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Motivational Monday…When To Let Them Go On

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Motivational Monday…When To Let Them Go On

 

Have you ever had a disagreement with someone that seemed to be heading to “nowhereville?”


Both of you had both feet planted firmly in the ground and you both believed that your own opinion was the right one. 

It’s been years since I let myself get caught up in a game of vicious verbal volleyball. The Libra in me won’t allow it. 

However, there are times when you feel compelled to make sure your point is taken. Been there…done that. 

Let’s face it…this is not a win-win situation.  But…what can you do?

~Ask yourself why. Why is it important that you be right? Another way to look at it is…how important is it to you that they know they’re wrong?

 

~If you still feel like continuing… stop, breathe and listen to what they’re saying. People want to know they’re being heard. Besides, you may just learn something. 

~If all else fails, keep this quote in mind…

 

In life it’s important to know when to stop arguing with someone and simply let them be wrong. 

Helen Barry

         

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Comments (17)

Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - I am sure many have experienced the Vicious Verbal Volleyball that you describe in your post.  When played over and over, it can go viral.  I

t can be difficult to end, cut short or to avoid in the first place.   Your suggestion of keeping that Helen Barry quote in mind, seems wise.  I haven't previously heard it but other words of wisdom in a similar vein come to mind.  

Jan 22, 2024 05:38 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael Jacobs when I saw that quote...it said it all!  I don't like confrontation. However, if I need to, it's not pretty. (which is why I walk away)

Jan 22, 2024 12:34 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, Sometimes it's best to agree to disagree and move on. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, even if they happen to be wrong!

Jan 22, 2024 05:42 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 not THAT is the mature way to handle disagreements. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:34 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathy. When someone has the wrong opinion, I try to understand why. Perhaps they used the wrong facts and thus the wrong conclusion. And, even in that conclusion, they present some points that deserve further thought and perhaps tweaking my position. This is a world of false facts and lies that the media, in their humble attention seeking opinion, professes as true. Makes for good press. Be careful. Enjoy your day. 

Jan 22, 2024 05:49 AM
Kathy Streib

Could not have said it better Wayne Martin Larry is very good about calmly listening to another person's opinion and then calmly explaining his. We've been fed so much garbage in our lives, I find it better to get past that and try to appreciate a person for who they are and their actions. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:45 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Kathy,
The problem with "opinions" these days is you don't know if they've been formed on facts or someone's spin on facts. Have you ever noticed when someone is asked to provide the sources on which their opinion is based, they get quiet?  Hellen Barry is right.

Jan 22, 2024 06:40 AM
Kathy Streib

Carol Williams this only further divides us, doesn't it. Agree to disagree and move on. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:46 PM
Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Evolution - 447 Boston Street, Suite #5, Topsfield, MA - Topsfield, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Good Morning Kathy Streib 

Sometimes the better part of valor is to just let the other person be wrong...lol Once they realize the error of their ways we get to say Told Ya So!! hahahahahaha Just joshing.

Jan 22, 2024 07:15 AM
Kathy Streib

True Doug Dawes in my opinion, it's the mark of a mature and wise person who does not feel the need to prove someone wrong. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:47 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

At times, we have to accept that people are all entitled to their own opinions regardless of how wrong they be.

Jan 22, 2024 07:59 AM
Kathy Streib

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 exactly. What good can come of making someone else feel bad. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:48 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy, I know I never win with my wife but that ok, I agree for better or worst.  HAHA

Jan 22, 2024 08:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Will Hamm You know what they say...Happy wife, happy life. 

Jan 22, 2024 12:50 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Years ago I recall a gal that had to 'be right' at all costs.  It used to amaze me watching her defend her positions on whatever subject.  It was at that point I remember thinking, good grief that is a whole lot of wasted energy she throws around at everyone.  No thanks.  My question has always been - do you want to be right or to you want a peaceful and happy life?   Doesn't mean you have to be a doormat - far from it.  I stay away from those ridiculous situations by choice.

Jan 22, 2024 10:17 AM
Kathy Streib

Anna "Banana" Kruchten as they say...life's too short. There are times when it's necessary to speak up but I ask myself why. If I can live with the "why" I'll speak up. If the "why" is because I have to show the other person how wrong they are, then I move on. 

Jan 22, 2024 01:04 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Totally agree Kathy Streib waste of energy even getting started down that path with those types.

Jan 24, 2024 03:58 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy in this great country people have the right to disagree with me.  After all they have the right to be WRONG!

Jan 22, 2024 01:25 PM
Kathy Streib

Absolutely George Souto All we can do is step aside and allow them to be just that. 

Jan 22, 2024 08:15 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I have seen way too much of this in my life. I think I would be a hard pass.

Jan 22, 2024 02:36 PM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty I have left the room or table when it becomes too argumentative. 

Jan 22, 2024 08:16 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
St. George Utah Area Residential Sales Agent

Most days, I'd rather be happy than right, Kathy. Besides, it takes me back to the things that can be controlled over those that clearly are left to others or the universe to straighten out!

Jan 22, 2024 04:16 PM
Kathy Streib

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! this fits in well with that exercise you showed us!!!!

Jan 22, 2024 08:16 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I come across situations like that all of the time and I let it go rather quickly after making my thoughts known.  More often than not, it is proven that I was right, but I am not the one to say I told you so since they already know, haha.

Jan 23, 2024 07:05 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

It all comes down to, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy.

Jan 23, 2024 09:31 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Kathy:

Unfortunately I've had a few games of Vicious Verbal Volleyball in the past (love that term!) and as I recall nothing positive came from it. What a waste of time and energy to accomplish nothing. Helen Berry is right on with her sentiment! 

Jeff

Jan 23, 2024 12:54 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Personally, I try to avoid arguments. I prefer to focus on more important things.

Jan 23, 2024 01:32 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

I avoid confrontation at all cost. Sometimes that cost is big because, although I've avoided getting into it, it takes me a very long time to let go of it. It really only matters  when the person in question is close to me. That is the hardest for me.

Jan 25, 2024 11:50 AM
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Homes

I’m in the middle of a similar situation and have given up on trying to rectify it.

Jan 27, 2024 06:03 PM