Avoid the Consequences of Being "Too Nice."
Let's face it, being overly eager to help can backfire on anyone, creating negative consequences, especially when giving way too much! It's important to set boundaries up front, at any time but especially during the holidays.
People don't notice the things we do for them
until we stop doing them. ~ Mike Skinner
These 3 tips can help to avoid being taken advantage of:
Learn to say no and mean it. It's okay to put yourself first if necessary, especially when your schedule is full and you long for some down time, you time.
Speak up for yourself. If you fail to do this, chances are, no one else will and the door remains open for people to take advantage of you at every opportunity.
Set solid boundaries. Let people know where the line is drawn. Step back and reassess often for your own well-being and mental health. Even if daily.
Rather than ending up resenting people or feeling like a well-used doormat because everyone now has unrealistic expectations of your willingness to always help, be assertive and use the the above 3 steps as a guideline.