The Buying Of My First and Only House

Real Estate Broker/Owner with HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 311291

The Buying Of My First and Only House 

Kathy Streib and Carol Williams host this month's challenge. They want us to tell them about buying our first home. Some cannot remember their first home or choose to forget the experience; maybe it was purchased with a former spouse.

For me, this is a straightforward challenge because, believe it or not, I am still in that first home we purchased. 

My husband was content living comfortably in a spacious apartment with a  great balcony view of woods and a stream. I wanted to be a homeowner. My Lee challenged me and said he would consider it if I could find a house in a specific price range. He was sure there was no home we would agree on, especially at that price.

For years I went looking with and without a REALTOR®- Yes, that agent told me I was too picky and would never find a  suitable house. Those who know me will agree if you tell me I can't do something, stand back and watch.

So it was in 1976 when I found a  for sale by owner, a FSBO, just a couple of houses away from our best friends. The sellers placed a  flyer stating (to preserve the integrity of the neighborhood, we are giving our neighbors a chance to find us a buyer).

At the time, we were watching a Sunday football game. My friend and I decided to take a look and leave the guys at home.

We drove by the house, even though it was only a few houses away. We didn't realize it because the street curved around and changed names. I called and made an appointment. My first reaction to seeing the house, I loved it. It was the right house, a brick rancher with a two-car garage and so close to our friends.

I called and made an appointment and was greeted by the daughter-in-law and her new baby at the house. The homeowners, both physicians, were out of town.

As a former pediatric nurse, I had much to share with this brand-new mother and adorable infant. We "bonded,"  and she confided in me. I discovered the seller had already purchased a home out of state and needed the proceeds, or they would lose that property. '

I was able to convince Lee to take a look. After seeing the house, he was worried because he could not find anything significant to object.


 We made an offer, and it was accepted. After a few days, Lee said, 'What are you getting me into.?''  He was unsure, so I  called and canceled the contract.

A few days later, he asked if I thought we were making a mistake by NOT buying. I called the owners back and asked to see the house again. I made another offer, even lower than before. The sellers were not happy, but they agreed. Guess I knew about negotiation and closing early on.  

I've lived here for the past 47 years. The house has undergone many changes, and I still love this home.

When I go on a listing appointment, I share that I am in the same house and will not put myself through the stress you are about to undertake.

For me it is perfect!








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Margaret Rome
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Comments (38)

Steffy Hristova
HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 602.710.8161 - Tempe, AZ
Tempe AZ Realtor - Your Home Close to Your Work!

What a delightfully told story, Margaret! May you enjoy your home for many more years!

Apr 06, 2023 01:52 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Thank you, Steffy Hristova. That is my plan.

Apr 06, 2023 03:52 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

I love your story. First, your home is beautiful! Second, I can totally relate to the determination you had to find the "perfect" home even though people doubted it possible. The house I'm currently in is our fourth. When we were house hunting for this house, my husband didn't believe I would find what I wanted at the price we could afford. Just watch me! I did it and I love it.

Apr 06, 2023 04:03 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Sharon Tara, You knew what you wanted, and you were not stopping. Good for you.

Apr 07, 2023 11:09 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400  I remember the first home I bought, and the post has been sitting in draft mode for six days now:) as to how many times I moved in my life... not counting the mandatory switches at USMA just legitimate moves from one location to another .... four countries and a total of 26 different locations:))

Apr 06, 2023 04:10 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Endre Barath, Jr., 26 different locations. I cannot even imagine going through that. I look forward to reading your post.

Apr 07, 2023 11:10 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 ,

Wow! You knocked my socks off with your story! I love it! I am so glad that Lee trusted your judgement. From the sounds of things you found the perfect home and so glad you are still there. I have my first home in draft and will try and post. The house I'm in now I built with the love of my life in 1994 and I'm still here and always will be..I love our vibe and it still makes me so happy to wake up here and come home to the house we both loved!.

Apr 06, 2023 04:24 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

You sound like me. Dorie Dillard Austin TX We have known real love in our homes and feel happiness.

Apr 07, 2023 11:13 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

That's a great tale about your home, Margaret. I love how it all unfolded between you and Lee, and then with the sellers. It was meant to be, and very much still is! 

