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Redefining Yourself: Choosing Who You Become, Not What Happens to You

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899

The quote "I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become." by Carl Jung speaks to me profoundly. While our past experiences undeniably shape us, they don't have to define who we are. It's a reminder that we have the power to decide the trajectory of our lives, regardless of what has happened before.

Too often, people get caught up in the narrative that their circumstances or challenges have set the course for their identity. I frequently hear this in the form of excuses—statements like "I can't help it; this is just the way I am because of what I went through." But this mindset can become a self-fulfilling prophecy that limits personal growth and potential.

I truly believe that no matter what trials, setbacks, or even traumas we’ve endured, we each have the ability to make a conscious choice about the person we want to become. It's not easy, growth rarely is, but it starts with rejecting the idea that we're merely products of our past. Instead, we can use those experiences as fuel for growth, resilience, and transformation.

At its core, this quote is about empowerment. It urges us to take responsibility for our future, to stop letting circumstances dictate who we are, and to start becoming the person we aspire to be. It's about harnessing the freedom we all have to rewrite our story, regardless of how the previous chapters unfolded.

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Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

I like your quote selection. This is a good message for all of us.

Have an outstanding week.

Oct 21, 2024 06:42 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Thank you Roy Kelley for stopping by!

Oct 21, 2024 06:47 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Dorie... can't add anything to what you wrote except "yup!"

Oct 21, 2024 07:01 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Thank you Nina Hollander, Broker !

Oct 21, 2024 06:47 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I do see much of what is being preached today by those in power telling us we are victims based on any number of crazy reasons. Take control of your own life, do not believe others are the reason for your failure, or success for that matter.

Oct 21, 2024 07:14 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

AMEN to that Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty 

Oct 21, 2024 06:47 PM
Michael Elliott
Fathom Realty - Burlington Township, NJ
Burlington, New Jersey Residential Sales

God bless you for this post.   Love it,  perfect for a Monday when I don't feel my best.  Thank you!

Oct 21, 2024 07:51 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

I hope Michael Elliott things are looking up for you this evening!

Oct 21, 2024 06:48 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Good morning, Dorie.
I totally agree!!! I know a few people who need to embrace this truth.

Oct 21, 2024 08:51 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

I do too Carol Williams 

Oct 21, 2024 06:48 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Dorie and thank you for the blog and quotes to share with us today in the Rain.  Make it a great start to the week.

 

Oct 21, 2024 09:13 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Thank you Will Hamm for stopping by!

Oct 21, 2024 06:48 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

I love this Dorie- So many people try to make us victims or some choose to become victims. We can control how we act and react. It's in our power to do so!!! We can play the poor pitiful me or tell ourselves that we're not accepting that and become who we choose to be!!

Oct 21, 2024 11:43 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

We have choices Kathy Streib nd it doesn't need to be wallowing in self-pity!

Oct 21, 2024 06:49 PM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

HI Dorie Dillard Austin TX. Thank you for sharing your insightful reflections on personal empowerment; your ability to distill such profound ideas about identity and growth is truly inspiring. I appreciate the encouragement to choose our own paths, regardless of our pasts!

Oct 21, 2024 12:48 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

We don't have to continue a path of destruction Lew Corcoran we can turn it around if we choose to want to make a change.

Oct 21, 2024 06:50 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

I agree with you, Dorie.  It is important to focus on who we wish to become.

Oct 21, 2024 01:27 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Yes it is important to focus on what we want to be Myrl Jeffcoat 

Oct 21, 2024 06:51 PM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

CONGRATULATIONS Dorie, on having this blog FEATURED in the Old Farts Clubgroup!  

Oct 21, 2024 01:29 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Thank you for the featured post Myrl Jeffcoat ..most appreciated.

Oct 21, 2024 06:51 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Dorie I completely agree.  "While our past experiences undeniably shape us, they don't have to define who we are."

Oct 21, 2024 04:38 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Its is true George Souto ..we have choices and we just have to exercise the positive choice!

Oct 21, 2024 06:52 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Outstanding sharing of how not to be engulfed in the entitlement mentality.  I live by these words as well "For to be, is up to me."

Oct 22, 2024 09:27 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Dorie, boy is THAT the truth.  With all that happened in my childhood, I could have ended up homeless or a drug addict.   WE choose who we want to be, no matter what we have been through.

Oct 22, 2024 02:30 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Dorie Dillard Austin TX- Carl Jung got me through the hardest times of my life. His philosophy helped me to cope after death. I spent hours, days, months and years reading about Carl Jung. I have a wall saying: "Your Vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart." ---Carl Jung

Oct 24, 2024 03:51 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

So true! Wherever we are is just a starting point to where we will be. It's all up to us where we take that journey.

Oct 26, 2024 05:01 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Oct 26, 2024 06:16 PM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

What a powerful post and message, too bad there is no gold star with this post. Now just to be clear I have understood that what my background, history and experiences have influenced who I became. Nevertheless, I look at that as the foundation for a house, then I build on it. I consider myself still working on it so I am a work in progress. Endre

Oct 27, 2024 03:52 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Beautiful post, Dorie. Our words and thoughts have so much power.

Oct 27, 2024 05:10 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Great post Dorie, love the viewpoint and so very true. Well put.

Oct 28, 2024 08:43 AM
Michael J. Perry
Fathom Realty - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

Well I took your post literally and left Keller Williams. Thanks to Michael Elliott  I’ve landed with Fathom Realty and want to help them build their presence in PA  

Oct 29, 2024 01:47 PM