Thanks Dad - some lessons realized late

Real Estate Agent with Wayne M Martin

This is the third entry into the November challenge hosted by Debe Maxwell, CRS about our gratitude.

My Dad was not a formally educated man in any sense of the word. He was dedicated to his family, his siblings and his friends. Literally nothing he would not do for people even if he had to sacrifice himself. He was a fair man who measured a man by his ability to perform his job, period! He made no other judgement of people and made friends easily.

At the outbreak of WWII he volunteered for service but was turned down because of varicose veins on his calfs. As a result he was able to continue working in the auto body repair business. It was hard times to obtain parts because car factories were producing war time equipment. He was asked to repair a two door ford coupe and could not get parts, so he got a used 4 door total loss from a junk yard and and used the back half to give the car back as a four door. In his mind, it was war time and the man needed his car. The guy liked it, or that was what I was told some years later. 

He never took the keys out of the ignition. Everyone in the neighborhood could use it after 6 at night and before 5 in the morning or even at other times if they asked. When I was old enough I asked why? Simple, he said, I am not using it so it is available. Times were different and theft was never an issue.

He often loaned his tools and most times never got them back. He bought new ones. If they need them that badly his conclusion is they were a gift. Always help others when you can. That was a lesson that developed in me as a sales manager, helping others build a career. Never really thought about why until this challenge brought up some old memories of the wisdom imparted by my Dad. Have missed him for over 50 years and still do daily.

So Thanks for the memories via your challenge, Debe Maxwell, CRS

Comments (41)

Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Lise Howe - my Dad would have trouble living in today's society. He never locked the garage and people took tools all the time. Luckily, many returned them. The big thing my Dad would have trouble with is the lack of work ethic and feeling of entitlement the younger generations have.

Nov 18, 2023 07:12 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Nina Hollander, Broker - I was 20 when my Dad passed and still too young to fully grasp his life lessons. Luckily, I recalled them later in life and am still applying them.

Nov 18, 2023 07:14 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Wayne Martin hi Wayne... I think when we are younger we don't fully grasp the impact our parents have on us. I also didn't fully grasp that impact until my 50's after my mother had died.

Nov 18, 2023 12:33 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

John Juarez -  Unfortunately I did not apply them at a much younger age. Some things take time to sink in and make sense.

Nov 18, 2023 07:20 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Wayne:

I really enjoyed your post. Your Dad really was a special person and this was a beautiful tribute and memory.


Nov 18, 2023 02:08 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Nov 18, 2023 06:51 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Wayne Martin - The stories and lessons you shared about your dad partially resonated with me and my spouse. We got married right after he was honorably discharged from the Army and he couldn't get work. He started fixing cars for anyone who needed help. We would be driving somewhere and if he saw a driver was on the side of the road, he would pull over and help them get their car started. If they offered money, he would say no. He also did body work, and spent lots of time under cars or bending over the engines. Most of all he spent most of his time at the junkyards picking up auto parts. 

You know Wayne, people aren't like that anymore. Although I question whether or not some people have a heart and soul, I am also thankful for people like your dad who taught by example. He truly had a good heart and soul. Thank you for sharing these stories about your father. I used to be an avid reader of Reader's Digest. My favorite stories were in the section called "Life Here In the United States," or something like that. 

What your dad did for others in need, and the reason why he left the keys in the ignition really touched my soul. Stories like what you shared make me realize, It's A Wonderful Life! Your dad trusted people and probably never had to worry much. Your father really was "The salt of the earth" (Matthew 5:13).

Nov 19, 2023 04:22 AM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty LLC
eXp Realty LLC Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Hello Wayne Martin! Your heartfelt tribute in "Thanks Dad - some lessons realized late" is a beautiful reflection on the lasting impact of a parent's wisdom and kindness. Your dad's selflessness and generosity are truly inspiring. It's clear that his spirit lives on in your approach to life and work. Keep cherishing those invaluable lessons and memories, and may his legacy continue to guide and uplift you every day. #GratefulHeart #LegacyOfLove ❤️🌟

Nov 19, 2023 05:30 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

The lessons we learn from our grandparents and those who were part of the "greatest generation" are invaluable and so sad today's younger folks have not had that opportunity. I as you do miss my father on a daily basis though he has been gone for 23 years.

Nov 19, 2023 05:53 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Jeff Dowler, CRS - my Dad was indeed one of a kind. He was a hard worker who enjoyed spreading the benefits of his efforts. Hard to grasp when you are young.

Nov 19, 2023 05:58 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP - my dad took more joy out of what he provided than the person he provided for. Hard to understand when you are 20 but it makes more sense over the years as you have the opportunity to do the same.

Nov 19, 2023 06:02 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Charles Ross - eXp Realty LLC - when you are young it is hard to grasp the "why" in the kindness of others at their expense. As the years go by and you gain life experience, it comes into clearer focus.

Nov 19, 2023 06:05 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Leanne Smith - 2 years, 23 years or 53 years, the pain of the loss never goes away. The pain is easier as you come to a place where you understand the way they lived their life and why.

Nov 19, 2023 06:07 AM
Leanne Smith

Truth and yes the pain is easier but still present.

Nov 19, 2023 06:12 AM
Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS
Fathom Realty Washington LLC - Tacoma, WA
South Puget Sound Washington Agent/Broker!

My father passed away long before I had children of my own; however his advice was sorely missed and I always try to be there for my son and daughter Wayne 🙂

Nov 19, 2023 01:22 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Wayne,

So glad that Kathy Streib featured your post as I missed it. I like your dad!! What a great outlook on life and the way he was a different world then and giving was second nature! Well done entry into the November challenge.

Nov 19, 2023 04:52 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Paul S. Henderson, REALTOR®, CRS - with my Dad passing when I was 20, it made me determined to spend plenty of time with my son for as long as I can. He just turned 40 and we are going strong. I also spend as much time as I can with my grandson and granddaughter.  

Nov 20, 2023 04:49 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Dorie Dillard Austin TX - read your gratification post this morning and kudos to you and your siblings. As for my Dad he was one of a kind who would have problems dealing with the world as it is today. Then again, maybe he would set out to change it? Thanks for your comment.

Nov 20, 2023 04:52 AM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi, Wayne Martin - First, thank you so much for introducing us to your dad.  This post and your father are the epitome of what this challenge is all about.  In my book, he is a saint.  He may not have been able to serve as a soldier, but he was called to an exceptional duty to serve his community and his family. What a blessing for you to know him so well.

Nov 20, 2023 09:37 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Sheri Sperry - MCNE®  - He was one of a kind. I got to work with him from the time I was eight during the summers and days off school. Seeing the joy he felt helping others was amazing. 

Nov 20, 2023 11:26 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

OH my goodness, Wayne, what a wonderful Dad you had! Now I know why you are who you are today; as they say, the apple didn't fall from the tree. You have put his values into your lifestyle and it shows through in all that you do. 

Loved the story of leaving his keys in the car and the tools. My dad was great about loaning tools and often said the same thing, "Well, they must have needed them more than me!" and he set out to buy new ones! It didn't seem to phase him but, boy, we 'borrowed' ANYTHING and if we didn't return it in a timely manner, we were in BIG trouble! LOL


Thank you so much for your entry in this month's challenge, Wayne! What a heartwarming post for Thanksgiving week!

Nov 20, 2023 05:51 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Debe Maxwell, CRS - you are right about borrowing something and not returning it in a timely manner. You would certainly hear about it in no uncertain terms. Thanks for the comment.

Nov 21, 2023 07:49 AM