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Relationships Happen Quite Unexpectedly

Real Estate Agent with Dirt Road Real Estate SA676002000

Life continues to provide unexpected relationships. Last week I stopped by my favorite local restaurant, Red Cellar  & Bistro to deliver a birthday present to a young friend who is the cook at this establishment. She had admired my purse so I bought one for her forthcoming birthday.

Then I stayed for an adult beverage as I knew another couple also enjoying this small business.  As we were talking, another couple came in and a conversation started.

A comment by this new couple was that the three of us at the bar knew each other. We all smiled and conversation flowed now between the five of us. 

I learned this couple was visiting from Arkansas. During the conversation, we learned:

  • Both the wives of the two couples and myself were born near or in Chicago, IL.
  • The husbands had connections to CA.

As the conversation continued, questions by this second couple about the area were asked since this couple was considering relocating to Kingman, AZ.  The couple shared some of their experiences including ministry work and were wondering about the churches in the area. 

I shared the different religious affiliations and churches. In this sharing, I learned the husband had been ordained a Lutheran minister.

Conversation then turned to particular residential areas that had larger lots with elbow room. I suggested two particular areas, Valle Vista in Kingman, AZ and Walnut Creek, Golden Valley AZ, that might be of interest given what was being exchanged. 

The wife asked me if I was a local real estate agent and I responded yes.  Please note I never said I was a real estate agent because I believe in having buyers (potential clients) pull me to them instead of me pushing me onto them. The wife asked for my business card which I gladly provided.

Last night I received a call from the wife who shared she and her husband are seriously considering relocating to Kingman, AZ and was wondering about my schedule.  The wife also asked about a printed map and I said I would send one in the mail the next day. 

When I was a Director for the KGVAR Board (our local real estate association), I had printed maps made of the area.  Yes many individuals still want printed maps.

This morning I addressed the envelope with the printed map and will mail it today at the Post Office. I have blocked off an appointment time in which to sit down and discuss this couple’s relocation plans.

Yes, relationships happen quite unexpectedly.  My sense is this experience only reaffirms President Teddy Roosevelt's words of wisdom:

No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.

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Leanne M. Smith, MS, GRI, rCRMS

2018 KGVAR Rookie Realtor of the Year-55+
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Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
Cicadas are coming! Cicadas are coming!

I have said it many times... "you never know who you're talking to"... so make sure you're careful with what you're saying.  Don't say something you wouldn't be comfortable saying in front of your mother, or with the preface of "your honour.."

May 07, 2024 07:04 AM
Leanne Smith

So true Alan May and even more so today especially in real estate.

May 07, 2024 09:58 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Leanne - all contacts do not become connections.  Sometimes those things happen organically or in a way that may not be easily understood or explained.  And that's how life works.  Magically and in the course of a usual way of everyday living.  Come to think of it, that's rather magnificent, isn't it?  

May 07, 2024 07:22 AM
Leanne Smith

That is also correct, however one never knows when a connection can turn into a relationship.  Years ago a colleague said she doesn't know strangers, what she does know are friends she hasn't met yet.

May 07, 2024 09:59 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Leanne. Your story underscores why I'm very careful about my appearance, my demeanor, and my conversation in any public venue. You just never know... I've been stopped more than once in a supermarket by someone who asked if I'm Nina, the Realtor... because they've seen my face on signs in their neighborhood. Then they start asking questions about the market. I'm always thankful that I never leave my house looking like I just rolled out of bed.

May 07, 2024 08:14 AM
Leanne Smith

I am with you. Must say it took me a while to acclimate to the more casual dress code out here.  The dress code does make sense when getting in and out of trucks, walking vacant land, wearing boots for protection and carrying for additional protection. However, my hair is always groomed and I still wear limited jewelry. Tho quite sad having to donate my numerous business suits.

May 07, 2024 10:01 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Great post. I totally agree, you never know how a relationship starts or begins sometimes. I had an email out of the blue yesterday, an employee of a friend and connected to another friend. He was going to be buying a house on the Main Line could we talk. After talking, and discussing his needs and wants I sent over some listings and buyer agency forms. I don't think I ever pushed myself at him, he just knew I was in real estate and reached out.

May 07, 2024 08:28 AM
Leanne Smith

From my experience, pushing never works.  My favorite question after a conversation with a potential client who has not made a decision is "Where do we go from here?" Then I wait for an answer. If I talk first, I lose.

May 07, 2024 10:02 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

The statement that nobody cares how much you know.. They want to know how much you CARE!  My philosophy in Real Estate.

