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Real Estate Agent with Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com SAL.2002007747

Why are you in real estate?

Why are you here in the Rain?

Why do you blog?

Why, why, why??

And if you're like me, the whys can change over the years.

Why am I in real estate?  I'm in real estate because 22 years ago Liz became an agent and after a couple of years working on a team she wanted some help and to split from that team, so it was either hire help or I get my license.  So I took the classes, passed the exam and over time expanded my assistance role.  So there's a major WHY.

Why ActiveRain?  Way back in 2006 someone on RealTalk posted about ActiveRain.  We followed the invite link, filled out a profile, and promptly disappeared for 3 years, then came back and got in the shallow end of the pool before really getting active.

Why blog?  We're not from Ohio, didn't have a big sphere, and I'm not the most social person in the world (duh...I'm an engineer for a reason), so blogging provides a means of putting ourselves out there to be found.  Now the HOW of doing it has changed quite a bit since we first started, and even the WHY.  Our IDX pages on our Wordpress site get better SEO and get found more than our old blog posts.  For the last few years, my blogging in the Rain has solely been the AAA series.  The WHY for that is to share information that hopefully helps other members shorten the learning curve, find ways to make blogging work for them, etc.

The WHY for continuing in real estate has changed a bit over the years.  It's been the means to take care of more furries than we would have otherwise (nope, my commission checks haven't been going into stocks and bonds, there's no such thing as a FREE cat or dog), remodel our house, and now on to our next thing:  building our next home.

The rock in the above picture is my current WHY.  It's a rock I picked up last month while walking the property for our new home in West Virginia.  It sits on my desk under my computer monitor and reminds me of what is coming by the end of 2024, when my WHY will change again. 

Knowing my WHYs keeps things in perspective.  I find having a WHY that motivates me helps me deal with obstacles.  Some hiccups along the way are expected, whether that's a delay in building, server issues in the Rain, or a buyer that doesn't work out as expected, that's Life.

Until next Tuesday, just Ask An Ambassador if you need help,

Bill & Liz aka BLiz

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Comments (19)

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Liz and Bill Spear - This is one of the best blog posts you wrote that means a lot to me. For starters, I'm a rock collector and draw many analogies between discovering the geological materials found in the environment and the stories rumbling through my head. I have a rock in my office too. It's from Switzerland and symbolizes the strength and courage my daughter has developed over the years. She has lived there now for 20 years. Just holding it in my hands gives me strength and positive energy. 

I like to write and learn. Reading takes me on adventures when I can't go there myself. When I learned about blogging, I was all for it. I couldn't wait to start. But I had, and still have a lot to learn. Blogging is like volcanism, mountain building, and the people who comment are equivalent to the tectonic activity that follows. 

To me, the best blogs are educational, the ones that teach me more and inspires me to do better in my real estate business. And if I give someone else a spark of energy, or  if AR members will remember good things about me, I will be blessed. 

Jan 09, 2024 04:00 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I've never been to Switzerland, but would love to visit some day!  I find rocks interesting, and make good mementos.  When I walked the property, I picked up one to give my mom (who lives in West Virginia but about 3 hours drive from our new home), one for Liz and one for my engineering office. 

I've enjoyed blogging over the years, it's a nice change of pace from my other activities, and I don't mind that I gave myself permission to go from blogging every day to just once a week.  Life had gotten busier, and the evergreen posts keep working.  

One of the great things about ActiveRain is we can all provide sparks and motivation to others.  Anyone who doesn't get that from you REALLY hasn't been paying attention :)

Jan 09, 2024 04:34 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Liz and Bill Spear 

Bill, I hope you do get to Swizerland. To me, it is one of the most beautiful countries in the world. If you go to Lucerne, flying into Zurich, this is the German side. You would need to be prepared to know some German. All signs in the airport, train stations, eating at restaurants, street signs are in German. But don't worry, they speak English too. If you go, I promise you will have no regrets. 

I agree with you, blogging opens up dialogs and communication. I have been fortunate to meet some of the nicest people via AR: Debe Maxwell, CRS, Kat Palmiotti, and Jeff Dowler, CRS are just a few. There were others too! 

Thank you for your weekly posts that are always a gift of knowledge. I appreciate them, very much. Have a wonderful day! 

Jan 10, 2024 10:37 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP

Liz and Bill Spear

Bill, that was a great idea to choose one rock for your mom, one for Liz, and one for yourself. I like that rock you chose! I feel certain, they appreciated it very much. I always picked up rocks and saved them over the years beginning when I was a child. When I took my children places, they also picked up and collected rocks, but we didn't take more than a few and the rest, we left behind. I'm sure, your mom has memories like this, and Liz too. 

Thoughtful gifts from the environment are truly more valuable in many ways that trinkets and souvenirs. You might like to know, after leaving you my last comment, you inspiredd me to write my next post on the gift of happiness. 

