Wordless Wednesday…Identity and Identify

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Wordless Wednesday…Identity and Identify


There are many external factors pulling on all of us from the moment we enter this world. And, that’s not to mention the factors and characteristics we’re born with. 

It’s no wonder that our young people spend much of their high school and college years trying to figure out who they are. 


Add to that the recently introduced, confusing issue of pronouns. 


I had to chuckle when Larry and I saw this in a parking lot… 

To become what one is, one must not have the faintest idea what one is. Friedrich Nietzsche


To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
Ralph Waldo Emerson


To know who you are is the greatest power of all. 


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Comments (22)

Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

They really are setting the bar low for themselves, they should be identifying as a Tesla, haha.

Aug 02, 2023 05:36 AM
Brian England

Haha, I didn't realize you owned a Prius, but now that I know, you need to step your game up!

Aug 02, 2023 08:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Brian England as a Prius owner I take offense at that!!!!! LOL BTW I still love my Prius

Aug 02, 2023 08:03 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - words continue to be defined, redefined, interpreted and then reinterpreted.   Don't get me started on the many introductions of words and terms as I fear I am consistently falling behind.  Way behind.  

I admire author and public speaker Fran Lebowitz who I find witty as well as wise.  Although I can't immediately find her quote about the subject of pronouns, I will paraphrase it (with apologies for any inaccuracy) - why not learn the original reasons for pronouns.  

As for the photo - that's certainly a vehicle of expression, isn't it?  

Aug 02, 2023 05:37 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael Jacobs i agree . I’m not going to caught up in trying to figure out what pronoun to use. I feel comfortable about it because I’m using a pronoun I mean no harm. Trust me- if I did, they’d know it

Aug 02, 2023 08:06 AM
Kat Palmiotti
406-270-3667, kat@thehousekat.com, Broker/REALTOR® - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Good morning. I love the Nietzsche quote. We are told who we are when we're growing up in various ways. I think we don't really know for sure who we are, what we stand for, what we'll put up with, etc until we're adults.

I read a news article the other day where they were talking about a person whose pronouns are they/them. I was so confused reading it. It just didn't make grammatical sense in my head.

Aug 02, 2023 05:51 AM
Kathy Streib

Kat Palmiotti  I think that our 2nd Birthday is the day we come to grips with who we are!

A friend was on a zoom call a few years ago and as they introduced themselves, a young lady said her name and that she identified as female. My friend had no clue what was going on but said her name and then “I identify as a sane human” I had to laugh

Aug 02, 2023 08:57 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I guess we live in a world that we can just say what we are, and the rest of the world is supposed to accept that. DUMB

Aug 02, 2023 06:06 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty we have been experiencing the dumbing down of society for years

Aug 02, 2023 08:58 AM
Kristin Johnston - REALTOR®
RE/MAX Platinum - Waukesha, WI
Giving Back With Each Home Sold!

Great post!  Thanks for sharing and enjoy your day!

Aug 02, 2023 06:31 AM
Kathy Streib

Kristin Johnston - REALTOR® thank you!

Aug 02, 2023 08:58 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, It seems nowadays it seems there are those that don't always fully understand who they are, and what they stand for.

Aug 02, 2023 06:32 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400  or there are some who have become like sheep and will say what they are told to say. Very sad.

Aug 02, 2023 08:59 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathy. In today's world a little humor is necessary to maintain sanity. Enjoy your day.

Aug 02, 2023 06:46 AM
Kathy Streib

Wayne Martin if you didn’t have a sense of humor now, it would be hard to live through all of this

Aug 02, 2023 09:00 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

I think society has taken you can be anything you want to be too far!

Aug 02, 2023 07:12 AM
Kathy Streib

Carol Williams you’ll get no argument from me!!!!

Aug 02, 2023 09:01 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

My sense is the current push is not about identity but rather isolation for those who will not follow this current path.

Aug 02, 2023 07:53 AM
Kathy Streib

Leanne Smith it’s a way it dividing us, that’s for sure!!

Aug 02, 2023 09:02 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

I love this post, Kathy. This quote is powerful, "To know who you are is the greatest power of all."


