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March Challenge…Mom and Dad

 

My mother and father have been gone for many years  however their imprint on what makes me who I am continues to hover around me. 

 

Where my Aunt Berda was a fierce piece of work, my mother was soft spoken and kind to everyone. My most consistent memory of her was how much time and effort she spent finding the perfect gift for someone. 

It didn’t matter whether the recipient of the gift was a relative or close friend, or someone that was an acquaintance, she could spend all morning on finding the right gift. In her words…I want to find something they want or could use but wouldn’t buy for themselves. 

 

One pet peeve of hers was grammar. I rarely was disciplined (I admit to being a kind of boring kid who followed the rules) unless I used a word incorrectly. Consequently, it’s like nails on a chalkboard to me when I hear “Me and Joe….” or “Her and I ….”


                   Mom is in the middle in a white blouse. Just to her left is my father 

My father was born in Arizona and in addition to English, he spoke Chinese and Spanish. When Cubans moved to Houston, he often interpreted for them and helped them with filling out forms, etc for licenses and other documents. 


During WWII, he was in the Army Air Corps and worked as a photographer.  He was on one of the planes on D-Day when the Allies invaded occupied France.


One of my favorite memories is watching him develop his own photos. I can still smell the developing fluid. My father taught me how to “stage” a photo.   He also read a lot and could converse with anyone about almost any topic. 

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Neither of my parents were what would be helicopter parents by today’s standards. I was never given a curfew but never needed one. They worked hard in our small grocery store and the rest of the time was spent with the family. 

 

My one regret with my parents and all of my aunts, uncles, grandparents and other relatives is that I did not take notes on all of the stories they told.



This has been my third entry in this month’s March 2025 AR Challenge: Sharing The Gift Of Who You Are hosted by Patricia Feager and Lew Corcoran. 



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Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Kathy - such fond remembrances.  Nice photos and memories.   

Mar 20, 2025 05:05 AM
Kathy Streib

Michael Jacobs i wish I’d written down more stories when I was younger

Mar 20, 2025 12:25 PM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Your Mom and Dad were certainly amazing people!  I love all of the photos that you have shared, especially the one of the whole family!

Mar 20, 2025 05:34 AM
Kathy Streib

Thank you Brian England That picture was about 1980.

Mar 20, 2025 12:25 PM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Aww, I love your post about your parents. They both sound wonderful. As for grammar, my dad corrected mine which ticked me off because I was trying to tell a story and he'd interrupt me with the correct words. But I guess his lessons worked since I do think about what I'm saying now!

Mar 20, 2025 05:48 AM
Kathy Streib

Kat Palmiotti i know what you mean about interrupting to correct my grammar. My mother did that as well

Mar 20, 2025 12:27 PM
Kat Palmiotti

Argh!

 

Mar 20, 2025 03:19 PM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathy. Your parents were amazing and Aunt Berda added a bit of spice to the mix. Enjoy your day.

Mar 20, 2025 06:03 AM
Kathy Streib

Wayne Martin they were solid people. Can’t ask for much more

Mar 20, 2025 12:28 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Kathy,

You were so fortunate to have such wonderful nurturing parents. I loved your photos and I can see you are a product of their parenting!

Mar 20, 2025 06:52 AM
Kathy Streib

Dorie Dillard Austin TX thank you. I got my love of taking photos from my father!!! We also watched the beauty pageants together. He could always pick the winner

Mar 20, 2025 12:30 PM
GilbertRealtor BillSalvatore
Arizona Elite Properties - Chandler, AZ
Realtor - 602-999-0952 / em: golfArizona@cox.net

Thanks for sharing, make it a great Thursday and enjoy your upcoming weekend!

Bill Salvatore, Realtor- Arizona Elite Properties

Mar 20, 2025 07:06 AM
Kathy Streib

Bill Salvatore - East Valley thank you! Hope you’re enjoying your first day of Spring!!

Mar 20, 2025 12:31 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Associate Real Estate Broker

A fine recollection of the positives you were taught and keep close to you today

Mar 20, 2025 07:18 AM
Kathy Streib

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 thank you!!! Spring weather there yet??

Mar 20, 2025 12:32 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I am with you on the taking notes thing and notating on photos who everyone was. We only have the memories we remember, not all the stories

Mar 20, 2025 07:46 AM
Kathy Streib

Right Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 if only!! I only know a few stories my dad told about WWII.

Mar 20, 2025 12:33 PM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Kathy I would have been surprised if you had NOT be the perfect child, and made it easy for your parents.  ☺️

Mar 20, 2025 07:47 AM
Kathy Streib

George Souto i think if it as boring child! LO

Mar 20, 2025 12:34 PM
Patricia Feager
Flower Mound, TX

Kathy Streib - Clearly, your wonderful parents had a positive influence on you which shaped you into a marvelous, thoughtful, and kind woman. Like your parents, you have many talents. I love your devotion to Blue Birds and I'm sure it's the same for all creatures on earth. It must have been so much fun to learn about photography and staging skills from your dad. The fact that he was in a helicopter taking pictures on D-Day when the allies invaded occupied France is another feather in your cap for having relatives who really did more for this country than the average American. I'm reading about your amazing relative Berda now in "Water Tossing Boulders." I highly recommend it to all AR members!

Thanks for sharing your amazing family with us for this March 2025 AR Challenge: Sharing the Gift Of Who You Are!