May 07, 2024 09:01 AM
Leanne Smith

We are on the same page Ginger Harper Teddy's words have been with me for many years.

May 07, 2024 10:02 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Leanne and you just never know where clients could come from.  I know of a Realtor that was at Home Depot area and people were buying carpeting, she mention to them that that was a nice color, then she ask why they are changing carpet and they said they want to sell their home, guess what.


May 07, 2024 09:11 AM
Leanne Smith

So true, I had a potential client stop me at a gas station due to the decals on my truck. We talked, he asked for my card and said in a few years he would be moving to NW AZ.  Who knows if he will call?

May 07, 2024 10:03 AM
Joan Cox

Will, it was countertops --- and I just responded to meeting them at Home Depot.  LOL

May 07, 2024 03:04 PM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

We're aligned, I'm wanting pull clients, not push.  It's part of what I love about blogging, the information is out there, and people tend to select or not select in concert with what we've published.

May 07, 2024 11:12 AM
Leanne Smith

I am an old school salesperson. Always believed in "pull" and not "push". Thanks for adding your experience to this ongoing dialogue.

May 07, 2024 11:20 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Leanne Smith

I love that this post was featured. You never know who you might connect with. And the worst that can happen is that you end up with a new friend or contact! Thanks for sharing.

May 07, 2024 12:39 PM
Leanne Smith

Actually I am always pleasantly surprised when a post is featured. You are more than welcome for the sharing

May 07, 2024 12:41 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good afternoon Leanne,

It is amazing how relationships can develop and where they can lead. Your story is the perfect example from one of my very favorite quotes by President Teddy Roosevelt! Congratulations on the featured post...well deserved.

May 07, 2024 02:02 PM
Leanne Smith

So glad others share Roosevelt's quote as his words as so true. And thank you for the congratulations for the featured post.  Always good to know one's writing efforts resonate with others.

May 07, 2024 02:14 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Leanne, you just never know when you will meet your next client.  I went to Home Depot looking at countertops and got a listing!   Congrats on your new clients.

May 07, 2024 03:03 PM
Leanne Smith

Thank you and congrats on your new listing as well.

May 08, 2024 06:37 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Love this, Leanne- friendships/ relationships of all kinds can happen anywhere if we're open to it. You never know. Be who you would want to meet and become friends with. 

May 07, 2024 05:58 PM
Leanne Smith

That is true and we must stay open minded as Endre Barath, Jr. shared in his comment.

May 08, 2024 06:37 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

the key is to be open minded and friendly; I never push what I do for a living until the conversation comes up by the other person asking.... on a side note congratulations on your Feature, Endre

May 07, 2024 09:35 PM
Leanne Smith

So true about being open minded and friendly. Thank you for the well wishes about the feature as well. Good morning Endre Barath, Jr. 

May 08, 2024 05:58 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I like making friends here and being under the learning tree a lot of you are a big part of that.

May 07, 2024 11:50 PM
Leanne Smith

Good morning Laura Cerrano and the learning tree here at AR provides a lot of shade (learning) for all of us.

May 08, 2024 05:58 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA

Serendipity: good luck in making fortunate and unexpected discoveries.     


May 08, 2024 05:32 PM
Leanne Smith

Yes so it appears and maybe having an intentional thought of talking to friends I do not know may also work. Good morning.

May 09, 2024 06:05 AM
Andrea Bedard
Thompson Company, REALTORS® 240.593.2860 - Silver Spring, MD
Fluent in Real Estate & German, M.A. ABR ASP CIPS

Thank you for sharing this experience, Leanne! I am with you and Nina Hollander, Broker, I always pay attention to how I look before leaving the house (that's also the European in me, I'd never go anywhere in my PJs as some people do here).

Years ago I was on a dating app. It was when people still used it to date not to find business or scam others. I connected with someone and we met for Happy Hour. We weren't a match romantically, but he became a very good friend and client. When we first met, he mentioned that he was an investor who had been working with the same Realtor for years. I told him how much I appreciate loyalty, and left it that. I didn't even give him my card. Months later, he reached out to buy his first of a few properties with me. His old Realtor had retired. I never pushed my business on him, we just connected socially and grew our friendship first.  

May 09, 2024 06:48 AM
Leanne Smith

Thank you and pushing never works in my humble opinion. Be open, be gracious, etc.

May 09, 2024 06:56 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Connections are like that they can be inexplicable magic or just regular depending on how you run into them

May 10, 2024 11:33 PM
Leanne Smith

Very true as I firmly believe "God" works in mysterious ways.

May 11, 2024 07:27 AM