I Don't Remember Each Moment. . .

By
Industry Observer CalDRE #01165532

 

I Don’t Remember Each Moment. 

However, I Recall Lots of Memories

November 2023 Gratitude Post



Looking at old photos can be interesting. They can capture many sorts of things.

 

 

Yes, moments matter.   So do many kinds of memories.  Sometimes they seem to combine and connect as well as intersect in many sorts of interesting ways. And because our recollections can be fuzzy, they can collide with reality at times. Things can be left unexplained or unexplored. Visiting photographs as well as other memorabilia from our personal archives can prompt pondering

and reflection.

 

 

I am grateful that a few years ago, my mother "gifted" each of us photos and other childhood mementoes long stored in the family home. There is a photograph of me appearing to gnaw on a football as well as more than a few attempts at great feats in early day movement around and about. Yes, each child may not have the same volume of Kodak-like moments, but memories are collected differently. Well, as the eldest, that's my version of the story.

 

This look back in history is another reminder that young parents saw abundant picture-taking opportunities of their first-born.

 

Sure, I assumed another decluttering project was underway as my mom likes to keep things in order. And that includes "stuff" of all sorts. Well, mostly. Resourceful kids know how to explore and discover.

 

It is also a reminder that clutter is not our friend but it can be a companion. Keep that in mind.

 

Life is all memory,

except for the one present moment

that goes by you so quickly you hardly catch it. 

Attributed to Tennessee Williams

 

And for now, I am still pondering. Wondering and wandering too. Questioning continues. Gratitude as well.

 

I apologize for not sharing photos. My scanning ability is akin to my knowledge of technology. The image in this post is from canstockphoto.com.

 

Posted by

Michael Jacobs

 

CalBRE # 01165532

P. O. Box 587

Pasadena, CA 91102

Call/Text:  818.516.4393

mtj916@gmail.com

 

 

Comments (43)

Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Michael Jacobs  My sister also recently sent me some old photos I enjoy them and have put them in an album. I appreciate your statement that clutter is not our friend!  I keep telling him he is not welcome, but he keeps sneaking back in."

Nov 26, 2023 10:49 AM
Michael Jacobs

Hannah - clutter can be persistent. 

Nov 26, 2023 05:56 PM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

I love old photographs! I always look through my parents' albums when I visit and we share laughter, and sometimes tears, doing so. I have a box full of my childhood pictures, and often regret not having the same for my children. It's a plan that keeps getting pushed to the back as other things always take priority, but maybe when they get married, I'll compile some snapshots and (my) favorite memories of their childhoods.  

Nov 26, 2023 02:46 PM
Michael Jacobs

Andrea - when life and priorities combine, they can collide.  Detours can occur too.  It seems to be a part of the journey. 

Nov 26, 2023 05:59 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Your camera picture reminds me of a small collection that was given to me years ago, by who, I am no longer sure, Michael! I enjoy looking at photos from the past, especially those of my children and the pure joy captured on their little faces. Though some memories fade, these are forever captured and stored in the digital world to become my memory as I age.

Nov 26, 2023 04:58 PM
Michael Jacobs

Wanda - I imagine seeing the photos of your children provide a different view of perspective.  "Where" they were at that moment as well as where you recall it as well.

Nov 26, 2023 06:05 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

The best parts of my life have been spent with my husband, children and grands, Michael. 

Dec 07, 2023 09:35 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh stacks and books of old photos was the original rabbit hole for me, Michael! I get SO lost in those old photos! 

Like you, my mother made me a book of photos, from birth to teens and gave it to me when I graduated high school. I still have that album and love going through it periodically. Funny that you mentioned that you were the older one - so was I!  My mother had SO many more photos of my brother than me (he is 8 years younger than me)! For me, I took WAY more photos of my oldest son than my youngest! I think it's about time we have at that point in our lives.

