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Lessons from the road of life!

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Real Estate Agent with Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 PA License - AB067198

Our challenge this month is on life lessons, personal and business from Carol Williams and Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker.

On the personal front I have written many times about my life journey, and have mentioned in passing running the Philadelphia marathon. I had always wanted to run a marathon, honestly, I thought I wanted to run several, but one it turned out to be. I was celebrating a birthday and made the declaration that before my next birthday I would complete a marathon. 

I took almost a year to train, I am not the build of a runner, I am relatively tall, but stout, I played rugby and was a forward, where I could trundle around the field and contribute due to my weight and strength. But the running part was the hardest, but I also enjoyed getting out for a run and being in nature. it helped me to think and relax, let go of stress. I had determined I could run a basic 10 minute mile after all my training. So, I thought I would aim for being in the 12 minute mile section, however, I ended up in the 10 minute mile section and did fine, till mile 19. Then the dreaded wall hit. Everything locked up, I thought someone had inserted metal rods in my legs. I stumbled on, walking and jogging alternately, I cannot remember now if my legs ever loosened up over the rest of the course, but I know I finished and it was really hard to keep going. 

It was really an allegory of the story of my life, I had been very successful for a long time, taking over my father's business with my brother, then dividing and running my own. Moving to America to continue that success when I hit the wall there. I did not have an alternate plan when my English bank called my loan after encouraging me to make this move. I did not have enough history here to obtain a loan from any American bank and lost everything. I stumbled on, doing odd jobs, working as a sub-contractor with a contractor as my visa only allowed me to work for myself. These two events taught me, in the midst of deep depression that you have to keep going, however painful. You need to believe in yourself and keep trying, do not give up. If you do that you will find a route to the end and be successful.

 When I came into real estate, I believed in trying everything, some things worked, some things didn't. I believed in adjusting the sails as I was going along, always heading to my destination. I was recently asked in an office meeting what was my motivation, my why for working. After hearing all these top agents talking about earning millions of dollars I realized that is not my motivation, it is to help people and earn enough to allow me to travel and enjoy life. 

One of the first classes I took was to obtain my ABR designation and I learnt about "Agency". This made so much sense to me, it was like a keystone falling into place for the rest of the building to be built upon it. I believe that if I take care of my client first and foremost everything else will take care of itself. I still absolutely believe that, even as I adjust and make changes to the way I work.  Always putting my clients needs ahead of my own, and caring for them, making sure they are protected and understand the transaction and how it can affect them and be a positive, enjoyable time for them even in the midst of the stress of the transaction.

I am a great believer in stripping out of my life those things that do not improve it, be it personal or business especially drama. I enjoy people and nature, not necessarily in that order always but I want to leave this place a little better than before I arrived.

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Nick Vandekar
Nick is a Tredyffrin Easttown Residential and Commercial REALTOR selling The Main Line, Chester, Delaware and Montgomery Counties.

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Comments(35)

Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

What a wonderful post about your life journey, Nick. Some of this I already knew, but I loved how you wove your experiences into lessons learned.

Aug 02, 2023 05:25 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Excellent post for this month's challenge!  When things aren't working for you, you keep going until they do. Fantastic!

Aug 02, 2023 05:34 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

You have had quite the life journey and I have enjoyed following it and will continue to do so!

Aug 02, 2023 07:54 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Dorie Dillard Austin TX thank you so much for your encouraging and uplifting comment.

Kathy Schowe thanks for commenting.

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! we need the sideline cheerer onners, they are important. We have many here in the Rain.

Kathy Streib we challenged my son on his return from his second deployment to write a book, which he did. Maybe, when I am bored of PT or reading after my operation I will start.

Dr. Paula McDonald I think the marathon was the start of my knee problems, well maybe not the start, that was probably rugby. 13.1 miles is no slouch either, well done.

Aug 02, 2023 12:09 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Endre Barath, Jr. I was in the right place at the right time. I saw it and knew what I wanted to say.

Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573 thank you, that is what I am banking on.

Berni Kerr very true, I walk now rather than run, but being out in nature is a delight.

Lise Howe you must be reading more of my posts, I tend to write from a stream of consciousness and am pretty open, like a book as some people say.

Nina Hollander, Broker thank you, you do know my story pretty well.

Aug 02, 2023 12:13 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Kat Palmiotti I keep going, whilst adjusting my sails when needed.

Brian England thank you, there are many more miles to go and write about yet.

Aug 02, 2023 12:14 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Nick, Every day in the Rain, we discover something new about each other. Running a marathon; that's truly an impressive accomplishment. It's wonderful getting to know you better.

Aug 03, 2023 06:18 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 thank you, it was a big thing when I did it, now I think I am pleased I accomplished it.

Aug 03, 2023 08:53 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

So enjoy reading all these stories and how each of us approaches life a little differently.

Aug 03, 2023 10:20 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - Leaving the life you left behind in another country for great new beginnings has never been (nor should be) easy. I know this based on my daughter's life story living in another country. There are those that envy and seem jealous and then again there are those that cheer you on. But t he only person who really can pull themself up by the boot straps when the going gets rough with sore knees and all, is you. I understand how important it is to stay motivated and not disappoint anyone. You're a man with great destiny and you are doing it your way. In your own time. Your way. Many people, including myself admire and respect you. We all wish you well and success. 

CONGRATULATIONS ON BEING FEATURED FOR A VERY INSPIRING LIFE STORY. 

Aug 03, 2023 03:31 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Leanne Smith it is always fun to see another side of people we follow.

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP thank you for that lovely comment, it is much appreciated.

Aug 04, 2023 08:55 AM
Edward Gilmartin
CRE - Boston, MA

If you work hard for your clients the money will follow. 

Aug 05, 2023 03:21 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Edward Gilmartin that is very true.

Aug 05, 2023 06:04 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Thanks for sharing your journey! I particularly loved this: "my motivation... is to help people and earn enough to allow me to travel and enjoy life." The focus on others AND on yourself is inspirational. All the best - Lynn

Aug 06, 2023 08:22 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-939-2727 thank you.

Aug 07, 2023 12:51 PM
Chuck Willman
Chuck Willman - Alpine, UT
NewHouseUtah.com

I am enjoying reading these life challenge stories. The marathon- my goodness, that's quite the challenging one. Way to go with the first experience in America. I love that hard work paid off.

Aug 09, 2023 10:47 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Chuck Willman thanks for stopping by and commenting.

Aug 10, 2023 08:19 AM
Joseph Domino 480-390-6011
HomeSmart - Scottsdale, AZ
Real Estate Made Easy

Great story about the ups and downs of life. Glad you're back on the upswing.

Aug 10, 2023 03:20 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great entry for the contest!  I like your wording of changes in life, "adjust my sails."  That is the perfect analogy to how you shifted in life.  That must have been awful to arrive here and experience personal devastation in an entirely unexpected way.  But you succeeded!  KUDOS!

Aug 16, 2023 06:37 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Joseph Domino 480-390-6011 thank you.

Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ storms in life always need us to adjust our sails, those who don't end up getting wrecked by the storms as opposed to maybe just needing repairs.

Aug 17, 2023 08:07 AM