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Friday is WHY Day - Why Do People Stress?

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Real Estate Agent with DFW FINE PROPERTIES 0506509

Moving causes many people to stress. First of all, you're not alone. Stress is a natural physiological response to a demand. As a REALTOR®, I meet many clients (buyers and sellers) who have many reasons for moving and sometimes moving is harder than it sounds depending on what issues you are going through at the time. Everyone responds to stress differently and the causes for stress are numerous. No two buyers or sellers are in the process of moving for the same reasons. 


Why do people move?

  • Marital/Relationship Status
  • Job Change/Loss
  • Children/Teenagers/Education/Bullying
  • Nosy Neighbors
  • School Districts
  • Location/Changes
  • Health Issues
  • Death/Dying/Dealing With Loss
  • Environmental Changes
  • Rental Reasons
  • Affordability Issues
  • Physical/Emotional/Mental/Financial Reasons

Why does moving have to be so hard?

  • Unexpected Disruptions
  • Sorting Through Stuff Triggers Memories
  • Increased Heart Rate and Blood Pressure
  • Money Problems
  • Not Having Boxes, Packing Tape, Bubble Wrap, Markers
  • Not having Help
  • Not Finding Stuff You Need When You Need It
  • Physical Tensions, Stiffness in Joints, Pain in Knees & Muscles
  • Moving Stuff from One Room to Another - Not Accomplishing Anything
  • Landlord Puts Pressure on Renters
  • Employers Put Pressure on Employees
  • Spouses Put Pressures on Each Other
  • Kids Put Pressures on Parents
  • People Put Pressure on Themselves
  • Low Inventory
  • Houses Cost Too Much/Taxes Too High 
  • Don't Know Where to Go
  • Cost to Buy or Rent
  • Transportation/Moving Trucks
  • Deciding What to Donate, Throw Away, Keep
  • Kids Have Their Own Needs & It Doesn't Include Moving
  • School & Extracurricular Commitments
  • Long, Demanding Business Meetings
  • Pets (Old Pets, Puppies, Running Away Pets, Tripping over Pets, Sick Pets)
  • It's Depressing To See How Much Stuff You Have
  • You Need Help and There Is No Help or You Don't Want Help
  • Dealing With the Unknown
  • Family Members, Kids, or Neighbors Don't Want You To Move
  • Realizing You May Not Get What You Want


What are some options & helpful hints?

  • Make Realistic Goals
  • Live Within Your Means
  • Find The Right Professionals To Help You
  • Make Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C - Repeat if necessary or Start Over
  • Breathe Deeply
  • Never Go To Bed Mad or Angry
  • Honor & Acknowledge Your Losses & Responsibilities
  • Eat Healthy
  • Exercise
  • Get Proper Sleep
  • Know Your Limitations
  • Recognize What You Did Before May Not Be What You Can Do Today
  • Avoid Making Serious Health Issues Worse
  • Have A Running Away Money Jar, Plan, or Means to Break Free Temporarily
  • Plan For Best and Worst Case Scenarios - Make a Decision
  • Talk to Your Financial Advisor or Lender
  • Know Your Options
  • Turn Off the Internet and Television and News Media
  • Get Organized and Stay Organized
  • Explore Delivery Services and Transportation Options
  • Know Who Is Reliable And Who You Can Call
  • Swallow Your Pride and Ask For Help When You Need Help
  • Know Not Everyone You Thought Could Help Can and Will Help
  • Have Back-Up Plans
  • Focus on Your Needs & Learn to Let Go


Books You May Find Helpful

  1. "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, by Maria Kondo.

  2. Mayo Clinic Books Include:
    • Guide to Stress Free Living
    • Strategies to Reduce Burnout
    • Stress Management Workbook
    • The Resilient Life Manage Stress
    • Overcoming Stress

  3. Moving Checklist by Martha Stewart

 

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PATRICIA FEAGER, REALTOR®
DFW FINE PROPERTIES
3575 LONE STAR CIRCLE SUITE 315
FORT WORTH, TEXAS 76177

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"With self-discipline most anything is possible." --- Theodore Roosevelt 

 

 

 

  

Comments(28)

George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia I learned a long time ago that stressing about anything only makes whatever it is worst.  I have learned to put it in God's hand, and listen to where he leads me.

Oct 06, 2023 06:43 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Loved this post Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP  the questions are great and the answers are easy too, Endre

Oct 06, 2023 10:32 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Endre Barath, Jr. - Thank you! I am glad for your answer!!!

Oct 07, 2023 06:05 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

George Souto - as a Lender, I'm sure you understand the stresses buyers go through when applying for a loan. REALTORS® hear a lot about what stresses their clients out and like Kathy Schowe stated, sometimes an Agent just becomes the helper and problem solver. When they are stressed, we put our best foot forward and pitch in to alleviate their stresses. 

Oct 07, 2023 06:08 AM
Brenda J. Andrew
ULTIMA REAL ESTATE - Willis, TX
Professional Realtor in N Houston & Corpus Christi

Good morning Patricia.  I had to search for this article, because I picked you to get my last 25 points to get to 500,000.  I am so glad I found this article. You are such a wealth of knowledge in so many ways.  We moved last year and you have highlighted so many things I have been through over the past 12+ months such as reasons for moving, not being able to find things, starting over, etc.  It has been a great move though and I am so thankful for the time I am getting with family.  Thanks for blessing our community with all you have to give!  Have a blessed and beautiful weekend!

Oct 07, 2023 07:16 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Patricia,

Moving is stressful and as agents we can help our clients avoid these meltdowns. Kathy Streib just created a series of moving tips that alleviate all the anxiety by being prepared! Forming a similar list to give clients would help them and us to help overcoming problems by knowing what to expect!