And, I love how you describe your Mom 'gifting' you photos! I did the same thing recently with my boys - I'm in PURGE mode! LOL

Nov 26, 2023 05:18 PM
Michael Jacobs

Debe - my mom has a history of purging of stuff.  As usual, our Thanksgiving Day meal was cleared from the dining room table efficiently.   Although, I was able to have seconds.  HaHa.

Nov 26, 2023 06:11 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Michael:

Family photos are such a treasure trove of memories, and we all have them. Dealing with the photos is quite another matter, especially when it's not clear what they are. But it's fun to think back when viewing them.

Jeff

Nov 26, 2023 07:58 PM
Michael Jacobs

Jeff - I remain impressed by those who can masterfully manage photos. Admittedly, that's another description doesn't fit me.

Nov 27, 2023 01:06 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

A very traumatic memory for me...finding an old photo album in my parents' closet that had the sticky corners in place where the photos had been and the descriptions of what each photo had been written just under where the photos had been. NO PHOTOS.

"Sharon age 3 at beach"

"kids in snow"

"Sharon Christmas morn"

No PHOTOS.

When I asked my mom where all the pics were she replied "oh you kids got to them".

So why on earth did she save an empty album????? 

It has been my mission to leave a photographic history of memories for my children and now my grandchildren since that disturbing day so many years ago. LOL

Nov 27, 2023 08:58 AM
Michael Jacobs

Sharon - more inside info on the Photoshop Princess Diaries.  And the chapters keep coming. 

Nov 27, 2023 01:09 PM
Jerry Newman
Brown Realty, 210-789-4216, - San Antonio, TX
Texas REALTOR, San Antonio Military Relocation

Hi Michael, Old photos certainly bring back lost memories, and wonderful moments in our lives. I wished I could find many of those old photos that my parents took in our younger years. 

Nov 27, 2023 11:35 AM
Michael Jacobs

Jerry - the photos can certainly prompt memories.  That said, even remembrances can differ from those who were there in any photograph. 

Nov 27, 2023 01:13 PM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty LLC
eXp Realty LLC Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Michael, your post beautifully connects the concept of memories to the essence of homes and living spaces. Each photograph, like every home, tells a story and holds a myriad of memories. It's a poignant reminder for those of us in real estate to appreciate the deeper value of the spaces we help people find. 🏡🖼️ #RealEstateEmotions #MemoryLane

 

Nov 27, 2023 08:08 PM
Michael Jacobs

Charles--thank you for your thoughtful comment.  I recently read something about home versus house.  They can be interchangeable for some yet quite unique for others. 

Nov 28, 2023 10:18 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Tuesday morning, Michael.

I hope all is going well for you.

Enjoy the holiday season.

Nov 28, 2023 07:30 AM
Michael Jacobs

Roy - Happy Giving Tuesday.  Each day presents an opportunity to celebrate. 

Nov 28, 2023 10:20 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Michael Jacobs ,

Again, you've written a special post.

And I especially agree :

"Visiting photographs as well as other memorabilia from our personal archives can prompt pondering

and reflection.''

Nov 28, 2023 11:26 PM
Michael Jacobs

Margaret---I admit the possibilities of pondering can be found anywhere and everywhere. 

Nov 29, 2023 08:07 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Michael, it is more difficult when both of your parents pass, and those memories are almost forgotten.

Nov 30, 2023 10:45 AM
Michael Jacobs

Joan:  many sorts of family dynamics can add their sense of confusion to situations and circumstances. 

Nov 30, 2023 02:11 PM
Andrew Mooers | 207.532.6573
MOOERS REALTY - Houlton, ME
Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker

(Click) You nailed it, spelled it out in black and white. Maybe a few shades of gray. Oldest child with the most photographic milestones... it happens and then the parents plane out. My oldest brother told me the first child is a throw away or trial version of parenting. He also would tell me he had different parents than me.. acknowledging they were actually the same Mom and Dad but somehow just in a trial mode and newbees Michael Jacobs .