Mar 20, 2025 07:51 AM
Kathy Streib

Patricia Feager thanj you for your kind words! I can’t believe you’re reading the book. 
My father told me that all servicemen were given currency from the countries they might be in if the plane went down. They were also given a pill to take if they were captured. He laughed and said he told his captain- “ just give me the pill, I’ll never pass for a Frenchman.

Mar 20, 2025 12:39 PM
Patricia Feager

Hi Kathy Streib - I love to read Historical NonFiction and this book is incredible! I ordered it from Barnes & Noble. I just started reading it and I am committed to finish it! So far: WOW!

You have an amazing background with both of them making history! You have to be so proud of your heritage!

 

Mar 20, 2025 01:19 PM
Kathy Streib

 Patricia Feager I am in awe of what you've done!!!! Thank you. 

Mar 20, 2025 07:30 PM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Kathy,
How can we not be affected by our parents, right? I am the same with the improper use of the words "me" and "I."  There is nothing hard about it. I think it's fascinating your father was a photographer during the war. Your story reminded me that Max and I developed some of our wedding photographs together.

Mar 20, 2025 07:54 AM
Kathy Streib

Interestingly enough Carol Williams Larry used to take and develop his pictures . He has several taken from the cockpit of his F4

Mar 20, 2025 12:40 PM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Kathy, for sharing some of your special memories of your parents.

Mar 20, 2025 08:27 AM
Kathy Streib

Hi Roy Kelley thank you. Hello to Chef Dolores!

Mar 20, 2025 12:41 PM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

This was such a beautiful tribute to your parents, Kathy Streib It’s poignant how their influences still shape you, and your memories truly bring them to life. Thanks for sharing such valuable insights—it’s a lovely reminder of how our loved ones leave lasting imprints on who we become!

Mar 20, 2025 09:34 AM
Kathy Streib

Lew Corcoran thank you. We don’t realize until we’re older how much our behavior is shaped by our parents

Mar 20, 2025 12:45 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Loved your story about your parents Kathy.  So interesting that your Mom was so sincere in finding the right gift for each person.  How sweet is that!  And your Dad....wow the stories he must have had in his head or maybe he shared some of them over the years?  What a guy!  And so you think you were a boring kid?  I doubt that one!  I thought I was too as I followed the 'rules' per se.  Gotta watch out for those 'quiet ones'!  And one last thing, maybe 2.  Love the family photo!  And I'm so with you on writing down some of the stories they all told.  That would have been so cool to have them now.  All in our heads!

Mar 20, 2025 12:05 PM
Kathy Streib

Anna "Banana" Kruchten i’ll bet you and I were alike . We weren’t rule breakers but rather went about doing our own thing. We take a family photo every Easter when the whole family is here. We did that growing up as a kid too!

Mar 20, 2025 12:47 PM
Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400
The Top Team @ Charles Rutenberg Realty 255 Executive Dr, Plainview NY 11803 - Plainview, NY
Long Island Condo and Home Specialists

Kathy, You were so fortunate to have such wonderful, nurturing parents. Their love guidance is evident in the person you’ve become. Your photo reflects the warmth and strength of your family!

 

Mar 20, 2025 12:18 PM
Kathy Streib

Lawrence "Larry" & Sheila Agranoff. Cell: 631-805-4400 thank you. I really feel fortunate to have had the childhood I had

Mar 20, 2025 12:48 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Kathy:

You have some fond, and wonderful, memories of your parents and I enjoyed reading your reflections. The photos are terrific.

Jeff

Mar 20, 2025 03:47 PM
Jeff Dowler, CRS

Kathy Streib 

I have a ton of family photos I need to try and digitize...boxes of them. I fear it will never all happen!

Mar 20, 2025 08:07 PM
Kathy Streib

Thank you Jeff Dowler, CRS I'm still trying to digitize my photos and in all our moves there are many older ones MIA. 

Mar 20, 2025 07:34 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Kathy, funny you would say you were a boring child that followed the rules.  We are so opposite!  LOL

Mar 20, 2025 06:26 PM
Kathy Streib

Joan Cox YOU???   How funny. I was boring but also independent. I did what I wanted. 

Mar 20, 2025 07:35 PM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Kathy Streib I loved your dad's smile; it was radiant. My sister Sarae is obsessed with Chinese history. She reads all the books on China and watches movies in Chinese (English subtitles). I didn't have a curfew, either! I remember almost everything, and what I don't know, my sister does. Your mom sounds like she was a very special lady .  

Mar 21, 2025 05:28 PM
Barbara Michaluk
Weichert Realtors | Phone Direct 240-506-2434 | 301-681-0550 office - Silver Spring, MD
Leisure World Specialist / Full Service REALTOR

Hi Kathy, Thanks for sharing your lovely memories of your parents. I can now appreciate more about who you are. I'm sure your father's photography skills and mother's warm consideration for others have had a positive influence on who you are today.

Mar 24, 2025 03:55 AM
Sharon Tara
Sharon Tara Transformations - Portsmouth, NH
Retired New Hampshire Home Stager

What a beautiful family photo! 

Your parents sound wonderful! When you mentioned your dad developing his own photos it brought back memories. Rick and I used to have a darkroom too! That smell is not something you forget!

Mar 25, 2025 03:22 AM