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Can you write what you are thinking?

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Real Estate Agent with Wayne M Martin

This is the third submission for the March Challenge hosted by Patricia Feager and Lew Corcoran.

In my junior year of high school. my English teacher was Steve Elliott. He was creative, smart and a great communicator. He gave us many writing assignments and study time was limited at a military boarding school. On one assignment, maybe for lack of time and maybe something else I wrote a two paragraph paper. I was not comfortable due to length when I turned it in. When I got the paper back with a good grade, I thought short and sweet was the only way to go .

So the next assignment I wrote a one page double spaced typewritten (yes on a typewriter in the days long before computers and auto-correct). Big surprise with a not so good grade. My thought was why? Mr. Elliott said I failed to write what I was thinking in a way that the reader could clearly understand. What a wake-up call.

So I started to proofread my writings twice, once for typos (those of you who read my posts here regularly know I cannot type) and once for content. Many times the content fell short and needed to be rewritten for clarity.  

In life, his message about writing so the reader could understand my thinking has done me well. People do not have to agree, and many times they do not, but as long as they understand the message.

I continue to try and practice being understood in my writings and speaking even in retirement. Some days continue to be good and some days not so good. For proof all you need to do is ask my wife.

So, thank you Mr. Elliott and thank you to Carol Williams and Margaret Rome for stirring my memory and causing me to write this submission.   

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Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Mr. Elliott was obviously a wonderful teacher - he taught you something that you still remember and use. Thank you for sharing!

Mar 20, 2025 05:41 AM
Wayne Martin

Yes he did and I am still a work in progress. 

Mar 20, 2025 06:47 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Good teachers have a way of influencing the subjects that we enjoy in school and I am glad that your English teacher, Steve Elliott had a positive influence on you!

Mar 20, 2025 05:55 AM
Wayne Martin

Yes indeed, so much so that after college we hared an adult libation together,

Mar 20, 2025 06:48 AM
Liz and Bill Spear
Transaction Alliance 513.520.5305 www.WarrenCountyOhioRealEstate.com - Mason, OH
Transaction Alliance Cincinnati & Dayton suburbs

Wayne, the challenge with writing, is what we intended what is perceived?  No body language, no inflections, just black and white here are the words.  Some come from a position of seeking to be offended when in doubt, that can make it even more challenging to keep them on the intended path.

Mar 20, 2025 06:40 AM
Wayne Martin

Still on the journey to properly convey what I am thinking into written words and sometimes what I write is not perceived in the manner intended. I remain a work in progress.

Mar 20, 2025 06:59 AM
Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI
HomeSmart Realty West & Florida Realty Investments - , CA
Presence, Persistence & Perseverance

Hey, Wayne Martin just remember to never spend too much time on the proof reading or your beer will get warm...and flat. Gotcha! Take care my friend and great entry!

Mar 20, 2025 06:54 AM
Wayne Martin

Sandy Padula & Norm Padula, JD, GRI - Been a while since our paths have crossed here in the Rain Norm. Are you still doing the cross country commute? When writing coffee or a scotch may be on the table but never a beer. You are right about it getting warm and flat and I can't have that. Take care.

Mar 20, 2025 07:02 AM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty (Salina Group) | Broker
Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Wayne Martin, this lesson in communication applies so well to real estate! Clear, concise, and thoughtful writing can make all the difference in connecting with clients. Whether in listings, contracts, or conversations, making sure people understand your message is key! 🔑📄 #RealEstateTips #ClearCommunication

Mar 20, 2025 06:59 AM
Wayne Martin

So true and it is a work still in progress for me even in retirement.

Mar 20, 2025 08:46 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

What a great lesson you learned early in life that has carried over into your blogging work. Great post. 

Mar 20, 2025 08:03 AM
Wayne Martin

Thank you. Some times it takes time for the message to sink in.

Mar 20, 2025 08:45 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thanks, Wayne, for sharing some of your high school experience and memories.

I was lucky to have excellent English teachers and I am also glad that I took a typing class in high school.

Mar 20, 2025 08:20 AM
Wayne Martin

I should have taken a typing class and paid close attention

Mar 20, 2025 08:44 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Author, Golfer, Retired Broker, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Wayne,
I believe being understood is more important than having the reader (or listener) agree. At least an understanding opens the door to discussion. Misunderstandings and assumptions about what a person said has never led to anyplace good.

Thanks for your post.

Mar 20, 2025 09:47 AM
Wayne Martin

Carol Williams - I have been a believer in "seek first to understand". I am a work in progress progress even at this late date. You are absolutely correct it is not necessary to agree to engage in fruitful discussion. 

Apr 10, 2025 05:25 PM
Olga Simoncelli
Veritas Prime, LLC dba Veritas Prime Real Estate - New Fairfield, CT
CONSULTANT, Real Estate Services & Risk Management

It's like the legend about Napoleon's "idiot" - he allegedly tested his orders on a "village idiot" to make sure they were clearly understood before issuing them to his troops. Clarity is important in all communications. 

