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Do Not Bring Feels To A Fact Fight

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Do Not Bring Feels To A Fact Fight

Searching out reliable data is a No. 1 priority in my real estate practice. The focus when representing clients has always been facts over feelings because emotions cloud judgment or encourage impulsive decisions..

Effective negotiation requires a cool head and a clear focus on achieving the best outcome. High emotions on either side of a transation may hinder progress, create tension or cause parties to firmly dig in their heels.

Lending an empathic ear when clients voice fears and concerns builds trust and mutual respect. Of course, using humor sometimes relieves tension for those who may be overly concerned. Know your audience.

When people become emotionally charged, they're less likely to listen to others, accept helpful advice or understand anyone else's point of view, only their own. Misunderstandings and conflicts tend to result. 

Cooler heads prevail in business transactions, opening up a more professional, fair, and effective environment for everyone. You are the trusted professional and need to maintain that stance at all costs. 

Objectivity and logic rule. Ya feel me?

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Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

Unfortunately, this is a place our world has come in general. It is also hard to argue because "feels" can be totally irrational. 

Sep 23, 2024 06:27 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Some people should have been given more than just a 'time out' as children Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty, as we are observing!

Sep 23, 2024 09:03 AM
Adam Feinberg
Elegran - Manhattan, NY
NYC Condo, Co-op, and Townhouse Advisor

I am and always have been a data and facts guy. I worked in Finance for many years prior to becoming an agent- and that alone tells you a lot about who I am. I worked alongside Quantitative Analysts, Econometricians, Accountants, etc - so for me it's always about facts and figures...so much so that I have to remind myself that there also needs to be at least a small place in the equation for emotion and feelings in the form of empathy though it must remain in perspective. I discuss with my clients the facts and stats- but also discuss with them the psychological components of negotiations and I break it down for them where these hazards could come into play. 

Sep 23, 2024 01:12 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
HomeSmart Real Estate - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Wanda whenever I've run across 'emotional agents or clients' I usually simply step back , assess the situation and do what needs to be done to take the emotion out of it. That could look like, a short break, asking a few simply questions, who knows. Almost everyone comes around, there's only been a few over the years that simply operate from that space and seem to enjoy it.  I can think of one in particular.  Wowser......he even laid it on one of our best lenders. That did shock me.  Never did that to me because he probably knew I had ways of dealing with ****!

Sep 24, 2024 09:22 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! 
Lots of good advice! Pure thinking requires focus and emotions can dilute focus.
All the best - Lynn

Sep 24, 2024 08:48 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

It does really help to recognize your feelings as they come to you so you can find the facts within the chaos.

Sep 24, 2024 11:45 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Running a fact-backed business is expected and respected, as it should be, Adam Feinberg. Thank you for the support!

Sep 25, 2024 05:22 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Tamping down emotions better serves everyone, Anna "Banana" Kruchten. One time, I had to tell an agent that it was better to text or e-mail all further communication after she got heated on a call.

It was proven that she couldn't control her frustrations or mouth over the seller's decisions, who happened to be my client! 

Sep 25, 2024 05:29 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Wanda  one time there was a know it all agent with a bad, nasty temper.  He called me about some contract and thought he could yell his mouth off at me.  HA. I told him, I am going to hang up now and do NOT call me back until you can talk to me civilly. I will continue to hang up on you if you don't.  He tried one more time....I  hung up.  Of course at that point I called his broker and asked him to get control over his agent.  He did and the problem was solved.  No need to put up with such nasty behavior from anyone.

Sep 25, 2024 09:55 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Thank you Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375, so glad that you agree with the message of this post!

Sep 25, 2024 05:31 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Our industry depends on facts to fulfill the goals that clients wish to achieve. Getting there causes feelings of achievement and contentment, Laura Cerrano.

We can all use more of them!

Sep 25, 2024 05:36 AM
Ginger Harper
Coldwell Banker Sea Coast Advantage~ Ginger Harper Real Estate Team - Southport, NC
Your Southport~Oak Island Agent~Brunswick County!

So true.  Feels is an emotional thing.  Unless you have facts...you may not win.

Sep 25, 2024 07:36 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Emotions are powerful, moving forward with facts will get everyone closer to goals, Ginger Harper. I'm sticking to that!

Sep 25, 2024 10:14 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

GREAT POST Wanda!  It's so important to think big picture and finding a solution versus narrowing down on representing one client!  I've had to clarify big picture to buyers agents before and it's not an easy process! 

Sep 25, 2024 11:02 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Thank you so much, Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ. Expectations set up front prevents many problems down the road plus educating clients is at the top of the To-Do List too!

Sep 25, 2024 05:52 PM
Kris Collis, Associate Broker
Smart Way America Realty - East Stroudsburg, PA
Professional Results you Expect 570-801-5525

Wanda, thanks for another white pill for the professional agent who skillfully relies on rationality when the heat threatens to derail communications, even the transaction.

I hardily support Anna and others who make civility the rule and force the broker to rein in their agent's nonsense.

Sep 25, 2024 06:35 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I agree with all of this. It’s always good to recognize your emotions in this exact way…

Sep 25, 2024 10:43 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

We have many hats to wear as agents and often that hat is to remain calm, cool, and collected.

Sep 26, 2024 04:48 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

Yes, "cooler heads prevail" in most cases. It is good to remember that no amount of "feel" can change facts to falsehoods.

Sep 26, 2024 09:13 AM
Ricardo Mello
Manhattan Miami Real Estate - Manhattan, NY
Manhattan & Miami Real Estate Agent

Agree!

Sep 28, 2024 03:03 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

That makes 2 of us, Ricardo Mello!

Sep 28, 2024 06:38 PM