Dec 01, 2023 03:17 AM
Michael Jacobs

Andrew- I like the way your brother explained firstborn syndrome.   I have seen and experienced similar.  :)

Dec 01, 2023 03:25 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Well said and well remembered michael. Memories from the past are truly a blessing.

Dec 01, 2023 07:27 PM
Michael Jacobs

Jeff - whether they are a blessing or something else, they can become a part of us in some way.

Dec 02, 2023 02:27 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Saturday morning, Michael.

Have an outstanding weekend.

Dec 02, 2023 07:09 AM
Michael Jacobs

Roy - Happy Saturday to you as well.  A quick walk this morning reconfirmed that it is getting colder.  Of course, I realize it's all relative.   Enjoy your Montgomery County weekend. 

Dec 02, 2023 07:28 AM
Thomas J. Nelson, REALTOR ® e-Pro CRS RCS-D Vets
Big Block Realty 858.232.8722 - La Jolla, CA
CEO of Vision Drive Realty - Coastal San Diego

I really loved reading this post Michael Jacobs! Well done.
"Yes, moments matter." (Oh yes they do indeed!)

Life is all memory,

except for the one present moment

that goes by you so quickly you hardly catch it. 

Attributed to Tennessee Williams

Dec 03, 2023 07:05 AM
Michael Jacobs

Thomas - I appreciate your comments.   Kindness and moments continue to matter.

Dec 03, 2023 07:33 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Monday morning, Michael. We have our first snow day of the season in Maryland.

Have a great day and an outstanding week.

Dec 11, 2023 10:07 AM
Michael Jacobs

Hello Roy - our temps today are pleasant with snowfall in the mountains a prediction that may arrive before winter officially arrives.  It's unlikely I will see it except in the distance.  That's fine with me.   

Dec 11, 2023 03:47 PM
Charita Cadenhead
eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

Micheal one of my favorite gifts that I've ever received was a photo album.  That was back in the 80's.  When I first received I didn't appreciate.  But once I started pulling out photos, I was grateful for such a thoughtful gift.  Since that time I have received more photo albums and I still have more photos to put in them.  In this digital age, as strange as it seems, I print those photos as well.  While most of them will not mean anything to others, the photos mean a lot to me.  I'm like your Mom, I don't like clutter either, but I have yet to be able to part with photos.  Hold on to those memories. Some day, those memories may be all that we have.

Dec 13, 2023 03:59 PM
Michael Jacobs

Hello Charita - your comment brings to mind parting is such sweet sorrow.  Clutter and memories are the stuff of our lives.  Managing it is definitely difficult. 

Dec 13, 2023 05:17 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Hello Michael Jacobs - I've been going through things, donating, and throwing away. This project had me going through boxes of photos in my garage.  The moment I saw the photo it took me back to the event or the experience that I had otherwise forgotten about.  Clutter is not our friend ... I like that!

No doubt you are pondering, questioning, wondering, and wondering a lot after going through old family photos. 

Dec 14, 2023 06:56 PM
Michael Jacobs

Hello Kathleen---clutter of all kinds continues to compound confusion.

Dec 15, 2023 04:33 AM
Gloria Todor
Premier Property Sales & Rentals - Springfield, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Michael, Nice that you mother was orderly with mementos for all of you.  You mentioned the oldest often gets the most.  I being the youngest of 7 had a baby album with nothing entered.  So it goes, but my early memories can fill many books.

Merry Christmas to you.

 

Dec 23, 2023 05:17 PM
Michael Jacobs

Hello Gloria  - although I have heard similar stories from others, I wonder if there have been any studies.  Interesting. 

Dec 23, 2023 05:29 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Memories are frequently different than reality.  Sometimes my husband tells me something that is completely different than my memory of the same event.  I tell him he is certain in his memory but not in reality! 

Jan 05, 2024 05:48 AM
Michael Jacobs

Lise Howe - interpretation and memory seem to collide with reality at times.  

Jan 05, 2024 06:10 AM