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Triumphs Over Trials: My Journey Back To Golfing

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"The harder the struggle, the more glorious the triumph."

I had the most incredible experience this past weekend playing golf. I'm not writing this to brag. It's for a totally different reason. There is a moral to my story.

I've been called lucky, and I've been called brave. I don't consider myself either one. There are too many things that have happened in my life that could never be considered lucky or brave.

I do consider myself blessed.

As many of you know, I have struggled with back issues for many years. I've broken my back 3 times and had 2 back surgeries. There were times, some quite recent when I doubted if I'd ever swing a golf club again. For someone who treasures golf not just as a sport but as a source of camaraderie, the thought of giving it up was heart-wrenching. Yet, I was prepared to let it go if it meant an escape from the relentless pain.

I don't know how many of you have suffered from back fractures, but let me tell you, it's not like any pain I've ever felt. It is excruciating. You, essentially, can't do anything without horrible pain.

Anyway, I've been very careful about playing golf the last several years, not playing more than a couple times a week and always with a day or two in between.

Last winter, after visiting my bone doctor, she prescribed a daily injection of a formula that has shown success in building bone mass, not just slowing the loss of bone mass. I started taking that a year ago. I am anxious to get a current bone density test in April when I return from Arizona to see the difference. I think it is helping, though. Since I've been in Yuma this winter, I've been playing up to 4 times a week. This week I will be playing 5 times in 7 days. I do still wear a back brace while I play, and that helps.

The incredible part is that last weekend, I played in a 2-day senior women's golf tournament at the Mesa Del Sol Golf course. I went into the tournament with no expectations other than having fun playing with some ladies I'd never met before. I was very relaxed and just out to have some fun.

Saturday was a nice weather day, and I shot a score of 79. WhooHoo! Sunday's forecast of rain didn't have me very excited. I do NOT like to play in the rain and avoid it whenever possible. However, I went prepared and soldiered through. My score on Sunday was even better than Saturday's, which was kind of unbelievable. I shot a 78. I ended up winning low gross of the field.

Here is the moral of the story. I am not lucky, and I am not brave. I am blessed. I am blessed because I have been given the spirit of persistence. I never gave up and didn't let the adversity of poor weather conditions deter me. I just kept plugging away shot by shot. I don't play well every day. But I get out and play. Sometimes I even play better than I ever imagined I would again. That was the case last weekend. I used to be a fairly consistent player, but now I'm just happy to be playing. That's a win every day for me.

I think there is a lesson for all of us about life and business from my experience. What adversity have you faced and fought through? What unexpected successes are still in store for you with persistence and an attitude of never giving up?

I am blessed! How about you?

Posted by

Carol Williams

"Information is FREE.
Knowledge, Experience & Integrity Are Priceless."

- Carol Williams

Retired: Real Estate Broker/Owner, Property Manager 
Coaching, goal setting, and marketing consultant

Active: Golf & Travel Blogger
"Golf isn't a sport. It's a lifestyle."

Happy March !

Comments (26)

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

I am BLESSED Miss Carol Williams 

I know someone who took a daily injection and it did help and the bone density screening proved it.  

Never give up is the attitude that drives (no pun intended) me to keep a positive attitude and persevere. We all face challenges and adversity. Our attitude makes the difference. 


Jan 25, 2024 08:15 AM
Carol Williams

Absolutely, Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist 
We ALL face challenges. No one is immune to them.  You know how the old saying goes:
"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters."

It is interesting, though, how some people think we're so lucky. It's definitely not luck, is it?

Jan 25, 2024 08:25 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Carol and I saw your facebook post and you are back for sure with your golf swing and game.  Good Job.

Jan 25, 2024 09:06 AM
Carol Williams

Thanks, Will Hamm 
I surprised even myself! 😄

Jan 25, 2024 09:57 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ

Carol since I've known you your middle name has been determined perseverance - no matter what must be your last name!  I know how tough it was for you going through all that pain........and so glad the shots over the last year have helped.  Grateful indeed!

Jan 25, 2024 01:26 PM
Carol Williams

Thank you, Anna "Banana" Kruchten 
You have been witness to some of it and I appreciate your support.

Jan 25, 2024 02:49 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

First good to read your back pain is being mitigated. Second, some call it a blessing others call it "suck it up buttercup and move forward." Take care

Jan 25, 2024 01:55 PM
Carol Williams

Lot's of sucking up to be done in life, isn't there Leanne Smith ?  LOL 

Jan 26, 2024 07:22 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Carol:

Indeed you are blessed given all you and your back have been through. Your drive, persistence, and positive attitude have carried your through and serve as inspiration for others. Thank you for sharing all that with us!


Jan 25, 2024 03:49 PM
Carol Williams

Thanks for reading my ramblings, Jeff Dowler, CRS 
It's been an interesting journey.

Jan 26, 2024 07:23 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

We never forget our trials they just make us who we are, and can transform us into being better people if we allow them to do it. Be blessed!

Jan 25, 2024 04:17 PM
Carol Williams

Yes, they do Laura Cerrano 
Thank you!


Jan 26, 2024 07:23 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Carol if I every play golf with you, you are going to have to give me a BIG handy cap!!!

