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WE DON'T HAVE TO AGREE (but)

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with people first...then business Ran Right Realty 636943 licensed to thrill

Points of view, perspectives, emotions, considerations, trauma, ignorance & individual beliefs reside within people, some of the time, in combos & in different situations too. That's part of what makes people so interesting is that we don't know them until we start to do so. Then, whoever & whatever they are makes itself known. Same goes for you too

who is this guy?      what does he know?

HOWDY DO

A general greeting, a good morning or such, an expression of manners (excuse me), courtesy and random chance encounters bring out expressions & a little glimpse of what's inside the person you are looking & hearing at fleeting or in place. Then, we begin (or not) to know more, if we choose. Eight billion people are on this program including you. However, practicing this requires a little work

MUTUAL AGREEMENT?

If we don't have to agree, interact or discuss, we all remain an arm's length as we come & go, from points A to points B commonly referred to as our daily activities.  It becomes interesting when we engage, dialog, exchange or converse with or without purpose. For the most part it is safe & normal with rare negativity.

IGNORING SOMEONE?

This is not a normal dynamic unless we purpose it to be so. Usually there are reasons that people avoid others deliberately & sometimes it is just out of rudeness, being in a hurry, justification or ill manners. The following is a good example of this introduced point.

MEET & GREET

Entering a room, attending a meeting or gathering, calls for greetings & introductions & at the very least acknowledging people. I am taken back when I see one person, approach two others, just talks with one ignoring the other. You see this in different scenarios too. Here is the minimum gesture required

EYE CONTACT

This silent greeting does good work. If you follow it up (optional), even better but, to completely shun, look away or pretend someone is not there when they are says finesse, personal interactions, social graces & minimum respect is lacking of sort

LEARNED BEHAVIOR?

In different cultures, civilizations & scenarios, it is considered inappropriate to speak to a stranger let alone be introduced to one. However, barring this, America promotes random & deliberate interaction both personal & professional among its citizens. Perhaps the many don't know how or are afraid to risk? Time to learn

THE ARGUMENT

When people get together, certain subjects trigger or call for one to not only take a side but share one too. What you find out is the many do not know how to disagree without confronting, taking away or dismissing the other persons stance

EXAMPLES OF THIS FOLLOW:

1. Religion sets people off. Why is this? Could it be because it is such a personal subject that when you don't agree with it, people take it personally. Not wanting to go there is the preferred safe & neutral ground. However, if you can listen, then share or perhaps comment, without declaring war (LOL), you would gain insights

2. Politics have people's eyebrows rise, eyes bulge & triggers defense posture along with avoiding those that step out & invite conversation. This is so personal that everyone pre-agrees to leave it alone. Why? It requires taking a side. The majority will not go there unless they have to. The ones that can share, debate & honor gain

WHAT WE MUST NEVER DO 

Ignore the primary value of being or speaking with another regardless of why. Withholding your true feelings is not a pleasant option either nor does the average person want to inflict any type of emotional, mental harm on another. We are all guests here...is a great way to perceive & to consider an action or not

RESPECTFULLY DISAGREE

Now we come to the famous phrase of " disagree but do not become disagreeable".  Easy to say harder to do as we all know. Yet the opposite is true. To not disagree? To ignore our own journey & beliefs & those of others? Let's not

PREPARE YOURSELF to PRACTICE 

I have heard points of view, religions, politics, medical, professional, personal, marriage & sexual advice that boggles, offends & borders on incredible but I remain an observer & listener. Tact, which invokes sensitivity in dealing with others can rescue & buy time. Tact is a tool & it works!

NEUTRAL COMMENTS

Sometimes things come up, & when they do, we must respond for the better. 

a. Interesting

b. I didn't know that

c. Are you sure?

d. Hope all goes well

e. Thanks for sharing

f. Gotta run

Now you may say I don't want to be bothered with any of this & so be it. However, those that are in customer service, retail, professional or personal fields or the commissions world have to be ready to not offend, make their impression & handle what comes. We don't have to agree, but we know not to offend, judge or continually argue or what is the point of being here? Live & let live & learn

Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Richie Alan Naggar  Famous words for those in the professional world: learn not to offend. Sometimes it is best to keep your thoughts to one's self and just listen. When I first entered Real Estate, an instructor taught a good agent would learn to listen. Only then would you become successful.

Jun 12, 2024 02:52 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

Hannah Williams ...we forget that we are in a constant learning curve requiring us to explore, first ourselves & then others with everything else in between. What a journey!

Jun 13, 2024 05:25 AM
Ginny Gorman
RI Real Estate Services ~ 401-529-7849~ RI Waterfront Real Estate - North Kingstown, RI
Homes for Sale in Southern RI and beyond

Richie, such a mind provoking post!  It behooves me to ' I have to run' appears to be my escape line & mechanism in these divisive times.  As I have aged I believe I have the right to say what is on my mind as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.  So be it!

Jun 12, 2024 05:31 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

Ginny Gorman ...we have and are going, through life together yes/? Your comment brings to mind Auld Land Syne or times gone by. Travel well

Jun 13, 2024 05:23 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Ritchie,

You've done it again created a post to get us thinking and pondering. We are taught to listen to be successful in sales. We do have to be ready to not offend, or judge & handle what comes our ways. Sometimes just not agreeing with someone else is enough.

Jun 12, 2024 06:32 PM
Richie Alan Naggar

Hello Dorie Dillard Austin TX ...yes to your commenting thank you. Whatever we are taught, has to be tested thus our lifespans

Jun 13, 2024 05:22 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Richie - for me, you have reinforced that we live in a big world, but it is quite small in some ways, maybe many.  Filled with more stories to see, share and sort through.  It's both complicated and so simple.  Thanks for the post.  

Jun 13, 2024 04:30 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Michael Jacobs ...I like the way you commented. The microcosm & the macrocosm is very much a part of our journey & demands respect

Jun 13, 2024 05:20 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Good morning!

Ignoring someone who approaches is just rude. If in the middle of a conversation I think it's fine to say, Hello, be right there!

Whether I talk about religion or politics all depends on how it is brought up and by who. Context matters. Someone I don't know whose first words are argumentative? Nah. I'll pass.

 

Jun 13, 2024 05:22 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Your commenting demonstrates that you have a handle on your life, its submissions & the part you play Kat Palmiotti ...nicely shared thank you

Jun 13, 2024 05:31 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Realtor

Hi Richie... I've never understood why it's so hard for people to just listen and not judge. Where ever did we get the idea that everyone needs to agree with us?

Jun 13, 2024 06:27 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Nina Hollander, Broker ...we were tricked into believing it so dear lady

Jun 13, 2024 09:39 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

How about: "Interesting. Tell me more because that is quite different from my perspective." Often people draw their conclusions from false information... or maybe your perception has been skewed by erroneous information.

Jun 14, 2024 09:01 AM
Richie Alan Naggar

Excellent contribution to further the posting point thank you Carol Williams 

Jun 14, 2024 10:31 AM