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What is love?

Real Estate Agent with Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 PA License - AB067198

Yes, here we are on Valentine's Day again, it feels a little like Groundhog Day, it just keeps coming round and round. But, have you ever really considered what is love?

Love is an emotion, sure, but we use the word loosely. We love our parents, our lover, our spouse, our kids, our grandkids, our pets, our cars, our home, our favorite food, our favorite book or movie, even our jobs.

Do we love them all in the same way? Certainly not, but we use the same word, love.

Certain songs move us, that we say, I love this song. Here is a Youtube list of love songs from the 70's, 80's and 90's

When it comes to people, we may love conditionally or unconditionally, it all depends on how we were loved or not by parents. Some people may have anger rather than love for parents they felt did not love them. I know I was loved, by both my father and mother, I was very lucky. I loved my sons as they grew up and challenged authority and got into trouble some times. Overall we came through it all.

Then there is the one you commit your life and your love to, a spouse, and all is great till it isn't, either health wise or emotionally and a divorce results. And then if you are really lucky you find someone else to love you and to love.

Loving a house is not so dramatic, people fall in love with a house and purchase it, they make changes, decorate, paint, buy antiques, furniture, paintings etc., to turn it into a home. They create a garden, planting shrubs, flowers and trees to create a special place, a bench where they can sit and enjoy what they have created, enjoying nature around them.

If you are looking for a house to make a home, I can help, I understand the challenges in finding the right place, it can take time and be something of a challenge sometimes. But, at the right time the right place comes along and you fall in love and can move in and start your journey.

Maybe, it is time to let go of that place you have called home and loved for a long time, making it your own. I understand how hard that can be, letting go, especially if you are now alone after a long journey together with a partner. 

Whatever your situation contact me and put my energy and my love for my job to work for you. Call or text me at 610-203-4543, office 484-237-2055, or email me at Nick@VandekarTeam.com. Let's find the next stop on your love journey.

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Nick Vandekar
Nick is a Tredyffrin Easttown Residential and Commercial REALTOR selling The Main Line, Chester, Delaware and Montgomery Counties.

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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Nick,
I don't use the word "love" as freely as some people. However, you're right in that we love in different ways depending on who or what it is and how they (or it) fits into our life.  I knew I loved my husband, but when he was ill I remember being totally content in taking care of him. To me, that's the highest degree of love. 

I don't love my house, but I am very comfortable in it. We bought it for a specific purpose, which it served.  It continues to be very functional for me and (best of all) paid for. I might move someday, but I'm not in any particular hurry.

Feb 14, 2024 02:18 PM
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Homes

That is a great photo. Wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day filled with love and laughter.

Feb 14, 2024 03:24 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 ,

A very clever post and what a fantastic photo! Hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day!

Feb 14, 2024 04:14 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543  happy Valentine's Day to you both , great photo, Endre

Feb 14, 2024 09:39 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Nick - finding love can be difficult.  Regardless of situation.  That can certainly make it harder to define.  You have nicely expressed the nuances as well as the range of this vital emotion.  Happy Valentine's Day. Belatedly.

Feb 15, 2024 03:34 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

When people are in love it is a daily thing, not just something celebrated on Valentine's day, haha.

Feb 15, 2024 04:46 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Hannah Williams thank you, I hope you enjoyed Valentine's Day.

Carol Williams I totally agree taking care of a loved one is the highest form of love.

Joyce Marsh thank you.

Dorie Dillard Austin TX thank you.

Endre Barath, Jr. thank you, I hope you had a wonderful evening.

Feb 15, 2024 08:04 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Michael Jacobs thank you, I appreciate the commentary.

Brian England that is very true, which makes it a fairly useless day really.

Feb 15, 2024 08:05 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Nick- what a wonderful photo of you and Annie!!! And your post is cute, clever and creative as well!!!!!  

Feb 17, 2024 06:23 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Feb 17, 2024 06:29 PM
Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - I've been picky when I use the word love because in many cases, people use the word love out of context. However, sometimes, I slip and say it anyway. But one thing I agree with is that we all need to love fully the people in our lives that are the most important and we couldn't find ourselves living without. 

Happy belated Valentine's Day to you and your wife. 

Feb 17, 2024 09:19 PM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

this is a wonderful post - and as Kathy said - very clever - congratulations on tying home ownership to Valentines day

Feb 18, 2024 05:23 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Nick. Another example of your creative mind providing a pondering moment. Thanks! I use "Like" freely but reserve "Love" too very few. Enjoy your day.

Feb 18, 2024 05:40 AM
Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

I remember sitting in an Adult Sunday School Class teaching us the 5 Ways Love is expressed by people !

Feb 18, 2024 07:13 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

As others have written, indeed a clever post. Thank you. And congrats on the feature.

Feb 18, 2024 10:58 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Kathy Streib thank you, I did not even remember this photo, just saw it when I went looking for one to use for the post. Thank you for the feature, always appreciated.

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP I think as we get older, we might be more picky than when we were younger.

Lise Howe  and Wayne L. Brown  thank you, I try to be creative when the brain cells allow.


Feb 18, 2024 01:38 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Michael J. Perry I remember reading that book, and I found it very useful.

Leanne Smith thank you, I appreciate the comment.

Feb 18, 2024 01:39 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Nick:

What a clever and thoughtful post about love and its many nuances. That's a wonderful photo - dare I say I love it?!


Feb 18, 2024 07:46 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

There are a lot of things we love! In addition to everything you mention, we might love pets, food, specific material items, etc.

Feb 19, 2024 04:36 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Definitely not only on Valentine’s Day but every day wishing you love and light and all the best! :)

Feb 19, 2024 02:04 PM