Aug 02, 2023 08:13 AM
Kathy Streib

Dr. Paula McDonald thank you! When you accept who you are - it is like a blessing.

Aug 02, 2023 09:04 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Well this is a loaded subject these days BUT it's still quite simple and logical to moi!There seems to be a lot of 'lost' beings out there who are desperately trying to fit in somewhere or to some ideal they've learned about recently.  It's like another fad.  I do believe this will fade out as common sense becomes normal again.  Let's pray that happens soon.

Aug 02, 2023 09:52 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

I think so as well Kathy.  And they're being taught a lot of far out there ideas plus, add SM and all hell breaks out.  Whichh it has for many of these young folks.

Aug 02, 2023 02:09 PM
Kathy Streib

I agree Anna Banana Kruchten Phoenix Broker so much is from the breakdown of the family unit that in the past provided a sense of belonging as well as a strong character base. 

Aug 02, 2023 01:17 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy and confusing happens for not only kids but us also all the time.  I know I was confuse at a early age and with parents working all the time in the restaurant, I did not want anything to do with that.  Ended up being in that field for years.


Aug 02, 2023 12:14 PM
Kathy Streib

Will Hamm that happens to so many people. You were trying to be yourself!

Aug 02, 2023 01:38 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Long & Foster Real Estate Inc 610-225-7400 - Devon, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

That is hilarious, and I totally agree with those quotes.

Aug 02, 2023 12:30 PM
Kathy Streib

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 I couldn't pass it up after I saw it!!!!  I think your Camino walk is something many would benefit from. 

Aug 02, 2023 01:40 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Totally Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 Camino Walk would benefit many!  I just ran into a gal that so enjoyed that same walk!

Aug 02, 2023 02:10 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, our world has changed to be quite interesting, and saw that same tag on an 18-wheeler truck.

Aug 02, 2023 01:09 PM
Kathy Streib

Joan Cox isn't that hilarious!!!! Love that sense of humor. 

Aug 02, 2023 01:43 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy I am far removed from my high school and college years, and I still don't know what I want to be ...... LOL

Aug 02, 2023 04:03 PM
Kathy Streib

George Souto we're in a constant state of becoming who we are to be. 

Aug 05, 2023 05:59 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Finding out who we are is an individual journey of life experience and self-discovery, not one where people are pushing and prodding for their own benefit, whether financial or to get attention. It took me many, many years to get here and am in a happy place, Kathy!

Aug 02, 2023 06:19 PM
Kathy Streib

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! We have to have a talk with ourselves and be honest with what we want from life. 

Aug 05, 2023 06:01 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I've been studying Spanish for awhile.  In that language all nouns have gender.  It can get confusing sometimes.  Most nouns that end in an "a" are feminine; but not always.  Life is like that.  If I want to be successful learning Spanish, I'll need to adapt!🙃

Aug 02, 2023 08:09 PM
Kathy Streib

Myrl Jeffcoat Same way in German...der, die, das. I believe in adapting but some of this is getting to be a bit much. 

Aug 05, 2023 06:03 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy Streib  loved your post and the photos, now with that said it is sad that we are rewriting our vocabulary..... reminds me of when Bill Clinton was asked a question and his response was "what is the definition of 'the' " I just shook my head and here we are many years later we are questioning many words: he, she. it to name a few, Endre

Aug 02, 2023 10:45 PM
Kathy Streib

Endre Barath, Jr. It's all being used to deflect what the true problems are. We're so focused on calling someone by the pronoun they choose, we aren't thinking about the other real problems that exist. 

Aug 05, 2023 06:07 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

p.s.: when I learned  German there were definitions of he, she, it and was comfortably used in German.... wonder what they will have to do if it changes????Endre

Aug 02, 2023 10:47 PM
Kathy Streib

Endre Barath, Jr. I took German in high school and college. The hardest part for me was remembering der, die, das...masculine, feminine, neuter. 

Aug 05, 2023 06:08 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Haha Loved your comment I am sure Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Estate Specialist  would appreciate it...BTW I identify my self as an Airborne Ranger Infantry Captain from a previous time now a Beverly Hills Realtor:)Endre

Aug 05, 2023 09:24 PM