Keepin’ it in the neighborhood.

Real Estate Agent
Last night there was enough of a break in the storms hitting the Greater Sacramento Region, to allow for several old farts to get out and celebrate a couple 80th birthdays.

This is kind of a long story I’m going to try and keep short. Bare with me!

Bret Harte Court is a short one block street in the heart of Sacramento's Oak Park, When I was a kid growing up, there were several of us near the same age living there. Last evening was a testament to how long we’ve known each other. The relationships we forged, evolved with time, but we've managed to keep love as treasure.

I'll try to sort it all out for you with this first photo. See that guy, with the cap on, pictured next to the guy on the left? That's John Jeffcoat. He and I grew up 4 doors apart. I've known him since I was 2 years old. Now, let's skip over to the gal pictured on the far right. That's Bonnie Dodge McAdams. She lived right next door to John. They were engaged to be married for awhile. However, time got into mischief, and she married Tim, the guy on the far left. Tim worked at the gas station across the street from my house, or at least he hung out there.

When John returned from Germany after his stint in the Army in 1962, he and I married for a number of years. He is the father of most of my 4 children. Though our marriage bit the dust, we have remained friends, and still live in homes about 500 feet apart - The furthest apart we've been since I was 2.

The lady in the middle of this photo is Pat. Pat is John's new wife. They've been married around 30 years or so now. Pat didn't grow up on Bret Harte Court, but she did march in 4th of July parades around the corner on 35th Street. Bonnie also marched in those parades. I never did. . .I watched!

So, there you have it. The point of this first photo, is to demonstrate relationships can change, they can evolve, but they don't need to be destroyed. They can continue to be more treasured with each coming day!
Four of us pictured have turned, or will turn 80 years of age this year. 1943 was a really good year. John is a little older than the rest of us, but not by a whole lot.
Last night, we celebrated the 80th birthdays of Bonnie and Tim. Happy Birthday, you two! When you think back to the past, and consider where we are now. . .Who could have imagined?
The party was hosted by Darren and Jenny, Bonnie and Tim's children, in the barn on Darren's beautiful estate in Newcastle.

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Comments (29)

Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good afternoon Myrl,

I love this heartwarming post to friends obviously for life! Such endearing photos and you have demonstrated unequivocally that relationships can change, they evolve, but they don't need to be destroyed. They can continue to be more treasured with each coming day!

Mar 12, 2023 01:20 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Myrl I love hearing about long time relationships like this, and that they continue to this day.

Mar 12, 2023 03:09 PM
faye schubert
Retired - Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

That sounds like a fun evening!

Sure hope there are lakes and reservoirs to capture that rain and snowmelt for future use.

Mar 13, 2023 05:34 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh my gosh, I love this story! That you all remain friends is an amazing feat! I'm so glad you were able to celebrate together.

Mar 13, 2023 05:45 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much for sharing this story and the photographs. 
Enjoy the birthday celebrations and your continuing friendships.

Mar 13, 2023 10:24 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

This is so wonderful. I have a group of girlfriends from Granbury and we still get together whenever we can.

Mar 13, 2023 07:19 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Myrl- there are so many things I love about your post. Of course, the photos, as usual, are outstanding. I love the ties that still hold you all together and especially what you said..."relationships can change, they can evolve, but they don't need to be destroyed. "

Mar 13, 2023 07:44 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Myrl what a story and what a celebration, how amazing time flies, Endre

Mar 13, 2023 09:06 PM
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Myrl,  absolutely love the photos and the precious and beautiful story behind those photos.  Happy Birthday to all the special 80 year-olds.  And congratulations on
living loving and caring lives.  You are examples to behold.  It was wonderful of you, Myrl Jeffcoat, to share.

Mar 14, 2023 12:39 AM
Jane Chaulklin-Schott
TEAMCONNECT REALTY - (407) 394-9766 - Orlando, FL
TeamConnect Luxury Homes - Orlando, Florida, 32836

Myrl, you look so beautiful in the photos.  And your story is so very special!

Mar 14, 2023 12:44 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Mar 18, 2023 06:13 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat

Thank you so much for the inclusion on your special "Posts Just For You" list, Kathy!

Mar 19, 2023 09:52 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Myrl Jeffcoat - I love this beautiful story you shared about how the five of you "managed to keep love as treasure." Through love and war, sickness and in health, children, divorce, new marriages, and grandchildren your bonds grew stronger without hatred, being distanced from each other, or regrets. And to think it started when you were born and you all connected to each other from the same neighborhood, schools, and environment. And your love for each other continued to grow all of your lives.

Happy Birthday to all of you. This is one of the most beautiful human interest stories that I ever read. It could be a feature story in something like Reader's Digest. 

Mar 19, 2023 03:32 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Myrl. You have many people envious after reading your story. I am. Your friendships, regardless of the detours, have stood the test of time. Enjoy your celebrations.

Mar 19, 2023 05:34 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Myrl Jeffcoat ,

I'm so thrilled to see Kathy Streib featured you post in her light bulb moments for the week. I know I commented when you first posted but its such a warm story..I had to read it again.

Mar 19, 2023 08:27 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® - I think the longer we shuffle around this earth, we realize it is the relationships we forge that provide the most treasure.

Dorie Dillard Austin TX - I appreciate that you came back for seconds.😊

George Souto - I have special relationships that are so old that I barely remember when they began.

faye schubert - Thus far, water management seems to be doing a great job managing our dams.  They let out enough water to make room for the melting snowpack, but not so much that it floods us downstream.

Mar 19, 2023 09:46 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Kat Palmiotti - It really was a heartwarming evening in that special barn.  It couldn't have been better.

Roy Kelley - Thank you for your well wishes and comment.

Dr. Paula McDonald - Spending time with our old friends and associates takes us back to kinder times.

Kathy Streib - Thank you for including me in your special list of posts to read, this week.

Mar 19, 2023 09:51 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Endre Barath, Jr. - That evening, while sitting in a comfortable chair in that barn, with the fire pit blazing, I looked around that room in almost disbelief at the years that had passed.  There were children (now grown) with grandchildren( darn near grown), and they had all emanated from us.

Jane Chaulklin-Schott - I think when you come of a certain age, you realize there's little time left for hate!

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - I can clearly say, my ex-husband, John, I have known longer than I can remember.  I do remember the first memory though.  He was about 6 or so, he had been a stutterer when very young.  My mom asked him how he stopped.  He replied that he thought about what he was going to say before saying it.  I don't recall him ever stuttering again.  

Mar 19, 2023 09:59 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Myrl Jeffcoat - your memories of John, your marriage, children, and friends reminds me of those Precious Moments figurines. My mom used to collect Precious Moments but I don't know what happened to her large collection. 

If  someone could make it possible to get the artist to make figurines of each of you as the group, it would remain a treasure forever. 

The message to me is, when there is love, united you stand together forever. 

Mar 19, 2023 10:34 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Myrl Jeffcoat what a beautiful story! There are some friendships that we are lucky enough to enjoy our whole life. So glad Kathy Streib featured this as I missed it and I have always enjoyed you stories 

Mar 19, 2023 10:24 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Sometimes just being very good friends is a better relationship than being married. When kids are involved, it is not good to be adversaries, regardless of how old the kids may be.

Mar 19, 2023 07:27 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

It tooks a while for me to be able to smooth over the rough edges with my husband's first wife but we finally got there.  Not nearly as good as your relationships on your court! but it is so important to get along.

Mar 20, 2023 05:40 AM