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A lesson in feeling good about yourself

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Real Estate Agent with Wayne M Martin

Dr. Paul McDonald and Kathleen Daniels are co-hosts for the ActiveRain December challenge Acts of Kindness | Sharing Love & Joy This Holiday Season and this is my first post.

When I was young my Dad woke me up on Christmas morning and said I should go with him for a ride. I asked where we were going and he said it was a surprise and I would play a part. When you are young you don't ask a lot of questions about a request from a parent. So off we went, but where?

At the time we lived in the city of Chicago with my grandparents in a 2 flat. The grandparents lived upstairs and we were on the first floor. About a half hour into the trip, I figured out that we were heading for a small summer home on the Fox River in Cary, Illinois. When I asked why, my Dad said we were going to check on the place.

When we got there he passed it by and went to the home of a neighbor who had five children and little money. My Dad hired the father for handyman jobs whenever he could even though he knew he was not the handiest man available.

Before we got to their driveway he stopped and told me my job. He was going to put the toys he purchased on the front stairs and then I was to go to the back door and knock. When they answered I was to ask "why did Santa Claus leave your gifts at the front door and not come in"? The kids bolted for the front door and the parents and I followed. You should have seen the look on my friend's faces. I will never forget it! 

As they picked up their presents and looked out there sat my Dad in the car with a big smile on his face. The father invited him in for coffee (they did things like that back in the 50's) and wanted to thank him. He denied being the source of the presents and said we were there to check the summer home and just stopped by to say "Merry Christmas"..

Driving back to Chicago I asked what made him do it? His response, "I just wanted to feel good about myself today". Years later at my Dad's wake, Danny, who was my age, asked if my Dad was really the source of the toys? My response was "no" and he let it go. Guess I learned my lesson about feeling good.

Thank you Paula and Kathleen for the contest. It brings back wonderful memories.

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Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Dec 16, 2023 07:42 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Wayne---I missed seeing this post until now but glad I discovered it.  Such light bulb moments can be quite memorable.  And I am certain this Christmas was for that family and for you.  Thank you for sharing. 

 

 

Dec 17, 2023 05:39 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Michael Jacobs - that family did not have much but it never stopped them. They were good friends growing up before we went our separate ways. Unfortunately all the kids passed at a young age. But the memories are burned in my mind. Wished I had adopted more of the lessons provided by my Dad earlier in life but better late than never. 

Dec 17, 2023 05:44 AM
Michael Jacobs

A good reminder.

Dec 17, 2023 05:49 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Wayne,

I don't know how missed this post so was glad Kathy Streib featured it in her Sunday series. I love this story, your dad was a kind and very special man. What a lesson to teach his son! I'm sure these memories are burned into your mind. 

Dec 17, 2023 06:46 AM
faye schubert
Retired - Branson, MO
Living the Branson Lake Life

What an incredible gift of kindness and your father provided an example of what that can do for someone.

Incredibly touching story of helping one another.

God Bless you and your family.

Dec 17, 2023 06:50 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Dorie Dillard Austin TX - my Dad had his own mindset. The more he could do for others the more joy it brought him even when sometimes it was to his detriment. That is special.

Dec 17, 2023 07:27 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

faye schubert - My Dad took great joy in helping others. It was just his way. Thanks for stopping by and thanks again for all your Branson advice. We are still talking about it. 

Dec 17, 2023 07:31 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

What a beautiful story. We should all do things on a regular basis to make us feel good about ourselves. What a smart man.

Dec 17, 2023 08:06 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Kat Palmiotti - I have done some deeds over the years when I thought my Dad would have done the same.

Dec 17, 2023 01:37 PM
Sheri Sperry - MCNE®
Coldwell Banker Realty - Sedona, AZ
(928) 274-7355 ~ YOUR Solutions REALTOR®

Hi Wayne Martin,

What a heartfelt story about your dad.  He obviously left a huge impression on you.  I loved the story.  Thank you for sharing it with us. 

Dec 17, 2023 03:13 PM
Charita Cadenhead
eXp Realty - Birmingham, AL
Serving Jefferson and Shelby Counties (Alabama)

I love this Wayne. Giving and helping others is a wonderful way to feel good about yourself.  For me, I often give to GoFundMe by way of anonymous donations.  I don't feel the need to have my name published, but the gesture does make me feel really good.  Sometimes I forget to click the "make my donation anonymous" link and that kind of bugs me because I like the mystery of not being identified.  Just the same, one small gestures makes one heck of a difference.  Thanks for sharing that wonderful life lesson.

Dec 18, 2023 05:52 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Sheri Sperry - MCNE® -  he was indeed one of a kind who took greater pleasure in giving that the person receiving. He had many life lessons that passed by me for years since they were so simple, they were easy to miss yet so valuable.

Dec 18, 2023 05:59 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Charita Cadenhead - many of my Dad's good deeds were to family members on his side and my mom's side so they wee not anonymous. That said many others were that way and my Dad preferred not the way. It was how he felt that counted.  Thanks for stopping by.

Dec 18, 2023 06:02 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Darn YOU, Wayne Martin this one got my eyes wet! 

I love that you let your Dad take the legacy of his Secret Santa with him. 

Your Dad not only felt good about himself, he is still making others feel good as you share his story.  Thank you! 

 

Dec 23, 2023 09:05 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist - had an uncle who worked for my Dad that lived to be 100 who had many other stories about my Dad. He said my Dad would think they were better off left unsaid and my uncle honored that until death. And, best I not know and create my own acts of kindness!

Dec 23, 2023 11:04 AM
Elyse Berman, PA
LoKation Real Estate - Boca Raton, FL
Boca Raton FL (561) 716-7824

What a great story Wayne Martin .  I had goose bumps.  Your father was a good man.

Dec 29, 2023 01:16 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Seriously, what a lovely, lovely story. My eyes are wet as well. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

Jan 02, 2024 06:29 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Elyse Berman, PA - my Dad would have appreciated your devoted assistance to buyers with dogs.

Jan 02, 2024 01:18 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Dr. Paula McDonald - thank you for the opportunity to review some memories. My Dad took his pleasure from giving and improving the lives of others.

Jan 02, 2024 01:21 PM
Gloria Todor
Premier Property Sales & Rentals - Springfield, PA
& Doug Durren (484) 431-3686 in SE PA

Wayne, what a wonderful memory!  Your dad had a big heart and it was great that he included you in on the surprise.  Thanks for sharing a bit of your history.  Happy New Year.

Jan 10, 2024 12:54 PM