Mar 20, 2025 09:55 AM
Wayne Martin

These tidbits of wisdom are everywhere if we just took the time to use recognize and use them. Clarity for one may not be clarity for another. You have to be careful and reach the largest audience

Mar 20, 2025 12:49 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

I remember this quote from years gone by though I did have to look up the source:

"Don't write so you can be understood, write so you can't be misunderstood."

William Howard Taft.

Your posting reminded me of the above quote. Congratulations on the feature as well.

Mar 20, 2025 10:36 AM
Wayne Martin

Like the quote by Taft and close to one put forth by Stephen Covey "seek first to understand and then to be understood." Try as as I do and I am still not batting a thousand but it is a journey and not a destination.

Mar 20, 2025 12:51 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I actually asked my neighbor the husband anyway, if he ever felt he and his wife spoke different languages. This after I had said something to my wife and she looked at me blankly as if I had spoken a foreign language. Sometimes it is not just writing that is hard to understand.

Mar 20, 2025 11:30 AM
Wayne Martin

Could not agree more! Many times I find myself misunderstood and I have to seek out why, especially in conversation

Mar 20, 2025 12:53 PM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

Great post!  Loved reading about your teacher who "helped" you to dig deeper.  Those are the life lessons we take with us and submit to lasting memory!  Great entry!  

Mar 20, 2025 02:34 PM
Wayne Martin

And sometimes you don't realize it right away but it does come to you

Mar 20, 2025 03:26 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

What a great teacher he was, that Mr Elliot!  Teaching you the importance of writing or speaking for that matter so others understand whether or not they agree or disagree with you. - huge lesson and incredibly valuable life lesson!

Mar 20, 2025 04:51 PM
Wayne Martin

I am a work in progress. As my subsequent post spoke of rust on the file cabinet, I need to remember to post to BananaTudes. 

Mar 21, 2025 07:04 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten

Aren't we all a work in progress Wayne!  And I agree, BT group enjoys reading your posts because there is lways something interesting to think about!!

Mar 21, 2025 02:17 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

This is a great point, Wayne. It might take years for us to be ourselves, But hopefully we’ll get there.

Mar 20, 2025 09:05 PM
Wayne Martin

A continuous journey, one of many in life. 

Mar 21, 2025 07:05 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Your teacher was wise, and you were smart to catch on so quickly. We all could learn a thing or two about being concise and staying on point. My posts tend to ramble or I stray off point and come up with a completely different post than intended. Or I didn't make my "point" at all. Good job!

Mar 21, 2025 08:39 AM
Wayne Martin

I think you do just fine with your posts. Thanks for stopping by.

Apr 10, 2025 05:28 PM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

Ah, yes. If I do not proofread my stuff, twice, at least, the message may be missed, misunderstood or may cause puzzlement to the reader.

Spelling is not the big challenge. After all, most errors are highlighted. Like, "Hey, Dummy. Check out this word and correct your error!"

Sentence construction and correct context are something else. If no review is done, a perfectly spelled missive can still leave the reader saying: "What the heck is this guy trying to say?"

Mar 22, 2025 09:18 PM
Wayne Martin

Try as I must I have heard "what are you trying to say" before.

Apr 10, 2025 05:29 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Retired Real Estate Broker

Wayne Martin   How unfortunate for you to have had a teacher that gave you a skill that would serve you well through life.

Mar 23, 2025 11:01 AM
Wayne Martin

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 - Unfortunate for me it took a bit of time to wise up. Still a work in progress. 

Apr 10, 2025 05:30 PM
Gary J. Muccio, Associate Broker
Keller Williams of Central PA - Camp Hill, PA
Exceptional Customer Service!

Good morning, Wayne! And thanks for sharing your story. It's interesting how we're influenced by our teachers. I can relate to your story well as my English teacher had a similar influence on me. Even today, my text messages are grammatically correct and puncuated properly. Continued success to you!

Mar 24, 2025 04:32 AM
Wayne Martin

My writing sometimes drift off a bit but thanks to his wisdom not as much as if I never learned the lesson.

Apr 10, 2025 05:31 PM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Clear and concise is the way to go in this industry, Wayne. Of course, when done in a creative way, it's still important to successfully relay information that is easily understood! 

Congrats of the feature!

Mar 25, 2025 12:28 PM
Wayne Martin

Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can! - Easy to understand is always the goal. Again, I am a work in progress. 

Apr 10, 2025 05:33 PM
Inna Ivchenko
Equity Union - Calabasas, CA
Realtor® • GRI • HAFA • PSC • Short Sale • Probate

I used to spend so much time for every email that needed to be lengthy. Now, thanks to AI it takes minutes~ saves so much time. Yet, I'm afraid our kids will not be able to write much on their own since they grow with AI help. 

Aug 13, 2025 02:49 PM