Wonderful entry for the challenge.


Apr 06, 2023 05:08 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Thanks, Jeff Dowler, CRS. I am looking forward to reading more entries in this contest.

Apr 07, 2023 11:14 AM
J.R. Schloemer, CRS
Kentucky Select Properties - Louisville, KY

Great story and I’m happy you got it right the first time.

Apr 06, 2023 11:48 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Me too, J.R. Schloemer, CRS 🙃

Apr 07, 2023 11:15 AM
Robert Rauf
CMG Home Loans - Toms River, NJ

Wow, almost 50yrs!!??  We are on our third home together, (hopefully the last) The one good thing about recently selling and buying is I have a great deal of empathy for my buyers now!!  

Apr 07, 2023 06:10 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Robert Rauf, I have great empathy for my clients without making a move! 🙃

Apr 07, 2023 11:16 AM
Ed (Edward) Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

A wonderful story and for the type of home, perfect. Buying a home with no stairs is a wise purchase especially as we get older.

Apr 07, 2023 06:52 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Ed Silva, I wish there were more similar homes so people could age in place.

Apr 07, 2023 11:18 AM
Lorrie Semler, REALTOR® in the Dallas area. Call/text 972-416-3417
Texas Pride Realty Group Brokered by HomeSmart Stars - Addison, TX
Real Service. Real Results. Real Estate

Thank you for sharing the story of how the house became your home. My grandfather bought a 3-flat back in the 40s. He and grandma lived on the second floor. My aunt and uncle were given the first floor. When my parents got married, grandpa built a 1-BR apartment in the attic space on the 3rd floor and they moved in. When I was born, my parents moved downstairs and and the grands moved upstairs.  My brother and I now own the whole house and my brother lives in it, renting out the first and third floor flats. He was left a life estate in the house, so the minute he moves out, it will be for sale.

Apr 07, 2023 06:55 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

I love hearing about your family home from the 40s. What wonderful history. Thanks for stopping by Lorrie Semler, REALTOR® in the Dallas area. Call/text 972-416-3417 

Apr 07, 2023 11:20 AM
Sam Shueh
(408) 425-1601 - San Jose, CA
mba, cdpe, reopro, pe

One story home with a private yard is the best way.  Was in Sunnyvale, CA for a 3/2/1590 sf on 5960sf asking price is $2.45 M.  Seller paid 1.18M in 2008. 

Apr 07, 2023 08:55 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Sam Shueh, Now that was a good investment.

Apr 07, 2023 11:21 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

What a wonderful story!  Your first and only house holds a lot of love!  Congratulations on this well deserved featured post!

Apr 07, 2023 10:00 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ Thank you.

I have loved this home throughout all the changes.

Apr 07, 2023 11:22 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Such a great story Margaret. How wonderful to feel that same "Home Sweet Home" feeling after all these years ~

Apr 07, 2023 12:46 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 

Good to see you, and I still have that home-sweet-home feeling.

Apr 07, 2023 05:56 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

How wonderful that you are still in this home today. That is so rare these days.

Apr 07, 2023 01:18 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Dr. Paula McDonald,  I haven't found another RE agent still in their first home. 

Apr 07, 2023 05:58 PM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

What a great story. You really lucked out and picked a winner… both house and spouse!

Apr 07, 2023 07:47 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089  Cute comment. You are correct! I picked the right house and the right spouse.

Apr 08, 2023 01:28 PM
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216, - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Yes, Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 You learned about negotiating very early and I know it helped you get into your Dream Home, as you are still living there after all these years. I can tell that you were very happy and excited about the choice you made to buy your first home. 

Apr 08, 2023 10:48 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Thanks, Jerry Newman, It is a pleasure to see you and read your comment.

Apr 08, 2023 01:30 PM
Anne Corbin
Long and Foster - Lake Anna - Spotsylvania, VA
Serving Lake Anna & Central Virginia

We are also on our third home having built the second and third house. My post is also in draft form Endre Barath, Jr.  Hopefully, I'll get it finished before the contest ends.

Apr 10, 2023 06:41 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Good morning Anne Corbin; I'm looking forward to reading your post about your first home. Thanks for stopping by.

Apr 10, 2023 08:07 AM