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Appreciating the Positives in our Lives: Thankful That I was Watching

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Real Estate Agent with Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754

Thankful That I was Watching

Real estate is a business that requires knowledge, caring and the ability to respond quickly. It is not about just opening a door, waiting for a buyer to look through a house and then wondering if this is the one they want to buy. Or at least that is my belief.

When the market favors buyers, it becomes necessary to try and make sure that what they are seeing has the potential of offering the shelter and comforts they seek and not become a money pit, unless of course they are seeking a fixer upper.

 

As a youngster, we were often with our father when he was doing a side job to help someone he knew and also make a few extra dollars. He had only 2 years of high school in Portugal and as this was in the early 1930's, it was necessary for all to work the land to survive.

When he came back to the states in 1939, he was doing odd jobs before landing a permanent job as a welder for the American Brass Co in Waterbury, CT. He always had his eyes open watching what he was doing as well as those around him.

In 1942, he was drafted and went into the navy, where he was assigned as a machinist mate and worked in the engine room of a destroyer escort. For 3 years he worked and kept his eyes open, acting as a sponge learning.

Once discharged, he went back to his job, married and focused on their future.

With a 30-year mortgage of $8,000, he would talk of not sleeping at night thinking about how he was going to pay it off.

This forced him to seek out part time work as a handyman. He never said no to anyone and would never charge by the hour, explaining that he had to do these jobs while balancing everything else. My suspicion was he needed the time to consider how it was going to be done, and as he was still working in a factory, ask some of the maintenance staff for some help to do what he had to do.

When he would be doing these jobs, we would be with him as babysitters was not in the budget, and mom was also working and taking care of the house. So, we went along to clean up, stay out of trouble and watch.

Carpentry, electrical work, plumbing, siding, masonry we saw it all, and I watched.

A summer job I had was working for a company that made factory-built homes. While talking about abilities, and tools, I must have answered properly as I was given a job in the gables dept and not on the general floor as I had my own tools.

That job required precise measuring, reading blueprints, not make too much scrap and not get hurt. On occasion, we would go into the field to a job site and assist the crews erecting the homes. I still know where a few of these homes are here in Prospect, CT.

As a real estate agent, I can go into a house and glance while the buyers are looking and make a few notes. If they buy the house, I am ready for the inspections.

I am known as a straight talker and when meeting with an inspector before they start, I would mention what I had seen. It became routine for those inspectors that knew me to ask where I wanted them to look closer.

The lessons I learned while watching my father helped me to recognize what I needed to address in my own homes. It was the way I looked at houses when we were buying our current property that got me into real estate as our then agent commented that she had never seen agents look that closely.

Now I use what I had learned to help buyer clients to avoid large money problems as well as sellers when preparing to go into the system.

Thanks, dad, for the education in life as you tried to create ours. 

This is a post for the November, ActiveRain Challenge of Thanksgiving.

 

Thankful That I was Watching

 

 

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Edward (Ed) Silva

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Mapleridge Realty LLC

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Dennis Neal
Exp Realty of Southern California, Inc. - Big Bear Lake, CA
Your Home Sold in 21 Days or We Sell It For Free

What a heartfelt and inspiring story, Ed. Your ability to weave personal history into your real estate expertise showcases how deeply rooted your care for clients is. It’s clear that the lessons you learned from your father translate into a hands-on, thoughtful approach that sets you apart in helping buyers and sellers make informed decisions.

Nov 25, 2024 09:32 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

What a heart-warming story about your Dad, Ed, and all the lessons you learned from being with him. Not having the money to pay for baby sitters paid off big for you!

Nov 25, 2024 10:21 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good afternoon Ed. Your Dad did odd jobs out of necessity. You picked up tips for future opportunities.  Big difference. Enjoy your day;

Nov 25, 2024 10:26 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good afternoon Ed,

I love that you were watching and picked up so much from your dad! What golden nuggets you came away with. Very heartwarming story that I loved reading.

Nov 25, 2024 11:23 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Ed,
I love that you have such fond memories of the lessons you learned from your Dad. I think the parents of our generation were skilled in a lot of things and very resourceful due to lack of money. The men knew how to fix and build things, and the women knew how to provide healthy and hearty meals on a budget while raising large families. That's not a sexist comment. It's just the way it was back then. I think WWII changed things. During the war, my mother worked in the shipyards welding, and I'm sure other women did men's jobs that needed to be done because the men were at war. My mother didn't work after my Dad came home, but I think it started a shift in family dynamics.

My husband grew up on a farm in the 30s and knew how to fix and build things. He was a handy guy to have around.

Nov 25, 2024 12:36 PM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

Thank you, Ed Silva, 203-206-0754, for sharing such a heartfelt tribute to your father's influence on your journey in real estate. Your appreciation for the skills gained through observation and experience is both timeless and inspiring, reminding us that the lessons learned from family can shape our paths in profound ways.

Nov 25, 2024 01:16 PM
John Pusa
Glendale, CA

Hello Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 very valuable inspirational great memories post about your dad and you.

Nov 25, 2024 02:21 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Ed I absolutely love the inspiring story about how your Dad taught you kids....well.  He clearly wanted you all to be successful at what you did and WOW....he started you off on the right path!  Excellent entry into the November Challenge!

 

Featured in BananaTude!

 

Nov 25, 2024 03:38 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Ed- I remember your speaking of your father before. What I love is that this is what I think of when someone talks about fathers and sons and the lessons they learn. 

Nov 25, 2024 07:46 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh, Ed! The apple clearly didn't fall from the tree! I love this story and all of the lessons you learned from your Dad will always be with you. 

I found it funny because I remember my grandfather telling me similar stories of worrying so very much about that mortgage hanging over his head. That generation wanted ZERO debt but, they knew homeownership was critical to personal wealth. It was definitely a rock and a hard place for them! 

Thank you again for all of your wonderful entries in this month's challenge. I've enjoyed reading them all!

Nov 25, 2024 09:10 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Ed - nicely told.  It seems to me that children "see" much that can make a lifelong impact on them.  Shadow of the leader comes to my mind while reading your post.   

Nov 26, 2024 03:13 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Wow, your Dad sounds like such an amazing man who was always willing to do what it took to take care of his family!  All Dads should set this kind of example for their kids.

Nov 26, 2024 03:24 AM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Ed, You learned so much from your dad, and sure you are grateful for the lessons and memories you shared with him! 

Nov 26, 2024 07:09 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Ed:

What an inspiring reflection about your Dad, and the wonderful memories and life lessons that impact you to this day. I so enjoyed reading your beautiful gratitude post.

Jeff

Nov 26, 2024 12:34 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Ed a lot of what I am able to do around the house today, like you, I learned from watching my father.

Nov 26, 2024 12:48 PM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

What you learned while watching your Dad work has helped helped you throughout your life. You learned skills and you learned standards of performance.

Nov 27, 2024 10:37 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754  You do have skills from watching your Dad. I watched my Dad, but I cannot do what he did. I think you also have to have a knack and a natural ability. 

Let's not forget your outstanding ability with people :0)  

Happy Thanksgiving my Friend   

Nov 28, 2024 09:21 AM