Thank you. 

Jan 10, 2024 11:32 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP , my Mom did get a stop in Switzerland when I was younger, they stopped coming back from an Israel trip.  She brought home some great pictures!  And I've had plenty of business associates from my engineering job visit there.  Beautiful, beautiful country!  My high school German is more than a little rusty after 40 years :)

My mom and dad are looking forward to visiting our new home once we get it built and settled in.  Maybe she'll pick out another rock then :)

Jan 11, 2024 06:04 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Bill,

You just make why to much sense!! Yes our "Why" shifts and that's okay...the only constant in our world is change so it stands to reason.

Jan 09, 2024 04:26 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

No doubt, my WHY has shifted more than a few times.  From I just need to be the background guy to I can do anything we need for our business to make sure our clients get what they hired us for.

Jan 09, 2024 04:35 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC

Oh, I love this post, Bill! Sage advice - always know your why and yes, sometimes they change. Accepting that we must change our 'whys' periodically or when we have our why actually ANSWERED and have to create a new one, can be tough for some of us. 

As well, the way we deal with the simple things in life (inwardly or outwardly), is a reflection of our character. I will forever be a big believer in that!

And, Endre Barath, Jr. will totally 'get' this quote because it's from one of his favorites...Marcus Aurelius

"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it."

Sometimes we just have to let go...it certainly is a more positive reflection of our own character.

Gorgeous rock, BTW - something tangible to have on your desk as a daily reminder of why you keep doing what you do.

Jan 09, 2024 04:39 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

The "don't sweat the small stuff...and it's ALL small stuff" is another quote that fits.  Yes, problems with AR can be frustrating, but the how much of that takes up our brain space is totally up to us.

Jan 09, 2024 05:09 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

TOTALLY! One of my Dad's best lessons was that if you can't find the positive in it, let it go! We can't fill our brains day-in and day-out with so much negativity. Yep, you summed it up best - don't sweat the small stuff!

Liz and Bill Spear 

Jan 10, 2024 11:14 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Bill (and Liz too) - understanding the whys of many parts of life remain important even as things around us continue to change.  

Jan 09, 2024 06:36 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Faith, Family, Furballs, Future plans, a lot of things contribute to my Why on a daily basis.

Jan 09, 2024 07:17 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

There’s something to be said about finding your rhythm and getting in the groove and getting in the flow of things.

Jan 09, 2024 10:15 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

We can find reasons to be happy or unhappy in anything depending on how we choose to look at things.

Jan 10, 2024 05:18 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Yes, so true - our whys are so important! As for your home, I'm so glad the plans are for your new one to be ready by the end of the year. How exciting! And as for the rock, is that quartz I see? If yes, supposedly where there is quartz there might be gold... :-)

Jan 10, 2024 04:22 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I'm not really sure if quartz or quartzite, but apparently their are ribbons of it in the stones there.  They're very heavy on gray stone, so maybe that's why the white in the rocks caught my eye when I was walking back up the mountain slope (far easier to get down our property than to come back up!).

Jan 10, 2024 05:20 AM
Kat Palmiotti

I totally understand the mountain slope comment. I've been walking up and down my hill(s) for going on five years now and I still huff and puff.

Jan 10, 2024 06:01 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

The route back up was steep enough at parts that I was grabbing some tree trunks to pull myself up the grade :).  The 10 acres is flat at the top, so I've probably got about 2 acres of usable space, after that the topography drops quickly.

Jan 10, 2024 09:13 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Liz and Bill Spear knowing and understanding our whys will help us navigate our lives. Shooting for the stars aimlessly should be left in daydreaming. Very well written, thank you for sharing.

Jan 10, 2024 06:01 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I'd LIKE to win the lottery, but I know not to expect it and should plan otherwise :)

Jan 10, 2024 09:13 AM
Craig Daniels
Tech Training for You! - Staten Island, NY
Technology Instructor/Project Consultant

I like the rock! - for its appearance but more for its symbolic weight and inspiration value

Jan 10, 2024 06:08 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

I've got a number of things scattered around my office to remind me that I work to do other things.

Jan 10, 2024 09:14 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

Last year my big why was my daughter's wedding which really carried me through - I want to pay off an investment property this year - I haven't gotten into it the same way - I need to dig in and find that why

Jan 10, 2024 06:26 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

One is more emotionally driven, the other rational, so I can see more inspiration in the first.

Jan 10, 2024 09:15 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

Thanks for this post. It really hit home

Jan 10, 2024 10:38 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Our WHYS may not all be the same, but we should all have them.

Jan 10, 2024 07:37 PM
Mike McCann Nebraska Land Broker
Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Farm & Commercial Land Broker-Auctioneer Serving Nebraska - Kearney, NE
Farm & Commercial Property For Sale 308-627-3700

Loved your first questions Liz and Bill Spear

The why I went into real estate over 31 years ago: Because we had a terrible agent "helping" us look for a home in Colorado Springs. She was lost most of the time...and when we did find the home we were supposed to be at...NONE...I mean NONE of them met the parameters we had set for her.

