Motivational Monday…Focus On YOU and What You Can Do

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Motivational Monday…Focus On YOU and What You Can Do


The game many were watching this weekend was an excellent example of how trash-talking only highlights your own weaknesses.


The week leading up to the game, the opposing coach (Coach N)  made a negative comment about the other coach's (Coach P) attire. 

It wasn’t football-related or necessary. The game ended up going into double overtime. The winner?  Coach P and his team. 


Focusing on putting your competitor down never works in the long run. You may have a moment of feeling good about yourself but what it does is show others that YOU are the one lacking something…usually character or confidence. 


And if you are building a team or leading a company, this attitude trickles down all levels.

Coach N’s team had 17 penalties which cost them 182 yards. Some of those penalties were for personal fouls. 



So how did Coach P. respond? He said he was minding his own business and offered this biblical verse

Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.   Matthews 12:34  *meaning?


What does this have to do with anything?

 Whether in business, politics, or your personal life…if you have to put someone else down to feel good about what you’re doing or yourself, you’ve already lost the battle. 


Focus on what you do and will do to help someone. Show them what you offer rather than what your competitor lacks. 



If you feel that you can’t win without putting your competitor down…look in your mirror to find your real problem.

Insecure people put others down to
raise themselves up.

Habeeb Akande


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Comments (22)

Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Los Angeles Pasadena 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - regardless of where one plays on the field of life - "someone" is likely watching.  No additional commentary is necessary.  That doesn't stop some.  

And yes, I look into that mirror.  It is my belief such reflection is necessary even when the image seen is not as clear as thought.    

Sep 18, 2023 05:17 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael Jacobs I think that we often get so busy with our daily lives, we forget to stop and look at ourselves. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:10 AM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em:

Being a boss or Leader is so important to set the right attitude at the top.  Thanks for sharing and enjoy your week! 

Bill Salvatore, Realtor- Arizona Elite Properties


Sep 18, 2023 05:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Bill Salvatore - East Valley it's been my observation that a company or team gets its "attitude" from the top!

Sep 18, 2023 11:11 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Plain and simple, coach P is getting the job done, haha.  The team has a tough couple of games coming up so we will see how that goes.

Sep 18, 2023 05:28 AM
Kathy Streib

Brian England it's a shame that Travis Hunter will be out for at least 2 games because of the hit he took. He played offense and defense. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:13 AM
Brian England

That certainly hurts their chances Kathy Streib since it is likely their best player.  Will Hamm needs to cook him up something that will heal him quicker!

Sep 18, 2023 01:17 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Kathy... I totally agree... when you need to put down someone else to feel better about yourself, you've lost that battle. Just treat everyone with respect.

Sep 18, 2023 06:31 AM
Kathy Streib

Nina Hollander, Broker I agree. It's something I really don't like about campaign season. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:14 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Kathy Streib hi Kathy... we need to make laws to limit the national campaign seasons and limit the amount of money that can be spent.

Sep 18, 2023 12:23 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Your title really says it all Kathy..."Focus on you and what you can do"!

Sep 18, 2023 06:56 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 often I want to ask "So what is it you can do???" 

Sep 18, 2023 11:15 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I do see too much focus on what we have no control over. Focus on what we can do to make life better!

Sep 18, 2023 07:26 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty We can't control what others do but we do have control over our own actions...which can influence how others act. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:16 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
Relocation to NW AZ with elbow room & more freedom

What a great example of being positive and kind. Yet, unfortunately, the reality is our culture has turned into one of blame the other person, community or the country for what ails them. 

Sep 18, 2023 08:46 AM
Kathy Streib

Leanne Smith I couldn't agree more. People are quick to blame someone or something else when often the problem lies with the person. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:18 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Kathy,

I look at everything from the lens of Karma and The Golden Rule. Happy Monday!

Sep 18, 2023 10:23 AM
Kathy Streib

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® those are the kinds of "glasses" we could all use. What goes around does come around...Throw bad stuff out there and it does come back. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:19 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Kathy,

Sure was the "talk" over the week-end! Some just can't help themselves by running their mouth not even thinking about the consequences! How about our Long horns! 🏈

Sep 18, 2023 10:24 AM
Kathy Streib

Dorie Dillard Austin TX I'm excited for them!!!  I wish we got the Longhorn Channel so we could watch them all of the time. Saturday was a late night because KU didn't start until 9:30 and we also stayed up watching CO. 

Sep 18, 2023 11:21 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy that was a much tighter game than I thought it would be, and Colorado showed a lot of poise, and that they are for real.

Sep 18, 2023 11:43 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

You've done it again my friend. You have made motivational monday one of the highlights of my week and this post is worth $1,000,000 to someone 🙂

Sep 18, 2023 11:48 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is good advice to share. Have a great day and an outstanding week.

Sep 18, 2023 12:45 PM
Ray Henson
eXp Realty of California, Inc. (lic. #01878277) - Elk Grove, CA

I have played sports my whole life and one major lesson that I have learned over time is to NEVER give your opponent any extra motivation.  I always try to be positive and I always try to be complimentary of even my most ardent opponents. 

Sep 18, 2023 03:45 PM
Fred Sweezer Sr. CMI, LLC.
Hud Certified 203K Consultant - Long Beach, CA
HUD 203k Consultant

Thanks for the reality post.

Sep 18, 2023 07:40 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I agree with you about it not being the best idea to put a competitor down.  Just focus on what you can do, as you say.

Sep 18, 2023 08:17 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Kathy, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Sep 18, 2023 08:20 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Kathy this says it all...

Insecure people put others down to
raise themselves up.

Habeeb Akande


Sep 18, 2023 09:04 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy Streib  I loved your post and needless to say Anna "Banana" Kruchten  highlighted to powerful message... on a side note I never hear of Habeeb Kande, Endre

Sep 18, 2023 10:22 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

I hadn't either Endre Barath, Jr. but it sure is a powerful statement.

Sep 19, 2023 10:35 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

I watched the Boston College game this weekend and BC had even more penalties for personal fouls than Colorado did - I do not understand these kids 

Sep 19, 2023 05:39 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

I love this quote, so true!

Insecure people put others down to
raise themselves up.

Habeeb Akande

Sep 21, 2023 08:45 AM