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Look For The Silver Lining.

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I don't believe that there is always a silver lining but most of the time we can find it if we look hard enough. Many decades ago I attempted to join my fathers Life Insurance agency, it wasn't a good fit. Two things stuck out to me in the training I received. #1) Ninety nine of 100 agents who get licensed fail and drop out in their first year (similar to Real Estate) and #2) that out of 100 (cold call) sales calls you make you will be rejected 99 times. The "pep" talk was that when you get rejected to say to yourself: I'm one closer to success. Yuck!

The silver lining to my horrible experience was that it did prep me for future jobs.

As a young man (boy) I learned that when I used sarcasm I got a lot of laughs. I learned this bad habit as an avid fan of MAD Magazine and a book series they put out called "Snappy Answers To Stupid Questions". 

I think many "sit-com" writers have read and studied these books. As an adult Christian man I think these books are pure poison to a child. The silver lining to me is that once I became a Christian I realized how snappy (snarky) answers are hurtful and not relationship builders.

I am NOT a pessimist today so I do encourage you to keep looking for that silver lining. You may not find it right away but as it took me years to get past that sarcasm stage I did get past it and the silver lining is a mindset of caring instead of condemning.

 

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Michael Elliott
Fathom Realty - Burlington Township, NJ
Burlington, New Jersey Residential Sales

I love today's cartoon, Bob.  Sometimes, the silver lining isn't readily seeable.  Have a great weekend!

Jun 22, 2024 02:16 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Thank you Michael Elliott . Some times it takes years to see that silver lining.

Jun 22, 2024 06:30 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Bob. I learned years ago to look for the silver lining. Sometimes I came up short and sometimes what I felt was the silver lining others would have laughed at me. Enjoy your day.

Jun 22, 2024 04:24 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I've come a long ways Wayne Martin but I still fail from time to time.

Jun 22, 2024 06:34 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

You may not see the silver lining until a long time later, or maybe never. But I do think one exists.

Jun 22, 2024 05:13 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

That's for sure Kat Palmiotti . I have a story I should share about a very dark day in my life and it's silver lining. Watch for it as you have me thinking.

Jun 22, 2024 06:47 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Looking forward to the story

Jun 23, 2024 04:24 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Not that I have any grass in my yard, but if I did, I would much prefer having something that would eat it rather than me having to mow it, haha.

Jun 22, 2024 06:25 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

My son and I mowed the lawn today and I am in total agreement with you Brian England 

Jun 22, 2024 06:50 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thanks, Bob, for sharing some of your personal experience.

Have an outstanding weekend. We have unusually hot weather in Maryland.

Jun 22, 2024 07:13 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I've been hearing about your heat wave Roy Kelley . Today was close enough to hot for me that my son and I installed our window AC units.

Jun 22, 2024 06:52 PM
Roy Kelley

Our exterior thermostat reached 102 degrees on Saturday afternoon.  We are thankful for excellent central air conditioning in our home.

Jun 23, 2024 04:22 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Bob,

I do feel there is a silver lining it's just sometimes it takes a while to find it. Sometimes we are just not open to it!

Jun 22, 2024 08:51 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Right on Dorie Dillard Austin TX . Sometimes we are not looking in the right direction.

Jun 22, 2024 06:54 PM
Dennis Neal
Exp Realty of Southern California, Inc. - Big Bear Lake, CA
Your Home Sold in 21 Days or We Sell It For Free

Hi, Tim. I think that this is a message that is easy to overlook but truly important. The constant use of sarcasm is poison and it is promoted as a virtue.

Jun 22, 2024 09:14 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Yup. The habit of sarcasm is hard to break because it usually gets laughs and attention and when it stops you feel left out Dennis Neal .

Jun 22, 2024 06:57 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Bob, I forgot about the Mad magazine back in the old days.  Thank you for making me think of them.

Jun 22, 2024 09:45 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I loved Mad Magazine Will Hamm but I do think it had a negative effect on me that lasted for years.

Jun 22, 2024 07:01 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Bob,
I'm of the same mind at Dorie Dillard Austin TX. I believe there is a silver lining in just about everything. It doesn't always show itself right away but eventually it reveals itself.

Jun 22, 2024 09:56 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Sometimes we just don't look hard enough or in the right places Carol Williams and like you and Dorie Dillard Austin TX said, sometimes it takes time.

Jun 22, 2024 07:06 PM
Carol Williams

Hi Bob "RealMan" Timm 
This is clear in the scripture Romans 8:28

Jun 23, 2024 07:05 AM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Thank you for that scripture Carol Williams as I forgot to apply it here.

Jun 23, 2024 11:31 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Hi Bob... I don't think in terms of silver linings, but I am a positive person in terms of seeing a glass half full, not half empty. As for Mad Magazine... it was totally banned in our home when I was kid so I know little about it.

Jun 22, 2024 01:00 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

Now you have me curious Nina Hollander, Broker as to why it was banned. I wish my folks would have had the insight that yours did.

Jun 22, 2024 07:12 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Bob "RealMan" Timm good morning, Bob... all cartoons and comics were banned in our house... my mother did not care for that part of American culture. Most TV shows were also no allowed.

Jun 23, 2024 04:39 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Bob- the silver lining or "good" is out there but we may not be ready for it. It is within us we just need the right mindset. 

Jun 22, 2024 01:20 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

"we may not be ready for it."   is exactly right Kathy Streib .

Jun 22, 2024 07:17 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Bob "RealMan" Timm  when I left the Military I gave it a try to be an Insurance Agent... like you it was not for me instead I ended up going into Contract Security Management.... and the silver lining was it pushed me into Real Estate:)Endre

Jun 22, 2024 09:01 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I was a security guard for a year Endre Barath, Jr. but they never got me off of the graveyard shift or split shifts and that is why I moved on.

Jun 23, 2024 11:34 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Hi Bob I'm with you on the snarky remarks. I had an uncle who dished out a lot of snark and I just never got the humor in it.  Some folks apparently did but not moi!  He was so opposite of my Dad and yet somehow those two got along fine.  Finding the silver lining is the key, sometimes it's easy, other times not so much.

Jun 23, 2024 03:45 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

You summed it up well Anna "Banana" Kruchten .

Jun 23, 2024 05:41 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

Here in Sacramento, we have herds of sheep and goats that gnaw down our grassy recreational areas.  There is usually a dog or two, that keeps watch over the herd.   

Jun 24, 2024 07:43 PM
Bob "RealMan" Timm

I know we have a heard of wild mustangs in The Theodore Roosevelt Park here in ND Myrl Jeffcoat but I don't think grazing is their purpose. Interestingly enough the National Park people want to get rid of them but "we the people" love them and get the State Senators and our Representative involved and then the National Parks people back off. It's been ongoing for decades.

Jun 25, 2024 07:48 AM