My wife was being relocated by her company and I was coming without a good job...so I figured why not give it a try...could not do any worse than this agent.


We left without buying a home on that trip and went back 3 weeks later.

LUCKY for us...the agent was on vacation...so another lady  agent: Maria Martin...who was fantastic...helped us buy the home we lived in for 7 years!  3 months after we moved in, I was a licensed agent in Colorado...and the rest is an ongoing saga!! 

Jan 10, 2024 06:22 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

Mike, Your story isn't all that different from our first home buying experience.  We'd been renting and just walked into a real estate office in 1992 and were set up with the duty agent.  They took us around in their car and the floor boards were a mess of crumbled up fast food bags, the homes they showed us didn't meet our needs and they kept trying to push up our price point.

Fortunately another couple we knew had just retired and got their real estate license, so we switched.  They knew how to listen and we soon found the home we've been in for over 30 years.  It was another 10 years later that Liz started in real estate, but we never forgot our experiences from our purchase.

Jan 10, 2024 07:40 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

The late Wayne dyer said and I think he may have gotten this from somebody else, but he said that if you change the way you look at things the things you look at change.

Jan 10, 2024 09:39 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

The quote makes sense.  Small picture, big picture.

Jan 11, 2024 06:04 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I really agree that every so often we need to look at the why's. These are our motivations. We certainly need to understand them.

Jan 11, 2024 05:17 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

And if the motivations change enough, the question may be why we should continue, or not?

Jan 11, 2024 06:05 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


There is so much wise advice here about the importance of having a why, which of course is true in our business and in life.

I did not think much about my why when I first started blogging other than wanting to establish a better Internet presence following my relocation to CA from Boston. It became clear rather quickly why I was writing about local communities and real estate stuff in general in the San Diego area...and learning the market was essential. 

I so appreciate your wisdom and sharing each week. Thank you.


Jan 11, 2024 11:41 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Jeff, It looks like we had common ground for starting blogging.  When you don't have a sphere, you've got to create one.
Happy to keep sharing what we've learned, it is what this community is about.

Jan 11, 2024 02:19 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

I am at a stage of life where I may ask why, but then reality sets in because my wife will just say: "because I said so'.

Jan 12, 2024 07:30 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Hmmm...I think I may be familiar with the same reasoning :)

Jan 12, 2024 10:54 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Am still here for the same reasons I joined back in 2008, for business and building relationships! Ditto for real estate, except I've been an agent longer than my residency here. Everyone should be clear on their 'why' and if not, perhaps more exploration is necessary, Bliz!

Jan 12, 2024 10:53 AM
Liz and Bill Spear

Definitely some of the same reasons that started us here, keeps us here.  That said, the way I use the platform has changed, with more emphasis on the sites we actually own.

Jan 12, 2024 11:00 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Well done, Bill. My "why" has changed over the years, from wanting to learn how to blog for business to now. I'm retired. My "why" is because I love learning, I love the community, and I want to keep the dendrites firing. 

Jan 12, 2024 01:00 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

The placis will keep you on your mental toes :)

Jan 12, 2024 07:36 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Yes Liz and Bill Spear the whys do change. My why changed from relocating my consulting practice to Las Vegas to accepting an offer to sell real estate from my buyer's agent Elise Harron  here in Golden Valley, AZ who is now my broker as well.

I am an active person and can only do so much counted cross stitch or reading. Due to my husband's change in health, I accepted this path of working in real estate. Having 50 years of sales experience, I believed I could succeed in time.

As to Active Rain, my first broker for Dirt Road, Judith Ritter, shared this site for me. Currently the why is to build authentic relationships with other professional agents.

The why for blogging is "the more I write, the better I think; the better I think, the more I write." Pretty simple.

Jan 17, 2024 12:13 PM
Liz and Bill Spear

I think I found similar with blogging.  I ran a string of daily blogging for 10 years before finally taking a break.  For the most part, the more I blogged, the easier it was to write the next post, and the next, and the next.  Ideas weren't in short supply, although sometimes finding a topic I WANTED to post about that particular day might be a bit harder.

My real estate path changed quite a bit some years back.  Prior to that, I was the back up, helper, could run solo if needed agent for my wife.  Her brother was terminal with a brain tumor, so she had to go back to Maryland for about 3 months to help take care of him.  At that point, whatever part of the business I wasn't doing, I saddled up and went with it.  That continued after her return while she focused more on volunteer activities.  Now, we're close to winding down our real estate careers, at least the in person part.  Once we finish our new home in WV and move, I'll refer out everything.  I have zero intent of relicensing in WV, time to get down to just being an engineer and zookeeper :)

Jan 17, 2024 02:21 PM