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Motivational Monday…Start or Finish Line

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Motivational Monday…Start or Finish Line


A few weeks ago I had a conversation with a young friend. We were playing catch-up over the phone. She expressed regret about something she wished she had done. 


Now she feared it was too late. It wasn’t a matter of life or death. But it was something she had intended to do after she’d graduated from college. 

It was now twenty years later and this regret was hanging over her head. She kept saying I should have done this when I graduated.


After listening to her, I stopped her and asked her what was stopping her from doing it now.


The only thing she could say was that she should have done this twenty years earlier. 


Drop the “should haves!”  Unless your reason is that you no longer want to or are not able to do what you want… “should haves” take you nowhere. 


What is it you have wanted to do but feel like
it’s too late for you? 


Still want to do it?    Drop the “Should have” and replace it with WILL!


You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. 

C. S. Lewis

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Comments (22)

Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Chicago, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathy. C.S. Lewis nailed this one. Start today determined not to add to your "should have" list and perhaps with a little determination to take a few off the list. Enjoy your day.

Feb 26, 2024 05:35 AM
Kathy Streib

Wayne Martin If we would replace "should" with "Will" it could change our lives. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:34 AM
Michael Lamirande
Long & Foster - Devon, PA
Listing&buyer Agent/ leasing and investment proper

Guilty! Too many times in my life. Never too late to start taking action on changes or new things! 

Feb 26, 2024 05:51 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Michael Lamirande I can't imagine anyone who hasn't had that "should have" moment. It's human nature. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:35 AM
Beth Atalay
Cam Realty and Property Management - Clermont, FL
Cam Realty of Clermont FL

Good morning Kathy Streib, it is never too late to do anything in life. When I was in college, there was an 86-year-old gentleman in my Psychology class, graduating from college was his lifelong dream. 

Feb 26, 2024 06:05 AM
Kathy Streib

Beth Atalay I admire people who do that. I had a similar classmate in college. It was a school friends mother!!! And she was remarkable. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:36 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is a good reminder for all of  us. I like your quote selection.

Have an outstanding week.

Feb 26, 2024 06:05 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Roy Kelley hello to you and to Chef Dolores. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:36 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Kathy,
This is an excellent message to start the week. It's never too late until we take our last breath.

Happy Monday!

Feb 26, 2024 06:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Carol Williams that's what makes life interesting!  Keep doing and trying new things. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:37 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, The possibilities and opportunities in life can be intriguing. They can spark conversations or bring them to a close. Take action and seize those moments!

Feb 26, 2024 06:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400  If we think about what we truly want to do rather than push them behind us, we decide what it is we want and go for it. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:40 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

So many factors in life. I understand the regret...but (as NIKE says) just do it.

Feb 26, 2024 07:22 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty sometimes you just have to jump into what you want. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:41 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I always wanted to run a marathon, it took me till I was almost 40, but I did it and was very happy when I was finished.

Feb 26, 2024 07:28 AM
Kathy Streib

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 that's wonderful!!!  You also did the Camino Del Sol and that was quite an achievement. Sometimes you have to just do it. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:42 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543

It was sunny for nearly 97% of my walk, but it is called the Camino de Santiago de Compostella, but I like Camino de Sol sounds wonderful. Annie gave me for Christmas a book with 500 walks from around the world, some sound very inviting.

Feb 27, 2024 06:10 AM
Michael J. Perry
KW Elite - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

Wow , I bet we’ve all had that conversation with ourselves- I should’ve done __________

Feb 26, 2024 07:30 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael J. Perry I can tell you that I have!!!! 

Feb 26, 2024 11:42 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy hopefully it is a "Should Have" is something that she can still do and eliminate the regret.

Feb 26, 2024 09:22 AM
Kathy Streib

George Souto it is but she'll have to decide for herself if she's willing to take the first step. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:43 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy, we all have this saying of Should Have and if only.  I guest I have done almost everything I wanted to do over the years and push hard to get things done.


Feb 26, 2024 09:51 AM
Kathy Streib

Good for you Will Hamm That's the way to do it!

Feb 26, 2024 11:43 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally

Regrets are terrible. A well lived is one that has the person reflecting and not having any regrets, So what, at that point!

Feb 26, 2024 11:48 AM
Kathy Streib

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 I agree...regrets are a horrible thing to have. If I had to give advice to anyone it would be to live your life with no regrets. 

Feb 26, 2024 05:59 PM
Joyce Marsh
Joyce Marsh Real Estate LLC - Daytona Beach, FL
Joyce Marsh Homes


This is a great reminder that you are never too old to do something that you’ve always wanted to do. That C.S.Lewis Quote is spot on. Great post. Thank you. 

Feb 26, 2024 11:18 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

That is great advice and I hope that she will do it soon and let go of all the regret that she has been holding onto.

Feb 27, 2024 04:44 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Cases of the "shudda-wouldas" likely keep many great things from happening.  The past should not be prologue for today.

Feb 27, 2024 11:28 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude


I think that was wise advice.

WE all have things we wanted to do but didn't for some reason but. But if it's important and weighing on you, why not do it!

C. S. Lewis was so right on target with his perspective and it's something worth remembering.


Feb 27, 2024 04:30 PM
John Henry, Florida Architect
John Henry Masterworks Design International, Inc. - Orlando, FL
Residential Architect, Luxury Custom Home Design

AHH... coulda woulda shoulda.  Yes, for many many things it's not too late!!  For many: no clear goals early in life.  After all, what little we knew?  Then we got busy with jobs and family and watched tv.  Every once in a while something would nag us to do or knock on the door pointing out obvious deficiencies, but our minds couldn't rationalize them or form a plan of action.  I listened to Zig Ziglar and realized there was a large motivational world out there but those who wrote the books about that, how to flip real estate, how to get rich quick... seemed to make their money writing 'How To's'.  Some wanted to be famous singers, writers, athletes, etc. but we really didn't push those opportunities.  This is a perfect subject for Michael Jacobs to ponder and we respectfully ask him for a full speculative lecture on this subject.  I would like to think positively but am getting dragged into the negative camp.  HELPPPP!!!!

AHA: I just read the first post and it started like mine!  Wow... you know what they say...😁

Best to be happy with what we have and hold onto the best things we have done and build on them!  And help others succeed.

Feb 27, 2024 04:52 PM
Michael Jacobs

John Henry, Florida Architect - I remember during my early days (as well as some much, much later) that I wonder about those who had a real estate empire built entirely on promotion.  🙃 

Feb 27, 2024 06:11 PM
John Henry, Florida Architect

 Michael Jacobs  Please email me directly to discuss this, as I am interested in what actually happened... johnhenry@cfl.rr.com

Feb 27, 2024 06:19 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Kathy Streib  loved your motivation post and also enjoyed how the comments went south of your post:)Endre

Feb 27, 2024 09:45 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

It is never too late! I've read of people who started something new when in their 60s, 70s, and beyond, and were successful at it. If we want to do something, regardless of age, we should DO IT!

Mar 02, 2024 05:38 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Regrets are unpleasant gifts that we keep on giving to ourselves.

Mar 03, 2024 07:07 AM