Jan 25, 2024 04:24 PM
Carol Williams

We'll just play for fun. No money involved unless it's a beverage at the 19th hole.

Jan 26, 2024 07:24 AM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Hey, Carol.

Your modesty is truly impressive. It's not a quality that comes easily to everyone, you know. Humility is often overlooked because people mistakenly equate it with weakness.

It's time to feed my brain and whip up a post about humility. Oh, and by the way, your story? It deserves a spot in a bestselling book someday!

I hope your back stay strong to continue golfing.

Jan 25, 2024 04:37 PM
Carol Williams

Hi Aura Alex 
Writing this with humility was one of my concerns. I am so happy I am still able to play, let alone win anything. ❤️

Jan 26, 2024 07:25 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Congratulations on scoring so well, Carol.  And, like you, I feel a lot of blessings in my life.

Jan 25, 2024 05:13 PM
Carol Williams

Thanks, Myrl Jeffcoat 
We all have our trials and blessings, don't we, Myrl?

Jan 26, 2024 07:25 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Carol, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Club group!  

Jan 25, 2024 05:14 PM
Carol Williams

Thanks, Myrl Jeffcoat 
I definitely belong in the Old Farts Club.

Jan 26, 2024 07:26 AM
Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD
http://www.medicalandspaconsulting.com - Vail, CO
Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

Great story ....love the perseverance and medical success!!! Lordy lord, how did you break your back multiple times??

Jan 25, 2024 09:35 PM
Carol Williams

Hi Paddy Deighan MBA JD PhD 
I'm not a clumsy person but I've fallen a few times. No more skiing for me, or anything else with a high risk of falling.

Jan 26, 2024 07:28 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Carol Williams  when you mention back pain, back surgery it is a miracle that you can even hit a golf ball not alone do so well , Endre

Jan 25, 2024 10:42 PM
Carol Williams

That's what I think too, Endre Barath, Jr. 
I'm very fortunate.

Jan 26, 2024 07:28 AM
Debra Leisek
Bay Realty,Inc Homer Alaska - Homer, AK

I don't know much about golf but I do know and admire a determined woman when I see one!!  Enjoy your success and the game of golf you love!

Jan 26, 2024 12:12 AM
Carol Williams

Thanks, Debra Leisek 
I am determined. I wasn't looking forward to a life sitting in a chair.

Jan 26, 2024 07:29 AM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Carol Williams - Atta girl! Kudos to you for your persistence and being smart about your decisions. You needed that boost from that unbelievable great golf game. I am happy for you. 

As for me, yes. I know what constant pain in the back is. For me, it is a living hell but I try not to let others know, unless they notice and offer to call an ambulance. I still say no, don't call. Let me be. I'm glad to hear your treatment is working! Good to know, there is HOPE!

As to overcoming adversity. That's the story of my life and still I smile and power through with faith through the dark times. 

Jan 26, 2024 06:15 AM
Carol Williams

I know you've had more than a fair share of trials, Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP.  We do what we have to do to keep moving forward, don't we?

Jan 26, 2024 07:30 AM
John Marshall - FORE!
LoKation Real Estate - Cherry Hills Village, CO
Specializing in Golf Course Properties

So glad to hear this Carol Williams , like you I do not know what I would do if I had to give up the game of golf

Jan 26, 2024 09:14 AM
Carol Williams

Thanks, John Marshall - FORE! 
That would put a serious damper on fun!

Jan 26, 2024 09:40 AM
Matt Brady
Watermark Capital - Del Mar, CA
One of San Diego's Best Equity Advisors

Congratulations! Low gross is always an honor and it would be a shame if someone as talented as you are could not play.

Jan 26, 2024 04:22 PM
Carol Williams

Thank you, Matt Brady 
I am extremely happy to still be able to play!

Jan 29, 2024 07:52 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Carol- I love how you tied in your health issues, golf and perseverance. I know how much you love golf and I also know how bad back pain can be. To be able to get back to doing what you love...perhaps with some adjustments is the icing on the cake of life. 

Jan 26, 2024 07:58 PM
Carol Williams

Hi Kathy Streib 
Yes, it's such a blessing to still be able to play!

Jan 29, 2024 07:54 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Carol! So proud of your perseverance and determination. Way to go to get back into your game. You are a BOSS!

Jan 27, 2024 03:59 PM
Carol Williams

Hi Dr. Paula McDonald 
I'm not as BOSS as I used to be but I still have a little mojo left in me. 🤣

Jan 29, 2024 07:56 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

I don't know which is more impressive, the score or the recovery to play again.  Anyone that has heath issues and has played the game can appreciate the opportunity to get back out there and okay again, regardless of what the card looks like at the end.

Jan 29, 2024 07:39 AM
Carol Williams

Hi Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 
I was driving straight and my putter was hot. That's a good combination. It was fun!

Jan 29, 2024 07:57 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754

Carol Williams   The most stokes are accumulated from 50 yards in so getting close and putting are the areas that require the skills. One can recover from a bad drive.

Jan 29, 2024 08:24 AM
Carol Williams

Hi Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 
Absolutely correct.

Jan 29, 2024 10:39 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

What an inspirational story you have, Carol! I am sure that many will find hope and strength from you. 

I'm so happy to hear you are enjoying your passion once again.

Jan 30, 2024 07:53 AM