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LAND of REASONING (invest in this land)

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

We don't have to agree on everything NO! We are all unique, different and as such, have who we are, to ourselves and to others, that borders on the extra-ordinary by virtue of the fact that there is not another one like us. Ask yourself this: When we disagree, how do we go about doing it without compounding the original stance taken? Remember, the other guy stands too

Stop pretending YOU don't know. You are not a dummy

ENTER REASON 

When we agree to disagree, we are now entering an arena of intimacy, growth & risk. An up close, never before seen event that allows us to glimpse into another's world & feelings. The true process is driven by love. The false one by vanity. Be true

ANYONE CAN DO IT

In this busy & sometimes selfish world we live & contribute in, we tend to forget the quality of life in lieu of the quantity of it. More of anything appears like candy to the eye & ego. Thus, to pause, when encountering a difference of opinion & summon this dynamic of reasoning simply by asking questions, exploring answers & listening is to begin an unknown journey, highly personal in its nature

TRUE FRIENDSHIPS

To be able to KNOW (intimacy) someone, where they stand & how they feel & to honor that, are the things a lifetime is made out of. They will be remembered & cherished too. To appreciate another who doesn't agree with us is a form of respecting, loving & accepting them without proof or challenge

RESPECT and TRUST

When we reason, we are exploring the depths of the subject matter within all the persons beliefs & feelings involved. Just being heard is healing simply because it says without saying that we care enough to stop & pause in regard to another

LET'S TEST THIS REASONING PROCESS

Let's use the Richie Reverse Rule (RRR) & NOT reason with one another. Now we enter into the worlds of right & wrong, good & bad all being fueled by judgement that if left to continue turns into condemnation. Intimacy is lost. Distance replaces

TAKING SIDES IS NEXT

Clicks form & ostracize anyone who does not agree with the "gang".  Herd mentality now goes on point & all individuality is forsaken. Remember your uniqueness? No longer is this at work. Life becomes cheap & without meaning.

PERSPECTIVE NEEDS RESPECT

When someone who disagrees with you, shares & you discover something you never seen or considered, a gifting of satisfaction takes place. In the earthly parlance this is called another point of view. What causes this dynamic to appear?

DISCOVERY & ADVENTURE

When humans discover something, it leaves a positive signature making our personal stock go up. It also appeals to our sense of wonder called adventure. This is found when we engage one another, not agreeing but sharing with the results of REASONING paying us off wordlessly. How satisfying & meaningful an exchange

SOME PEOPLES BELIEFS ARE REALLY OUT THERE

I don't spend my reasoning on just anything that comes along either. I have met, & continue to meet; folks that have adapted & agreed to subjects I consider not to my liking. I have no desire to argue or explain either. Another approach is used

EYEBROWS GO UP

Perhaps a "I gotta go" is uttered. Oh I see. Interesting. Hmm. I hope that works out for you. The practice of NOT being disagreeable is at work while we disagree either silently or outright. At all times, Why argue? Condemn? Judge? If you are slightly interested in engaging, choose your words so that contention is not employed

NOTE: Being a good listener costs nothing & YOU sharpen your listening skills

WHAT WILL THEY SAY ABOUT YOU?

We are all actors on a stage, a grand movie in the making, many parts are being acted out & all without rehearsals. Life is a learning curve as no one has been here before. We all share this phenomenon. I may be learning or have learned something the other person hasn't or is in the process of. Why would I leave them with my worse impression? We control afterthoughts in the moments we are in

WE ARE SEEKING WHAT WE ALL HAVE IN COMMON

Common sense or our sense in common. It's so simple really if you consider it so. Insight, revelation, intuitiveness, logic and yes reason is in us all. Until one has a hold or grip on their own, one should MINE & MIND their own business. Do the work that clears the eye & ear, then you will see the other person objectively

Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Well said Richie. We were talking about this today. When we disallow differences of opinion in others we often lose. Walls go up and labels are given. We can agree to disagree. 

May 27, 2024 07:06 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

I like the way you put it Kathy Streib 

May 28, 2024 05:22 AM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

These times remind me that one can speak one's peace but again be open to others in a more civil manner.  Civility has gone with the fog!  ty!

May 28, 2024 05:03 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

You n ever know what to expect Ginny Gorman 

May 28, 2024 05:22 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Richie Alan Naggar ,

Such a thoughtful post. We can agree to disagree and we should. I don't understand so many not willing to listen to other opionions in our world today. I loved your last sentance "Do the work that clears the eye & ear, then you will see the other person objectively." So true.

May 29, 2024 11:15 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

you remain a joy Dorie Dillard Austin TX 

May 29, 2024 03:07 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Jun 01, 2024 08:14 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

Fresh Kathy Streib ....ahhh

Jun 02, 2024 06:34 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Richie. Stephen Covey said: "seek first to understand than to be understood". An ambitious undertaking.  Some seek disagree without being disagreeable. Also an ambitious undertaking. I sometimes find myself asking to terminate a conversation because try as I do I cannot explain my opinion sufficiently to gain the agreement  of the other guy. My fault, not his. Enjoy your day.

Jun 02, 2024 05:23 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Wayne Martin ...you are describing a journey that makes sense. Carry-on

Jun 02, 2024 06:34 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Even when I state "we agree to disagree" the other person continues on his or her diatribe. Unfortunately between the lack of emotional intelligence which is often present in common sense as well as the lack of cognitive thinking skills beyond the 30 second sound bites, the ability to have a respectful discussion has gone the way of the DoDo Bird.

Jun 02, 2024 08:41 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Make allowances for people being in different times & places PLUS processing either in the moment or via hindsight your interaction/dissatisfaction. Say your peace, best you can, and leave the rest to faith Leanne Smith 

Jun 02, 2024 08:44 AM
Leanne Smith

That is true and I do leave the rest to faith.  No use beating a dead horse.

Jun 02, 2024 08:47 AM