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Honoring the Viet Nam Vets Who Died on Memorial Day Weekend

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You may know him as a celebrity, actor, songwriter, singer, but the face in the photo is Captain Kris Kristofferson. The song he wrote "For the Good Times," became a #1 hit for Ray Price. Kris Kristofferson joined the Army in 1960. He graduated from West Point and became a helicopter pilot serving in Viet Nam, following in the steps of his father, a Military Officer. He was born in Brownville, TX. I went to Brownville the year I moved to TX in 1997 for an Outdoor Women's Retreat teaching me survival skills. It was a very desolate place at the time I was there. 

Kris Kristofferson led an extraordinary life. There is a great article about him on www.alphahistory.com/vietnamwar/kriskristofferson-vietnam blues-1966. 

My favorite line of Kristofferson is 

I said 

It's a shame that every man who ever died

Up there that far off land

Was dying so that you wouldn't have to wake up dead.

The words in the screen under Kris Kristofferson's face are: "Vietnam veterans have a 90% divorce rate; 28% more like to divorce than non-veterans from the same time period."

Reading those words during my class last month at Olli/UNT gave me a sense of pride. You see, I was in the 10% that stayed married, until death do we part. 

I got to thinking last night about my own story and my spouse, who served in the jungles of Viet Nam, watching comrades die for their country. It had to be emotionally and physically painful. At least I know firsthand. As an engaged teenager, the soldier I was writing to, and receiving letters back from Vietnam, turned out to be my husband. I read, re-read, and read over, and over again, the airmail letters during his time in Viet Nam. Those letters kept me focused on my graduation from High School and the future. As it was written in his letters back to me, it helped him to focus on what could be possible. Survival became his mission. He fought for survival until his dying breath, outliving the doctor's prediction, he would die in 24-hours or less. The Lord must have been good to us. We had an extended 3 1/2 months together.

But I'm a strong woman. This in Memorial Day weekend 2024. I decided I wasn't going to wallow in sorrow. I made up my mind to have my own Celebration of Life for all those that died in Vietnam. Last night I played the songs of that era of the War in Viet Nam to help me to understand how important those songs written really were to the soldiers who served. After I was married, Credence Clearwater Revival records played endlessly.

In Celebration of Life for this Memorial Day Weekend, I played the music from the Vietnam War era to honor all soldiers who died there. I wondered, did the songwriters help them cope with their own demons from hell? Songs that hit me hard last night included:

  • "Run Through the Jungle," by Credence Clearwater Revival.
  • "Eve of Destruction," by Barry McGuire.
  • "Fortune Son," by Credence Clearwater Revival.
  • "For What It's Worth," by Buffalo Springfield.
  • Have You Ever Seen the Rain," by Credence Clearwater Revival

DeJa'Vu! With all the recent severe weather warnings, including last night and the thunderstorm with hail the night before, I was reminded. I never knew what a monsoon was until I received an airmail letter about 56 years ago telling me about the rain during monsoon season and what it was like in Viet Nam.  Hearing "Have You Ever Seen the Rain," went straight to my heart. That song brought back heavy memories. 

Yes! I did Celebrate the Life of the Soldiers gone, killed during Viet Nam. Those that survived did not get enough thanks and gratitude. Hopefully, you will feel compelled to Celebrate the Lives of lost soldiers too. Those that served and died during a very controversial war, are truly worthy of remembrance now and forever. They are not to blame. Also, those songs that Boomers heard and learned during the Vietnam War are extra special. Many of the lyrics are autobiographical. A few other soldiers, besides Kris Kristofferson included:

  • Buffalo Springfield: "For What It's Worth."
  • Crosby, Stills and Nash and by Young, "Four Dead in Ohio"
  • Charlie Pride, "Me and Bobby McGee."
  • PVT George Jones, "50,000 Names (Craved in the Wall) written by Jamie O'hara, 1999.

This blog post is strictly forbidden for AI or plagiarism. A lot of what I wrote is my own personal life experience. Notes were taken from a class I took at Olli/UNT and the Professor created the slides that I had permission to take. 


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Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Ah, Kris Kristofferson. I've always enjoyed his music.  I hope you are having an enjoyable holiday weekend, Patricia.

May 26, 2024 01:50 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Myrl Jeffcoat - Kris Kristofferson is one celebrity I truly respect. His music is always tasteful and meaningful. 

I am working this weekend, giving my time to a client. I hope your weekend is enjoyable.

May 27, 2024 02:56 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Patricia, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Clubgroup!  

May 26, 2024 01:51 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Myrl Jeffcoat - Thank you! 

I appreciate how much you have given to all of us on ActiveRain. 

May 27, 2024 02:57 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Patricia I enjoyed listening to Kris Kristofferson's music growing up, but did not realize he served in Vietnam. 

May 26, 2024 02:35 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

George Souto - I consider Kris Kristofferson to be a noble man with humility. You might enjoy reading his autobiography from the link I provided. 

May 27, 2024 02:59 AM
John Pusa
Glendale, CA

Hello Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP it is important to honor Vietnam Vets heroes who died on Memorial Day weekend. Have a great Memorial Day Weekend.

May 26, 2024 02:51 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Hello John Pusa - Memorial Day weekend always holds a special place in my heart.

This weekend I am working. I wish good thoughts for you today. 

May 27, 2024 03:01 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Patricia- he has always been a favorite of mine. Our good friend, Vic, was shot in the back and left for dead in Viet Nam. Thankfully he survived but still doesn't have a good night's sleep. 

May 26, 2024 05:59 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Kathy Streib - Truly, Memorial Day is a day to remember. 

I am sorry to learn about your good friend Vic. From all the Veterans I know who survived Viet Nam, and those I met coincidently and had personal conversations with, I always picked up quickly a torch still burns within those who served in Viet Nam. I'm not surprised to learn Vic doesn't sleep well. I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers.  

May 27, 2024 03:04 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Patricia Feager, MBA, CRS, GRI,MRP  when I was a Cadet at West Point, he came and did a concert and before he started he said, He cannot express his views and positions because that was part of the deal for him to perform:) I loved his show and knew that he was a CPT.... now with that said when I came to Los Angeles a few years later:))) he was staying at Shutters on the Beach in Santa Monica when I was working as a Security Guard waiting for my Real Estate License.... we had a fun conversation...Endre

May 26, 2024 11:29 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Endre Barath, Jr. - I hope you take the time to read the link I provided about Kris Kristofferson. I never stop learning from soldiers like Kris and others who served. 

When I posted the link, it was all about Kris Kristofferson. I noticed just now, the link changes but there is still a lot of interesting articles about history and war. 

May 27, 2024 03:06 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
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For some reason, I wasn't aware of Kris Kristopherson's military experience. Thank you for sharing. I have a cousin who served in Vietnam who still doesn't sleep well and who won't talk about his experience. :-(

May 27, 2024 05:34 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Good morning, Patricia... I had no clue about this history of Kris Kristofferson. We are of the same Viet Nam generations... and I'm often astounded by how crystal clear my memories of that very tumultuous time remain. To this day, the only war memorial I've ever visited that made me cry was the Viet Nam Memorial Wall.

May 27, 2024 06:07 AM