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ActiveRain March Challenge: Life Lessons from Parents

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ActiveRain March Challenge: Life Lessons from Parents

Patricia Feager and Lew Corcoran are the hosts for the "March 2025 ActiveRain Challenge: Sharing the Gift of Who You Are." The ActiveRain challenge is to share the profound impact someone had on you in shaping you to who you are today.

During this second week of the ActiveRain March Challenge, my thoughts turn to the life lessons I learned from my parents. When we are young, we sometimes have no idea of the impact that the actions of our parents will have on our lives as adults.

Yesterday, I received this email comment from my younger sister, Wynne Roos: "I learned from Daddy's example of being kind and friendly to everyone he encountered. He "never met a stranger."  I learned from our mother to listen to people, especially to those who were hurting or lonely, and to try to encourage them. and also to extend hospitality. There are many other inspirations that I think of from time to time."

My parents always cherished family relationships and stayed in close contact with family members. When I was young, we frequently visited the homes of our local family members in Virginia and they also visited our home. My father frequently took me with him to visit his family members in the countryside and nearby North Carolina. When there were disagreements among family members, my parents were the ones who tried to resolve the differences and we were never distanced by disagreements.

My father was always ready to help families in need. He often delivered groceries to local families needing assistance. My father was a police officer for many years and did his best to keep young people out of trouble. He made sure that I was involved with interesting activities as well. My scouting experiences were meaningful and I really enjoyed participation in the junior rifle club activities.

We always had the benefits of a comfortable home. My mother was a stay at home wife and mother. Her entire life was focused on the care of my father and her children. My mother was a wonderful cook and every meal was enjoyable. She always prepared a bag lunch for me to take to school and I do not recall ever purchasing a lunch at the school cafeterias. 

One of the most important lessons from my parents was their practice of purchasing real estate for investment. My father was always seeking real estate opportunities and over years acquired a number of residential and business properties including the building that would become the location of my first real estate office. When my father passed away, he left a portfolio that would provide for the needs of his family. 

 

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Roy Kelley, Retired, Former Associate Broker, RE/MAX Realty Group

Gaithersburg, Maryland  

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Patricia Feager
Flower Mound, TX

Roy Kelley - although you have written more posts than most, this one is by far the best. Your parents were very nurturing and loving. I see a lot of traits from you from your father and mother. Especially your dad! Apparently, your dad wasn't just a Policeman, he was a very caring dad who wanted you to build wealth for yourself, and you did that! I know now why good food is something you appreciate from Dolores. 

I think it's wonderful that your dad took you out to see the world by going on family visits. Scouting must have been just as important to your father as it was to you. His generous heart was more valuable than gold! You learned a lot from your loving parents, and I am so proud to know you. You are a legend here on ActiveRain and if I could give you a Gold Metal, I would!

Sincere thanks for this blog post. It is beautiful and I was able to glimpse into your soul showing me who you really are. You are a beautiful man. 

Mar 10, 2025 09:43 AM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

This is such a heartfelt tribute to the wisdom our parents impart, Roy Kelley! Your reflections on kindness, family, and the value of hard work really resonate. Thanks for sharing these powerful lessons—they're reminders of the legacies we carry with us every day!

Mar 10, 2025 10:12 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Hi Roy... your Father was a wonderful role model for you. And it's clear that you paid attention and have lived your own life based on the lessons you learned. 

Mar 10, 2025 10:15 AM
Barbara Michaluk
Weichert Realtors | Phone Direct 240-506-2434 | 301-681-0550 office - Silver Spring, MD
Leisure World Specialist / Full Service REALTOR

Hi Roy, Thanks for sharing this heartfelt tribute to your loving parents. As I was reading your story I was thinking of your behavior on Active Rain and how you reflect those qualities that your parents taught you to be loving, caring and supportive of others. I also now understand how you got into real estate through your father's investments.

Mar 10, 2025 01:04 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Roy- I love learning more about you and your family. Your mother and father set the example that you follow today. They taught you by their own behavior. The values you have and that we see here on the ActiveRain site are traditional ones. I admire that. 

Mar 10, 2025 02:23 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Roy - as children, we may not always "know" in the moment, but examples we see can have a lifelong impact and influence on us.  Thank you for sharing this part of your life.  

Mar 11, 2025 04:09 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Thank you for sharing your parents with us! It's wonderful to hear of parents who are involved in their homes and their communities!

Mar 11, 2025 06:09 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Daddy's example of being kind and friendly to everyone he encountered is how I think life should be lived as well.

Mar 11, 2025 06:45 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Roy Kelley  Your father taught you well. You were very fortunate to have a mom who was a great cook.  My father was the master chef . 

Mar 12, 2025 01:10 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Mar 15, 2025 06:03 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Life Lessons from My Parents

Through childhood days so bright and free,
Their love and wisdom guided me.
A father’s kindness, warm and true,
A mother’s care in all she’d do.

He never met a stranger’s face,
Just open arms and boundless grace.
She listened close to those in need,
With words of hope—a gentle deed.

Our home was filled with love and light,
A place of warmth, a heartening sight.
She cooked, she cared, she made each day,
A masterpiece in her own way.

He worked to serve, to help, to guide,
With steadfast honor, humble pride.
Through scouting trails and lessons learned,
He showed me dreams are earned, not turned.

With vision sharp, my father knew,
That land was wealth that only grew.
He built a path, a legacy,
A gift of strength for family.

Now as I walk the road ahead,
Their voices echo, softly said—
Be kind, be strong, hold loved ones near,
And face the world with love sincere.

Mar 16, 2025 01:31 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Roy:

You were indeed blessed with wonderful, nurturing parents who taught you many important life lessons that have served you well. And thank you for sharing that special poem in your comment.

Jeff

Mar 16, 2025 05:15 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Thank you for sharing, this was very touching and I see we both learnt many of the same lessons from our parents.

Mar 17, 2025 01:15 PM
Doug Dawes
Keller Williams Evolution - 447 Boston Street, Suite #5, Topsfield, MA - Topsfield, MA
Your Personal Realtor®

Hi Roy Kelley 

It is amazing just how much influence our parents exerted in our lives. How many of us have said, "I've turned into my parents!!!"

Mar 19, 2025 07:44 AM