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What a Difference a Teacher Can Make

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Eagle Ridge Realty / Signature Homes & Estates DRE# 01309169

This is a story about a friend of mine.  We got to know each other in 1980, in Santa Cruz, CA as we were neighbors.  We attended each other's weddings and remain good friends to this day.  There was a period of about 10 years when we weren't in contact with each other, but we reconnected about 15 years ago on Facebook, and I was surprised to find out she had a second career becoming what she always wanted to do--Become a teacher.

She was teaching at a middle school in the Los Angeles area, and while I live in Northern California, we still speak maybe once every month or two.  Her stories she shares with me about her "kids" from her classes, and she loves them all.

The important thing to know about her is that what she teaches her students, and motivates them of things to do, they cannot find between the covers of a books.  She actually gets them to adopt, then practice what she preaches.

The one story that touches me was an unbelievable act of kindness she extended to one of her kids (students) and how she had a whole bunch of his classmates to participate.  One of her better students, who was also very popular amongst his fellow students because of his humor and friendliness to all was diagnosed with cancer.  He had a tumor on the base of his skull right at the brain stem.  This started causing him to lose quite a few days of school, but the kid persisted.  He had one of his neighbor kids pick up his homework assignments and return them to her.  She was his favorite teacher.  

The kid was from a poor family...  His mother cleaned hotel rooms and the parents were separated. Eventually, his medical bills became so overwhelming that he, his mother and sister and two brothers moved into a small 2 bedroom apartment with the mother's sister and family.  They were all sleeping on the floor. They were on a waiting list for subsidized  housing, and my friend guided through that.  She also did a lot of legwork and got Loma Linda Children's Hospital to give healthcare to the boy.  

Further, she got student volunteers (7-9th graders) to hold a car wash on a Saturday to raise funds for their classmate and his family.  Needless to say, this popular kid had a lot of kids volunteer.  The money they raised was given to the mom, mainly for gas as the hospital was about an hour away (on LA freeways) and she was most grateful.

One day at school, once the boy returned, he had an episode.  It was May, and an ambulance came to take him away, and it was lunch period so naturally it was witnessed by all the kids, and was the talk of the school for the rest of the day.  It was also his last day at school.  He passed away.  She got the call from the boy's tearful mother who just wanted to thank her for all she had done to help her family in a time of need... The kids demanded another car wash to raise money for the mother!  She beamed with pride, as she realized the lesson had sunk into their DNA.  

Years later, when former students came back to visit her in her classroom, they all mentioned the car wash they held and how they'll always remember that act of kindness.  Some lessons learned at school just can't be found in textbooks.  They have to be lived, experienced, and shared.  One blossom produces a thousand seed.

This post is part of the December 2023 Active Rain Challenge  

 

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Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Your teacher friend's act of kindness not only helped the young student with a tumor at the base of his brain and his family, but it impacted the students as well. 

You are 1000% correct.  We cannot learn compassion and kindness like that in a book. This was a transformative experience for the kids in the class. 

This post was worth waiting for.  Thank you for your participation. 

Dec 31, 2023 05:33 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Gary- what a beautiful story you shared with us. Your friend/teacher found her true calling.  Look at the impact she had on all of her students. My heart aches just thinking of any child going through what this young child did. 

Dec 31, 2023 08:22 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

You never know what impact you can have as one person or one person can I have a new one till you go through the experience in that way.

Jan 01, 2024 12:02 AM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

So very true, I for one am looking for a great 2024.

Have a wonderful Day, and Happy New Years!

Bill Salvatore / Arizona Elite Properties

Jan 01, 2024 04:01 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Gary. Some acts of kindness are never forgotten as they burn into our memories. Many benefited from the situation you described. A great reminder of the power of kindness. Thanks of your post. Enjoy your day.

Jan 01, 2024 05:24 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Gary - there is obviously a lot of sadness in your post, but it is combined with feeling of hope too.  And that is what life is about.  Learning too.  

Jan 01, 2024 08:29 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Doing good for others will always stay with us!  Your friend, the teacher sounds like such a wonderful person.  The world is definitely a better place with her in it.

Jan 01, 2024 09:07 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

As a former teacher, this one hits home. What an amazing way this teacher made a huge impact on so many lives. Thank you for sharing this.

Jan 02, 2024 01:25 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jan 06, 2024 07:56 PM
Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES

Thank you Kathy Streib !

Jan 08, 2024 03:57 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

An incredible act of kindness and getting the kids to help out twice gave them all lessons in helping others.

Jan 07, 2024 06:11 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

The teacher was kind, and all the children learned to be kind as well. What a fantastic story to share.

Jan 08, 2024 04:41 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

I'm so glad Kathy Streib featured you post in her Sunday series. I love your story , such an incredible act of Kindness which we should hear more about! Too bad the talking heads only want the negativity in their news casts. 

Jan 08, 2024 06:45 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Kindness and goodness are present. Often we must listen and observe to see those acts. What a testimony to your teacher friend.  I recently came across this quote and thought it appropriate to share.

Goodness is the only investment that never fails. Henry David Thoreau

Jan 09, 2024 09:58 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Gary:

What a beautiful story and some wonderful acts of kindness. That last photo is very special and a nice memory, and tribute to your friend and her students.

Jeff

Jan 10, 2024 04:42 PM
Mike McCann Nebraska Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farm & Commercial Land Broker-Auctioneer Serving Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm & Commercial Property For Sale 308-627-3700

Hi Gary Frimann, CRS, GRI, SRES Thank you for sharing such a heart-warming and also sad story.  Sad because the boy lost his battle...heart-warming because of the obvious lessons learned by so many students from your teacher friend.  I believe most schools have a few teachers like your friend...and that is good.  What she did cannot be taught from a textbook.  

Jan 11, 2024 12:18 PM
Eagle Ridge Realty
Eagle Ridge Realty - Gilroy, CA
"Our Performance Will Move You!"

Your posts are always informative and that is appreciated.  Keep on posting.

Apr 08, 2024 07:19 PM