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Tuesday’s Thoughts…Choices

 

How many times have you heard someone say “I didn’t have a choice.”

All you have to do is listen to the criminal in a crime show…I didn’t have a choice!

 

We hear it from our children, our peers, friends…heck we’ve all said it. 

However, if you believe in free will, then we all have choices. To be sure, often the choices presented to us are not the ones we would want. 

 

Your child comes home with a note from the principal and has to spend the remainder of the week in detention. He and another child got into a small fight. Both children were at fault and both were punished. 

 

You speak to your child and listen to their story. Often what you will hear is But mom, I didn’t have a choice.

This is a teaching moment. It’s important to teach our children that we have free will and we always have choices. 

 

Yes, the choice to walk away is not easy for any child or person. You want them to know they can stand up for themselves when necessary, but they need to learn that fighting isn’t always the answer. 

 

Daily we are presented with decisions we must make…some as simple as “Do I really want that piece of chocolate cake” to “Do I want to continue working where I am?”

 

What we want our children to learn is that we have the power to choose BUT with our choices come consequences. 

If we’re lucky, some of the decisions we are called to make allow us time to reflect…to mull it over in our heads or with our close ones. 

 

And, there are situations when we are not afforded the luxury of time to think. 

Each time we are confronted with a choice or decision to make, we learn something. If we’re smart, we’ll reflect on the consequences of our choices. Are we pleased with the outcome?

 

If not, what can we do differently? Is there something we can change? 

 

 

If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice.
Neil Peart

 

Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations.
Tom Brady

 

There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles.
Stephen Covey



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Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Kathy... this is it exactly and it's so important to teach children and grandchildren of these facts:

"There are three constants in life... change, choice and principles."
Stephen Covey

Mar 18, 2025 05:10 AM
Kathy Streib

Nina Hollander, Broker there are so many books written about teaching our children to make good choices and to remind them there are consequences for them. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:35 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - decision-making starts at an early age and never stops. . .  

Mar 18, 2025 05:26 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael Jacobs it begins when we're young and we need parents and teachers to instill this in them. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:35 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Yes indeed, there is almost always a choice to be made and it's up to each of us to choose wisely!

Mar 18, 2025 05:55 AM
Kathy Streib

Kat Palmiotti we all make mistakes but  we need to accept that we had a choice!

Mar 18, 2025 01:36 PM
Patricia Feager
Flower Mound, TX

Kathy Streib - there are always choices. The only difference is the choice we choose. 

 

Mar 18, 2025 07:09 AM
Kathy Streib

Patricia Feager not every choice we have before us is a desired one however we still have a choice. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:37 PM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

I think we always have a choice. We often box ourselves into a corner.

Mar 18, 2025 07:28 AM
Kathy Streib

Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty I agree. Of course there is always the choice to do nothing. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:37 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

There are times that I wish that I didn't really have the choice since I tend to make a lot of bad choices, haha.

Mar 18, 2025 07:32 AM
Kathy Streib

Brian England we all do but we learn and move on. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:38 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, There’s nearly always a decision to make, and it’s up to each of us to make it thoughtfully!

Mar 18, 2025 07:56 AM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 parents can help their children by discussing with them what the choices are as well as the possible consequences.

Mar 18, 2025 01:38 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Very true, not making a choice is making a choice! I know from experience and it took me a long time to decide to make a change, to consider all the consequences, the pain this choice might make, but it was worth it and often fear might hold us back from making a choice when making the choice will improve our situation dramatically.

Mar 18, 2025 08:05 AM
Kathy Streib

That is so true Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 often the choice we know we need to make is one that will cause us and others pain or discomfort. But look at how it worked out for you!!

Mar 18, 2025 01:39 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Good Tuesday morning, Kathy.

Let's try harder to make the right choices this spring.

Mar 18, 2025 08:40 AM
Kathy Streib

Roy Kelley Happy Tuesday. Yes, let's try a lot harder!!

Mar 18, 2025 01:47 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy even in times we think we do not have a choice, we have a choice.  It may not be an acceptable choice, but it is still a choice.

Mar 18, 2025 10:04 AM
Kathy Streib

George Souto exactly right!!!  There are choices placed in front of us that may not be what we want, but they are still choices. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:48 PM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Kathy, I always think we have a choice but the key is it is the right choice or not.

Mar 18, 2025 10:28 AM
Kathy Streib

Will Hamm we learn that through our experiences at making choices. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:48 PM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

Thanks, Kathy Streib! Your thoughts on choice highlight a powerful truth we often overlook. It's so refreshing to be reminded that we hold the reins in our lives—and that every decision, big or small, shapes our journey.

Mar 18, 2025 10:39 AM
Kathy Streib

Lew Corcoran it goes hand in hand with accountability. We have a choice and with that comes acceptance of what we choose. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:50 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Choice is a given and that goes on each and every day with everyone of us.  It's up to us!  Years ago I recall hearing somebody all mad at me for whatever happened to them.  I had nothing to do with it.  I learned then to say something like - so because of this....you decided it's my fault.  Or just walk away and stay out of it.  Some folks simply want to blame others when things don't go as they want.  And remember, wherever you go, there you are!  There is nobody else to blame!

Mar 18, 2025 10:50 AM
Kathy Streib

Anna "Banana" Kruchten absolutely. We have to learn to accept and live with the choices we make, At the same time, we have to teach our children how to make wise choices and be accountable for that decision. 

Mar 18, 2025 01:51 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Absolutely Kathy!  It's our job to teach of kids to accept responsibility and not blame others.   Remember The Eagles Band?  They had a song called 'Get Over it'.   When the kids were teenagers and being 'teenagers' we'd put on that song and then say - go to your room and think about how you can do things differently.  One time we caught Paul in his bathroom trying to make funny faces at himself.......he got it!!

Mar 18, 2025 03:16 PM
Aura Alex
Seattle, WA
Retired Real Estate Pro

Modern times witness rapid transformations in technology, economics, political structures, and societal norms. People must adapt to these changes while maintaining their fundamental principles.

Sticking to core principles enables us to manage choices about changes confidently while balancing stability with flexibility.

Mar 18, 2025 02:42 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, we DO have choices, and usually (as an adult) we know what to do.

Mar 18, 2025 03:28 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

A thinking post, Kathy! Everyone has choices, of course, when at a crossroad, much thought is needed while taking the time to think the process through before proceeding.

Deciding on the fly is not recommended!

Mar 18, 2025 06:42 PM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

You would think it would get easier, but for some reason decision making feels harder to me now. I blame anxiety....I tend to overthink. 

Yes, I agree we always have a choice and teaching children that their choices have consequences is very important.

Mar 19, 2025 01:20 AM
Barbara Michaluk
Weichert Realtors | Phone Direct 240-506-2434 | 301-681-0550 office - Silver Spring, MD
Leisure World Specialist / Full Service REALTOR

Hi Kathy, Coincidentally I've been doing some rough art sketches on this subject of choice and deciding what door to open and what doors to close.

 

Mar 19, 2025 04:14 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Kathy:

Choices all bring consequences with them, some positive and some perhaps not. I particularly liked Neil Peart's quote - not deciding is still making a choice. "I didn't have a choice" suggests a desire to not be blamed for making a bad choice

Mar 20, 2025 03:54 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Kathy:

Choices all bring consequences with them, some positive and some perhaps not. I particularly liked Neil Peart's quote - not deciding is still making a choice. Saying "I didn't have a choice" suggests a desire to not take responsibility for making a bad decision.

Jeff

Mar 20, 2025 03:56 PM