Help! My Tongue Is On Fire

Services for Real Estate Pros with Ward County Notary Services

I had a few peppers the other day that made me feel like my tongue was on fire. I drank some coffee a while back that burned my mouth. Both experience did require a glass of water or two but neither of those instances called for a fire extinguisher.

Facing a Real Estate Challenge? Then you are going to not only want to read this post but all the posts tied to an Active Rain Challenge called March to a Solution by Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP .

Have you found that no matter what the profession when people work together in a group someone in the group has a tongue on fire... and it is not from eating peppers. It is called gossip. Before you gossip THINK.

We have all heard the childhood chant "Sticks & stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me". HOWEVER we all know that the truth is:

I am sure all of us have heard words that were hard (if not impossible) to forget. Most of us may also be haunted by words we have spoken.

You would think that after decades and even centuries of teaching mankind to be kind we would learn but today the epidemic of slander is worse then ever, not just in work places but socially face to face and even more so on social media. I found this placard on line and it fits what I want to say exactly.

I am eager to head to to see more of his insights after reading his placard. Frank Sonnenberg is the author of several books about character, personal values, and personal responsibility.

Long before Frank Sonnenberg's books on a solution to a large problem that plagues the entire world (including our workplace) my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, taught me (personally) how to treat others. Mom & Grandma were pretty good at this too. 😊




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Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® thank goodness that the inside of the mouth seems to heal pretty quickly. My coffee incident happened when we were visiting my daughter two weekends ago. Motel coffee.

Mar 17, 2023 08:52 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

That is for sure Lise Howe . I can vividly remember some unfounded insults but I do not vividly remember any bodily injuries.

Mar 17, 2023 08:53 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Bob "RealMan" Timm

Thank you for completing three wonderful entries for the March to a Solution|ActiveRain March 2023 Challenge. I feel blessed to read what you wrote about kindness and avoiding gossip.

"Kind words are like honey --- sweet to the soul and healthy for the body." ~PROV.16:24.

I hope you have enjoyed this challenge and was inspired by reading others too. I know I was! Thank you, again.

With Sincere Appreciation,


Mar 17, 2023 11:31 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I have really enjoyed the challenge Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP and I may add more before the month is over. Thank you for hosting the challenge.

Mar 17, 2023 12:37 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Bob "RealMan" Timm - My eyes are warm with wet tears. 

March has been very inspiring here on ActiveRain with all the good stories that have been shared. I think, this is what we really needed. We need to know we are not alone and to be an inspiration to others. 

Mar 17, 2023 12:41 PM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Howdy Bob,   Thank you for the post.   Yes indeed.  Words need be thought out carefully before escaping the confines of ourselves.  mdm

Mar 17, 2023 01:21 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate

Hello Bob "RealMan" Timm - this speaks to my heart in more ways than one.  First, I love hot spicy food and hot peppers.  

Indeed I learned what I need to know from my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ than any other book can teach.  

If only more people lived it - we could have peace on earth. 

Thank you for your 3rd post in the March Challenge! 

Mar 17, 2023 03:42 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

Long before we had social media, we had a gossip in our town whose primary goal seemed to be destroying friendships and tearing families apart. I shudder to think what she could do with social media!

Mar 17, 2023 03:57 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I had that problem last weekend.  I have no idea what kind of pepper that was in my taco.

Mar 17, 2023 04:47 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I have not had that experience Myrl Jeffcoat , an unknown/unexpected pepper in my taco. I think I may have had a habanero pepper once and have avoided them ever since. 

Mar 17, 2023 06:49 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you for your kind words Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho . This was the most thought out of my three entries.

Mar 17, 2023 07:08 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

Thank you Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist for co-hosting this wonderful challenge with Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP . I look forward to reading all the entries.

Mar 17, 2023 07:10 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm
Ward County Notary Services - Minot, ND
Owner of Ward Co Notary Services retired RE Broker

I have known people like that as well Marte Cliff . You have to wonder what made them so bitter. Regretfully social media is full of people attacking people left and right, spreading their venom to others.

Mar 17, 2023 07:13 PM
Marte Cliff

All we can do is just stay out of it. That's easy enough.

Mar 17, 2023 08:55 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Bob,

Love the title of your post and the message. Our kindness to others has been abandoned by many in the search to be right and force their ideas and doctrines on others. It all begins with us and its up to us not to fall prey and surround ourselves with like thinking individuals and not participate in the mud slinging that goes on.

Mar 18, 2023 05:26 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Bob. All journeys begin with the first step. Change begins with you. Enjoy your day.

Mar 18, 2023 05:32 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667,, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Gossip doesn't help anyone, being kind costs nothing (and is priceless) and words can definitely hurt.


Mar 18, 2023 05:42 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Bob - although I was frustrated to discover I couldn't change the world, I accepted that all goals are created equal.  Or are necessarily realistic. 

I continue to learn that I can adjust and adapt to the challenges that confront me in the world around me where I do have power.    I can do and be better than the day (or time) before.  In addition, I can be kinder to myself and to others.  There's much I can try (and achieve as well).  Each of us can.  

Mar 18, 2023 06:46 AM
Ed Silva
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Back in the days of the great wars, the slogan was loose lips will sing ships. With gossip, it can ruin a career for the way it can spread on the Net.

Mar 18, 2023 08:15 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Those tongues on fire can definitely be found in many real estate offices. More successful individuals are often the targets.

Let's continue to spread love and kindness every day.

Mar 18, 2023 11:20 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Bob loved the play on words way back before Diane had issues with spice most of my cooking would make you cry:) now days virtually all my food is without the hot stuff:) now when it comes to Real Estate there are many who should stop talking and start listening, Endre

Mar 18, 2023 10:26 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I have had an incident or two over time that I wish I could take back, saying something without thinking, or thinking it was going to be funny when it wasn't. As you say, it does stay with you as a reminder to not do it again.

Mar 20, 2023 12:55 PM