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Overcoming The Back-in-My-Day Crew

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Overcoming The Back-in-My-Day Crew 

 

An agent's resonsibility is to help guide clients toward their sales goals when buying a residential property. Along with that, everyone who has signed the contract has a stake in bringing a successful end result. Budget can determine size, condition and location most of the time.

 

Minor repairs, discovered upon inspection can be negotiated. In an ideal world, everything goes smoothly because all involved are fully aware of the process but what happens when the Back-in-My-Day Crew makes an unexpected visit? By that, I mean relatives who want their say, like:

 

Doting Daddy

Channeling his inner Bob Vila, he gets up on a rickety ladder, peering into the attic, asking if the trusses are doubled-plated. Then he pulls out a well-worn tape measure to ensure the depth of the insulation is deemed R-33 for ultra-ultra-energy savings and potentially no electric bills to pay!

 

In-charge Marge

The mother-in-law, bless her heart, insists the entire interior needs re-painted, new sod installed in the front and back yards at the sellers cost. Chop! Chop! Then, hopefully asks if there's room for a custom ADU to be built for future stays. Apparently, a spare bedroom won't cut it.

 

Uncle Boberilla

He decided to wiggle beneath the house, reliving his Marine commando days, making sure no rodents or wood-destroying pests had invaded the crawlspace. Taking a wrong turn, a wolf spider bit him several times on the face for creeping into unknown territory, wrecking his home sweet home.

 

Loved ones tend to offer opinions based on their experiences but go well above and beyond reality, casting unecessary doubts. Some take it w-a-a-a-a-a-y too far! Besides, the homeowners will be the ones enjoying themselves, day in-day out, in their new space, not the Back-in-My-Day Crew. 

 

Purchasing a home doesn't have to go the crazy side brought on by those outside the 4-corners of the Real Estate Purchase Contract and if buyers are unable live with it, then they do not sign on the .................................... line! 

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Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!  Oh, what a red light they are. I try to be patient and stay calm and polite 

May 14, 2025 02:49 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

That is the thing to do but also to educate them when you they are being unreasonable by interfering with the process, Hannah Williams.

Also, if someone gets hurt doing their own, independent home inspection, that can be diastrous for so many reasons!

May 14, 2025 02:56 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Wanda- Larry is a retired builder but while he was always willing to help when friends or relatives had questions, he was careful not to go too far. 

May 14, 2025 06:41 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Wanda - an upfront meeting of the minds is important in real estate.  Two immediately come to mind - Who will be signing the documents in the transaction?  Who will be making the decision to purchase?  

May 15, 2025 04:25 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

That is quite different and my favorite home inspector was a building contractor, Kathy Streib, because he knows construction inside and out. He retired but told me that he'd still answer the phone if I called!

May 15, 2025 05:34 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Both are important to discuss up front, so everyone is clear for clients sake, Michael Jacobs. If the buyers choose to relay information, they are most welcome to do that!

May 15, 2025 05:38 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

It's always more difficult when the back in the day crew is involved and in the past when they are involved, I try to win them over quickly so they will be agreeing with me in all things, haha.

May 15, 2025 05:48 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Wanda, for adding smiles to our faces with this blog post.

May 15, 2025 07:03 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Oh my gosh, I think I've met all those people!

May 17, 2025 04:54 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Wanda. "Back in my day crew" is actually better than the way I learned about interlopers who want to profess their superiority knowledge. I called them "Uncle Louie's".  When clients would say I want someone else to see it before we pull the trigger, I would ask why, the level of experience of the Uncle Louie and the pitfalls of relying on an Uncle Louie. As you might conclude, I did not like Uncle Loui\e's. Enjoy your day.

May 17, 2025 05:48 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Wanda,

Not sure how I missed your post but glad Carol Williams featured it in her Saturday series! I've had a few cases where I have met these people..takes patience to deal with them.

May 17, 2025 06:25 AM
Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate
Fred Griffin Real Estate - Tallahassee, FL
Licensed Florida Real Estate Broker

Hi Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! 

      When I meet Buyers, especially first-timers or young Buyers, I ask them "Who will be helping you make your decision?   Parents?  Other relatives?  Friends?"

     I want to meet those people!  And in some cases, I want them along for the showings.  I can respect a Buyer who wants input from an experienced relative or friend, but if that relative or friend is going to be a deal-killer (complain about everything like the examples you provided), I will drop that Buyer.  

 

    

May 17, 2025 08:01 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Building a good rapport helps to combat interference from those who mean well but can do great harm and cause unecessary regret for the buyers, Brian England. That's worth pursuing!

May 17, 2025 09:27 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Glad I made you smile, Roy! Wishing you and Dolores a wonderful Saturday, it's looking might fine from here.

May 17, 2025 09:35 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Most likely, yes, Kat Palmiotti! LOL

May 17, 2025 09:35 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

It is most satisfying to say goodbye to the Uncle Louie, Doting Daddy, In-charge Marge and Uncle Boberilla types as you see them in the rearview mirror while on the way to closing, Wayne Martin!

May 17, 2025 09:38 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Having a few relative experiences teaches us how to patiently handle them, putting their concerns to rest. Thank goodness not all relatives immerse themselves, Dorie Dillard Austin TX!

May 17, 2025 09:43 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Meeting family members is important, most are personal, trusted advisors. They are not welcome to override what an agent is trying to accomplish for the buyers, however, Fred Griffin Florida Real Estate.

If they do and the buyers allow it, then we part ways. Not interested in being in the middle of a potential family feud!

May 17, 2025 09:50 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Associate Real Estate Broker

Yep, the back-in-my day crew that might also interject that the sellers would also through in the lawn mower as well, as obviously they won't need it.

May 17, 2025 12:42 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

You never know and could be right about that, Ed Silva, 203-206-0754!

May 17, 2025 03:35 PM