Noises come out of the mouth & only the one making those sounds know what they mean until it is communicated to another person who then knows. This is how language got started. Animals, insects even plants that make sounds are communicating with their like kind & more while others overhear but do not, understand
WHAT'S GOING ON?
We take for granted that we can quickly respond to another & they us & for the most part, that will do until we don't hear or understand what is being said anymore. Perhaps we tune-out or turn off? The ability to inquire, the option to respond, is now activated & communications take-off to all the players satisfaction
EXCHANGE
Casual or fun talk has no stress or effort, is free flowing & engaging & is called exchanging which is done to mutual satisfaction. It can be short or prolonged as the players determine. It may/may not have a purpose or relevance remaining pleasant in its coming & going.
DIALOG (directing at someone)
This has meaning, purpose & outcome for a reason, a start or a finish, open & close & is usually regarding one subject but can lead to multiple subjects subjectively. Can be a warning, a statement, a cry for help, an admonishment or inquiry maybe or not necessary but all agree in the moment
CONVERSATION (talking with someone)
This is a mutual, intimate & purposeful to the parties of the sharing & ongoing interest in doing so or to each other or the subject of interest. It takes the shape of a living poem as follows. I say something. The other does so too. I go again & so do they & a verse, line by line, is constructed. The "poem", mutually created is very mutually satisfying as by its very nature expresses that it took both/all of us to do
ENGAGING
This is where mutual parties want to hear or see more of each other. This is voluntary & must be mutually acceptable. When accepted, it is a type of fun, even an adventure to explore & share something humans crave & seek out safely or not
TALKING AT SOMEONE
Commands, instructions, warnings or addressing someone without interest is talking at them, a one-sided event that leaves the other wanting & unfulfilled. Parents do this to children's exasperation (annoyance). Deliberately, one-side & unfinished business left in the wake or aftermath
TALKING TO HEAR YOURSELF
Some people will begin an interaction using all the pleasantry signals & such, only to literally "hijack" the experience & launch into a narrative of nothing but themselves non-stop leaving the listener looking for an escape route while in deer in headlights mode. Painful to endure, dishonest & anti-social dynamics at large
SHARING driven by CARING
A love driven spurt of talk lasered out or drawn out with special intention & care expressing personal beliefs & feelings returned by the other until done, complete or satisfied. Totally unrehearsed with memorable dynamics not soon forgotten
GOOD LISTENER BONUS
When one genuinely, without effort, wants to listen to another lending body posture, eye contact & focus, followed by heartfelt questions & answers all done because both parties will & want it so, we hit the heights & depths of being human
WORTHY NOTE: Some of the most memorable & in the moment experiences is when I listened to someone & was moved to tears triggering their tears with all tears now exceeding speech. What were the tears saying? For God's ears only
MANKIND-CONNECTION
Anywhere on this planet, past, present or future, regarding cultures, civilizations & human circumstances PAST our languages are our abilities to connect with each other using any means necessary. Despair, hunger, pain, want, need & the biggee LOVE need nothing but an audience of another to be heard. Look for & respect this as we are not as different as we all may think
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