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The best gift you can give is one from the heart!

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Real Estate Agent with Progressive Realty (Boise Idaho) www.Progressive-Realty.info DB-17066

In the December 2024 ActiveRain Challenge, it was asked what the best gift to give might be.  To me, it is any gift from the heart. It doesn't have to be expensive, it just has to be meaningful.

I think this resonates with me since I always loved the song and the meaning behind "The Little Drummer Boy".

I remember for my 14th birthday, my parents took me to a restaurant where my brother worked.  He said "How would you like a brand new bicycle for your birthday?" Of course I was elated and enthusiastically said "YES. He replied, "Great, you come in on Monday to work and start earning it."  I worked there for 3 years and bought myself way more than a bike!

Then, many years later, my wife and I had a great friend that worked at the same company as my wife.  When my wife was having a bad day, the friend would call me to inform me it was "Flower Day".  I would send or deliver flowers to cheer my wife up.  She never learned that her friend helped me be a better husband since I always seemed to care when it was needed.

Last year, I was dating a woman with a very giving heart.  When we would go out to lunch or dinner, she would have some handmade pins or hair accessories that she would give to the bartender or wait staff.  She presented those gifts at the beginning of our service, and they meant more to them than a $20 tip, even though I still tipped generously on top of that for the holidays.

She made me a shirt with a snowman sewn on the back since she knew I loved to ski and be outdoors.  Even though we are no longer dating, I still love the gift and wear it often since it goes perfect with my Santa hat and beard.  The fact I still think highly of her helps too.

She is a "Jeep Girl" and loves giving away little plastic ducks as part of that tradition.  Therefore, one of the gifts I gave her was a box of 100 ducks so she could enjoy regifting them.

As I reminisce about impact of gifts and presents, I recall the story of the little kid that wanted $20 for Christmas because she knew her father made $40 an hour, and wanted to buy 30 minutes of his time so they could be together.  That made me sad, yet it drove the point home!

I think about the story my mother shared about the psychological study of the two twin boys regarding optimism and pessimism. They locked the two boys up separately, one in a room full of candy and toys; while the other one was locked in a room full of manure.  A few hours later, they came to check on the children and the kid with all the toys and candy was crying because all the batteries were dead and he had a stomach ache.  They got really concerned for the second child and when they checked on him, he was excitedly throwing handfuls of crap all over with a huge smile on his face.  When asked, he said "With all this crap, there has to be a pony in here somewhere!"

The moral of this blog is that gifts do not have to be expensive, they just have to have true meaning.  I also recall a seminar I went to when I was first starting in real estate nearly 35 years ago, when the instructor said "They won't care how much you know, until they know how much you care!"

Merry Christmas to all, and to all a good night!

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Sham Reddy CRS
Howard Hanna RE Services, Dayton, OH - Dayton, OH
CRS

Great message Jim, always great to see you on the AR Zoom calls.

Gifts do not have to be expensive, they just have to have true meaning. "They won't care how much you know, until they know how much you care!"

Dec 04, 2024 03:39 AM
Jim Paulson

Thanks Sham Reddy CRS I anticipate coming to Ohio to do a Matterport virtual tour for a friend of mine getting ready to sell their amazing home in Indian Hills in Cincinnati this spring.  It looks like you are roughly an hour away so maybe we can meet in person while I am there. 

Dec 04, 2024 12:34 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Jim - this thoughtful post is a nice gift.  Thank you.  

Dec 04, 2024 03:48 AM
Jim Paulson

You're welcome Michael Jacobs Happy Holidays!

Dec 04, 2024 12:34 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

I love this post. Giving from the heart is what giving is all about, isn't it? And your wife's friend who let you know your wife needed flowers was such a treasure. People like that are rare.

Dec 04, 2024 04:54 AM
Kat Palmiotti

That does sound like fun and reminds me of the cooking club I started here Jim Paulson - I think you should start one for those who are no longer part of a couple. It might be fun!

Dec 04, 2024 01:44 PM
Jim Paulson

Thanks Kat Palmiotti 

That friend also flew across the country to drive back to Idaho with my wife too.  We used to do really fun "couples dinner pot lucks" in which one couple would bring appetizers, another entre, then drinks and the fourth brought deserts.  I miss those!

Dec 04, 2024 12:37 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Carol Williams - suggestion for Second Chance Saturday.

Dec 04, 2024 04:54 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Jim. The gift of time and personal attention is indeed priceless but well appreciated. Enjoy your day.

Dec 04, 2024 05:10 AM
Jim Paulson

Thanks Wayne Martin I recently listed to a book about the Four Love Languages.  Some people prefer time and attention to gifts. Be (the) present.

Dec 04, 2024 12:38 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Jim... what a lovely post and yes, the best gifts whether expensive or not always come from the heart. And they definitely don't need to be expensive to have a big impact on the recipient.

Dec 04, 2024 05:30 AM
Jim Paulson

Nina Hollander, Broker I should write another blog post about the "Least Thoughtful Gift You Can Give".  That could be fun.

