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Know Your Audience.

 

When playing with others here in Rain, it's important to mind your manners, especially when it comes to fellow members. If something is written and taken way out of context by someone, you can guarantee it will reported to ARMS or go further up the ranks, to the higher ups.

 

Apparently, no warning shots will be fired, only an error message that appears in the place of the member's blog, no second chances to amend. It sure does get many people wondering what happened! Very few people will have insight into the 'why' of such an action took place.

 

Comedians research areas, prior to entertaining, to discover what may be funny, relevant and acceptable (well, maybe not always acceptable), effectively reading the room becomes all important. Laughter plus creating a fanbase are intended goals, instead of getting booed off the stage.

 

As industry professionals here or anywhere, whether retired or still selling houses or products, it's important to be respectful, even if virtually biting the tongue. It's always best to vent offline. Granted, there are people I do not follow or make comments on their posts for my own personal reasons.

 

I intentionally ignore them, keeping their names to myself and never seek them out. No reason to be snarky either and just click on because my audience and raving fans await my presence (<<< insert humor here)! 🤣

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Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Sorry Wanda, I deleted what I wrote the first time, I would be kick out, so deleted it.

Feb 07, 2025 08:35 AM
ActiveRain Member Support

Will, just so you know, ARMS doesn't kick out long term members.  As was stated in the response to Bob Timm's Question, management made the call.  ARMS will smite spammers left and right and we vet all new profile submissions, but any long term member departures are outside of ARMS authority. 

Feb 07, 2025 09:10 AM
Alan May
Jameson Sotheby's International Realty - Evanston, IL
Home again, home again...

Knowing your audience, is indeed important.  When I left my comment on your last post, I fully expected to get some pushback, but I anticipated it would be political, not personal.  I thought I knew my audience. 

Regarding the person in question, according to ARMS explanation on Bob Timm's Q, he was given multiple warnings and multiple second chances by management ... I think that's important to note.

Feb 07, 2025 10:21 AM
Bill Salvatore - East Valley
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

Excellent post! Thanks for sharing, enjoy your weekend, and here's a GOOD LUCK to your favorite team in the SuperBowl!  GO EAGLES!!!!! Bill

Bill Salvatore / Arizona Elite Properties

#BillSalvatore 🏈

Feb 07, 2025 10:45 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Absolutely, Michael Jacobs.As a former marketing and advertising professional, setting the stage and following through with an expectation for success, matters!

Feb 07, 2025 10:48 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Online or offline, people are paying attention, BB. And while thicker skin serves people well, they are able to easily shrug things off, though some things are better left unsaid. It keeps things moving along!

Feb 07, 2025 10:55 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Your opinion matters and what you wrote the first time was perfectly okay and respectful, Will Hamm. I promise that!

Feb 07, 2025 10:59 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

We can all respectfully disagree, Alan May, I let your comment stand because my post was written in the spirit of girls & women celebrating girls & women. That was my goal!

Feb 07, 2025 11:38 AM
Alan May

I took no issue with your response, Wanda.  It was polite and respectful, as I hope you found my comment.

Feb 07, 2025 12:20 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

You as well, Bill.

Feb 07, 2025 11:38 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!  Boys will be boys, and girls will be girls.  I have not had a serious problem that needed to be reported. Except for spammers, We all come from different ethnic backgrounds and communicate differently. If a post is offensive, I will delete it. I do not ever remember reporting anyone. Have a great day 

Feb 07, 2025 12:07 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Having thicker skin than many people I know ( I grew up with 4 brothers), some things aren't worth reporting while others apparently disagree. Very seldom have I encountered any member who was out of control. I do remember one, who was calling me names, Barbara Todaro & Roger Mucci backed me up and she went away on her own because she wasn't getting the kind of attention she wanted, apparently!

Wishing you a wonderful weekend, Hannah Williams.

Feb 07, 2025 12:18 PM
Marte Cliff
Marte Cliff Copywriting - Priest River, ID
Your real estate writer

I think I missed whatever happened here, but I do agree that we should be respectful. And... if we really don't like what someone says, then click away. It's easy.

Feb 07, 2025 12:43 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

It's easier to keep going, in my opinion and not engage. Rules are rules and must be followed, Marte Cliff!

