the least.

 

Let us all use the occasion of Valentine’s Day to focus on what we can actually give of ourselves. It is really not about us – it is about others and what we can do for others, give to others and how much love we can share with others. 

 


 

Here are a few great quotes for Valentine's Day...

 

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.          ~Thomas Merton

 

They invented hugs to let people know you love them without saying anything.  ~Bil Keane

 

A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.         ~Frank Morgan

 

 Happy Valentine's Day


  

Happy Valentine's Day Everyone!

 #LoveMakesTheWorldGoRound

 

© Debe Maxwell | The Maxwell House Group | CharlotteBroker@icloud.com | Happy Valentine's Day - What's Love Got to Do with It?

 

Comments (65)

Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much, Dorte Engel. You're right - it's never easy but, you know, you're so right, they had 66+ wonderful years together - far more than most of us get.

Feb 19, 2023 08:32 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I can't tell you how much your prayers mean, Brian England! And, thank you for taking care of our challenge while I was gone last week. I've got some catching up to do, for sure!

Feb 19, 2023 08:33 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Aww, thank you so much, Ginger Harper. Happy Belated Valentine's Day to you!

Feb 19, 2023 08:33 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

What a lovely comment, Faye Y. Taylor - thank you so very much. I've been so blessed with incredible support from this community. 

Thank you for the information about the USAA pamphlet. My Daddy is a member so, I'll have to check that out - to be sure he received one. I agree wholeheartedly with you - we all grieve differently and need to respect how others grieve. 

Feb 19, 2023 08:35 PM
Faye Y. Taylor

Those points were in the pamphlet and struck me so much as my sister and I are so different in that she can hold her emotions in.  So I have shared that point with many.   When one calls to inform USAA that their loved one has passed it is assigned to a special rep to handle the account.  That pamphlet was one item we sent out but I didn't get to read it until Mom passed.   And it is very good so if they don't offer it now, ask about it.   It also helps people to plan for their loved ones.   Hopefully you are doing better day by day and just follow Dad's lead.  as an 11 yr old,  I remember the conversation  my grandfather  and I had after grandma passed as I loved her so.  So even the young ones can  help I think.  And all the holidays will be the hardest.  Especially as the family leaves him alone and the house is empty.   

Mar 14, 2023 04:37 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

No, you're so right, Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - it won't heal but, I will always be here for him. It's so hard to see him in pain but, I know he'll let our love help his heart heal. Thank you for your sweet words, Sheri.

Feb 19, 2023 08:37 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much for your kind words, Marte Cliff. Life never ends in our hearts...for sure.

Feb 19, 2023 08:38 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

It's so rare that the wife dies first - I know my mother would have been stronger, had it been the other way around. My heart just aches for him but, I know Mom is in a better place and so does Daddy know that.

Thank you so much for your kind comment, Endre Barath, Jr. 

Feb 19, 2023 08:39 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Love your comment, Kimo Jarrett - enduring life's challenges with our soulmate is truly a testament of love and forgiveness.

Feb 19, 2023 08:41 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much, Brenda J. Andrew. They definitely shared a wonderful life and a beautiful love story. 

I'm so glad you were able to move nearer to your parents. What a true blessing! We so appreciate your prayers, Brenda. Thank you!

Feb 19, 2023 08:44 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

It really is, Ed Silva. I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. I know your Mom is mourning her loss every day - it has to be jolting after 76 years, to suddenly be alone. I cannot fathom what she is going through. 

Feb 19, 2023 08:46 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Well, thank you so much for your wonderful comment, Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ - and I appreciate your hugs. 💔

Feb 19, 2023 08:48 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much for your kind words, Lise Howe. It's been a very emotional month to say the least. 

Feb 19, 2023 08:51 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh, M.C. Dwyer I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. I hate to hear that your Dad is having trouble processing his loss - I cannot imagine what he is going through. 

We are such a materialistic society - love is truly all that matters though. My Dad was in the USAF when they were first married and they had so little - all they really had was love. I love that they embraced that and built upon it over the years, as I'm sure your parents did. It is something that many couples in the more recent generations don't understand - or embrace. We are blessed to have parents who taught us that lesson.

Sending you hugs, M.C.

Feb 19, 2023 08:57 PM
M.C. Dwyer

Thanks for your reply Debe Maxwell, CRS .     We are lucky to have experienced parents in love, making it work over the years.    Hugs back to you!

Feb 20, 2023 08:02 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Well, I'll have to check out your blog to see what idea I spawned, Mike Cooper, Broker VA,WV!

Feb 19, 2023 08:58 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Well, thank you so much, Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES

Feb 19, 2023 08:59 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I know you know what my Daddy is going through right now, Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727. I simply cannot fathom the heartbreak those who lose their soulmate go through. 

Feb 19, 2023 09:00 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much, Diana Dahlberg. Valentine's Day has to be difficult for the first few years (at LEAST). We truly appreciate your prayers and yes, we will be seeing her in the years ahead.

Feb 19, 2023 09:03 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much, Elyse Berman, PA. Happy to share - you know writing is good therapy!

Feb 19, 2023 09:04 PM
Ann Hayden 636-399-7544
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Select Properties-St. Louis Missouri - Des Peres, MO
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Debe Maxwell, CRS ,

So sorry for your loss.  Losing parents is very sad.  

Ann

Feb 28, 2023 05:15 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Thank you so much, Ann Hayden 636-399-7544. I am sorry I just received the notification about your comment - and about 1,000 others!!!

Mar 10, 2023 10:18 PM