Oct 07, 2023 07:21 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Dorie Dillard Austin TX - I am unaware of the series Kathy Streib started. This post had nothing to do with her series. My reasoning is because of personal experiences I had and nothing to do with Kathy Streib. 

Oct 07, 2023 07:26 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

There are always so many things to stress about in life, but it doesn't do us any good and actually causes us harm.  We should definitely let go and let God handle all of the stress for us!

Oct 07, 2023 07:51 AM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

I don't think packing and moving is at the top of anyone's list of favorite activities! 

Oct 07, 2023 07:05 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089- Brilliant answer!!! You win for the most interesting and BEST answer!!!!

Oct 07, 2023 07:08 PM
Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089
Hawai'i Life Real Estate Brokers - Haiku, HI
Maui Real Estate sales and lifestyle info

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP lol, you're funny!

Oct 07, 2023 07:11 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Brenda J. Andrew - CONGRATULATIONS on achieving your last 25 points to get to the 500,000 points!!! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!

Brenda, you have been a member on ActiveRain for a very long time and I am thrilled to know I was able to help push you over the 500,000 mile marker. You're such a great and wonderful contributor to ActiveRain. I know I am nobody special on AR but if I had the POWER, I would call out the FEATURE FAIRIES, the AMBASSADORS, and all the members on ActiveRain and throw you a PARTY! We would have cake, champagne, ballooons, horns, and confetti too!

The past 12 months must have been very challenging for you. But now that all that stress is behind you and you're back with your family, all your efforts were worth it! May you and your family be blessed in abundance with a great Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year, and all the other important reasons for celebrations in your life.

I wish you a very happy life!!! 

 

Oct 07, 2023 07:20 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Georgie Hunter R(S) 58089 - Believe it or not, I was hoping to get a positive and meaningful comment and you and Brenda J. Andrew delivered!!!

Alleluia! Alleluia! Alleluia!

Oct 07, 2023 07:35 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh, I love this post, Patricia and you are SO right - moving is one of the most stressful things we live through. Your clients are so fortunate to have you helping them through this incredibly stressful time - and hopefully easing that somewhat too. Your helpful hints are spot-on and I love your book recommendations too.  

Oct 08, 2023 08:15 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debe Maxwell, CRS - Thank you for understanding that stress gets in the way of achieving accomplishments. There are many things that happen, outside of our control. During my last two closings, my sellers both had justifiable reasons to stress. Both called on me throughout the day, daily for help. As the pendalum swung, I was experiencing my own stress because I was rear-ended twice (once for each client) while I was out driving to help them get their needs met. I learned that even an agent has to suck it up and not dwell on their own misfortunes but continue to stay on track, keeping their clients and themselves calm.

Thankfully, both sales closed on time successfully. Sometimes, the littlest things, like being organized and having the supplies you need before you put your house on the market and start packing can help a great deal. Otherwise, when you're packing up and you don't have what you need when you're on a mission to move, can feel like you're drowning in a tsunami. 

This is where staying organized, even when you aren't ready to sell can make a significant difference. To my knowledge, I don't know of a single real estate agent that has a storage warehouse full of supplies on hand to pass out to clients for free like boxes, cutting knives, packing materials, tape, and dollies, but these often become challenges to the homeowner or renter when they are focused on the cost to move and/or seller's net, and stressed about Open Houses and Showings.

Whether one is ready to sell or not, here are some additional tips to keep one as stressfree as possible.

1) Moving or not, check your possessions and inventory for any potential reason to move or evacuate at any time.

2) Identify what's really needed and don't make a habit of hiding things in closets, garages, attics, or cabinet drawers. Out of sight and out of mind catches up quickly and becomes mountains of unnecessary worries later on.

3) Always store important documents is a safe place where you can retrieve what you need at any point in time. Also, keep documents current and up-to-date.

I do hope  lists, like the one I created, or moving tips and articles can help others.

Thank you, 

 

Oct 08, 2023 09:37 PM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

Such a wonderful well-thought-out post. I really liked the helpful options and hints. My favorite was turn off the TV, Internet and News Media especially the latter!!

You always have such a zest for living and helping and having a good time!!

Thank you Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP 

Oct 09, 2023 12:31 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Debra Leisek - I always get happy whenever I hear from you! Thank  you for letting me know you "really liked the helpful options and hints," I provided. Including your favorite one too!

Your comments really touched my heart. You are proof positive, one can have a virtual friend who is just as important as the ones you meet in person. I wish you joy good health, and happiness always!!!

Oct 09, 2023 01:04 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh my, moving/selling a home/buying a home can indeed be stressful if allowed to be (and for all sorts of reasons). You have listed great ideas on how to make it less stressful. I would also add "view it as a grand adventure!"

Oct 09, 2023 05:18 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Stress is often because people focus on what they cannot control. Yes moving can potentially be stressful. However with proper planning which is in the control of those moving, can reduce considerable stress.

Oct 09, 2023 06:14 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Kat Palmiotti - moving certainly can be perceived as a "grand adventure." Unless you're a military family and move frequently, it can be stressful if unprepared or the move wasn't your choice. But then again, there are many steps in the process. Staying organized and picking up good habits to live by, can make it a lot eaiser. 

Thanks for your comment!

Oct 09, 2023 06:44 AM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Leanne Smith - thanks for your comment. Having place for stuff that is necessary and knowing where to find it, pack it, and get rid of unnecessary stuff can surely make life easier. Moving doesn't have to turn into turmoil when you live a prepared life.

I appreciate your comment. 

Oct 09, 2023 06:48 AM