Dec 04, 2024 12:46 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker

Jim Paulson I would enjoy that, Paul!

Dec 04, 2024 01:19 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Jim Paulson, I'd like to read that post. Make it happen.

Dec 07, 2024 06:55 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Jim,

I love your post! You are so right..gifts from the heart are the most meaningful and will always be remembered! My late husband always gave me the most wonderful thoughtful gifts. 

Dec 04, 2024 05:39 AM
Jim Paulson

Dorie Dillard Austin TX speaking of your late husband, one of my favorite sayings is "I thought I would spend the rest of my life with my spouse, yet it turns out, they spent the rest of theirs with me." #LOVE

Dec 04, 2024 12:45 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400

Jim Paulson 

 And your spouse got her wish.

Dec 07, 2024 06:57 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Jim,
What a wonderful post. This is giving me some ideas, and not just for the holidays. Thank you! 

Dec 04, 2024 05:48 AM
Jim Paulson

Carol Williams thanks my friend. I appreciate you.

Dec 04, 2024 12:43 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP
DFW FINE PROPERTIES - Flower Mound, TX
Selling Homes Changing Lives

Jim Paulson - your story sounds like a Reader's Digest Story. It's a combination of real-life stories, laughter about the kid stuck in a room with manure, surprises that come from unexpecting friends, and good memories of people no longer in your life.

Merry Christmas and good memories to you!

Dec 04, 2024 07:43 AM
Jim Paulson

I used to love reading "Laughter is the Best Medicine" articles in Reader's Digest.  When I teach classes for the National Association of Realtor's or the National Association of Home Builders, I try to incorporate the same style of including real live experiences.  I have had some great ones Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP 

Dec 04, 2024 12:42 PM
Patricia Feager, ABR,CRS,GRI,MRP

Jim Paulson - I still have some Reader Digest Magazines from years ago. Journalists like the stories printed back then, were priceless and in good taste. 

I'll bet your class students love when you teach. 

Dec 04, 2024 04:13 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Hello Jim,

In a world where we are constantly bombarded with messages of consumerism and materialism, it can be easy to lose sight of the true meaning of generosity. But when we take a step back and reflect on our own experiences, we realize that the greatest joy often comes from giving selflessly from the heart.

I enjoyed reading your post. Thanks for sharing.

Dec 04, 2024 01:43 PM
Jim Paulson

Thank you Aura Alex.  I see you are in the Seattle market albeit retired.  My nephew, Jesse Paulson, is a pretty high producing agent with RE/MAX in Seattle with Sound Team Realty.

Dec 05, 2024 11:08 AM
Myrl Jeffcoat
Sacramento, CA
Greater Sacramento Realtor - Retired

That's a powerful message you are providing.  Generosity and love are two components in life that need to be continually shared.

Dec 04, 2024 06:09 PM
Jim Paulson

Myrl Jeffcoat one of the most contagious things I can think of is . . . a  smile. 🙂

Dec 05, 2024 11:09 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Jim- I loved your post. Gifts from the heart are always the best to me. The friend who called to suggest it was Flower Day for your wife ought to be in the "Good Friend" Hall of Fame. 

Dec 04, 2024 06:44 PM
Jim Paulson

Kathy Streib I just made a note to deliver flowers to that friend with a note of gratitude.

Dec 05, 2024 11:10 AM
Endre Barath, Jr.
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices California Properties - Beverly Hills, CA
Realtor - Los Angeles Home Sales 310.486.1002

Jim Paulson  just loved every word of your post, and we are on the same page,  loved your line:

 

gifts do not have to be expensive, they just have to have true meaning.  I

Dec 04, 2024 09:58 PM
Jim Paulson

I look forward to the day I get to meet you in person Endre Barath, Jr. 

Dec 05, 2024 11:11 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Wow, having a friend let you know that it would be a good idea to get flowers for your wife certainly helped you be the best husband ever in the eyes of your wife!

Dec 05, 2024 05:01 AM
Jim Paulson

That it did Brian England.  We had a special relationship which makes it hard to move on to another one after she passed.  Maybe some day I will find another soul mate.

Dec 05, 2024 11:13 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

The quote is attributed to Teddy Roosevelt and one I use frequently.  Thank you for sharing your "present" story. Very touching.

Dec 07, 2024 07:38 AM
Jim Paulson

Thanks Leanne Smith 

Dec 07, 2024 11:57 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

What a thoughtful post, Jim. A true gift is all about the meaning, and the thought behind it...not the value.

Jeff

Dec 08, 2024 07:38 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I love your stories Jim, thank you for sharing. I totally agree a gift given from the heart is worth more than some expensive gift with no feeling.

Dec 09, 2024 11:40 AM
Alan Brown
Coldwell Banker Realty - Davenport, FL
34 Years of Real Estate Experience .

Love the stories

Dec 09, 2024 12:55 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Thanks, Jim Paulson, for both of your entries!

Dec 14, 2024 01:37 PM