Feb 07, 2025 12:49 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! in my 18+ years on this platform I have seen a number of members get away with far more than they should have before they got kicked off this platform.  It is wise to shorten that process, BUT not to the point we need to walk on egg shells fearing someone will interpret a comment the wrong way, and we are kicked off, because they have thin skin.  However, I do think after a number of warnings for flagrant violations, let me repeat flagrant violations, than ActiveRain should remove ANYONE who continues to ignore the warnings, no matter how long they have been a member. 

Having said all that, I have followed this member for a number of years, and have even met this member in person.  I find it surprising that if there were violations,  they were flagrant.  I for one would like a more detailed explanation than the one provided by AR to Bob Timm's in the Q&A.

Feb 07, 2025 01:01 PM
Alan May

George Souto - it shouldn't really matter whether they're flagrant, or merely mildly irritating.  If management reached out to him and said "stop this behaviour, or we're going to have to deactivate you"...  gave him multiple warnings... and he "flagrantly" ignored those warnings...

What would you do?

Feb 07, 2025 01:25 PM
Lyn Sims
Schaumburg, IL
Real Estate Broker Retired

In the past there were many that would be taken off line for weeks at a time. I figure that the higher ups had had enough. 

Feb 07, 2025 01:26 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

George Souto, there are so many personalities here with different belief systems, that it could go helter-skelter if not controlled to a degree but the decisions made by the higher ups is done without my knowledge and no prior notice.

Some people are quick to report but that is not my style!

Feb 07, 2025 01:35 PM
George Souto

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! thank you.  It is not my style either.  The only comments I have ever deleted, or reported are the ones that the spammers use to make before AR got them under control.  If someone makes a comment on my blog I don't like or don't agree with, I let them have their say, and I move on. 

Feb 07, 2025 01:57 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

That is a good idea, Lyn Sims. Similar to the adult version of time-out in the corner treatment. I like that!

Feb 07, 2025 01:42 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

I'm like you, Wanda! I do my thing and see missteps in the Rain that I usually brush right by. I may or may not speak to the individuals but, I do that only to make peace. Reporting other members is not my thing either!

I do know that when the AR powers that be receive complaints, they issue warnings to the members. Some are warned multiple times and we never even know this is going on behind the scenes. 

This is why an abrupt exit has us all up in arms but, I assure you, everyne is fairly warned - and some members are warned more times than they should be. (Meaning, they are given more chances than they should be given.)

For a lot of us, this is a happy place and someone constantly bombarding other members with nasty comments is just not conducive for maintaining a happy place.

Feb 07, 2025 02:17 PM
Hannah Williams

There are other members Debe Maxwell, CRS that have created a little too much drama this morning and bullied a member to the point where they most likely will leave this platform. Then, the comments soon disappeared when another member accused them of bullying them. This is getting out of hand and is upsetting. I am wondering who from management made this decision 

Feb 08, 2025 05:53 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

I know, Hannah Williams - you are SO right, it HAS gotten out of hand. I pray members will realize that they don't know the whole story and stop lashing out at others.

I've had people who screen-shot texts from other members who were being nothing less than bullies. None of what is going on has a thing to do with what happened to the member being booted from the Rain either. Yes, it's gotten seriously out of hand.

Feb 08, 2025 07:53 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

If someone is warned multiple times, it should not be a surprise to anyone when the consequences of them not amending their ways are delivered, haha.

Feb 08, 2025 06:37 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Sometimes people just want to be heard, Debe Maxwell, CRS. There is nothing wrong with healthy debate either but some members might misunderstand intent. They are just wired that way.

I keep clear of confrontation here, especially when someone has a condescending tone. Avoiding them altogether is always best, a block button would be helpful. And besides, I am an Ambassador and want to represent that position well on this platform.

 

Feb 08, 2025 08:10 AM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

Same, Wanda! I try to be a peacemaker but, sometimes it's just too far gone. I hate that! I wish we could all live in the spirit of forgiveness. 

And, let me say, you absolutely do represent AR Ambassadorship very well!
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! 

Feb 08, 2025 03:35 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

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Feb 08, 2025 09:23 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
The best agent in Southern Utah!

Sad to see some people go, whether through death, their own decision or by the higher ups, Brian England. Through the years, we become like family because of the connection here. 

Feb 08, 2025 08:18 AM
Brian England

Family drama is the worst kind of drama Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! and not everyone in the family agrees completely with everyone else, yet they should still be able to get along, haha.

Feb 08, 2025 08:48 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!

Exactly, Brian England. Every family experiences discord and hopefully it can be worked through and if not, separation is best!

Feb 08, 2025 09:46 AM