TRUST ME has a double edge to it that visits with everyone & will continue so it is imperative we explore this subject, prepare ourselves, then navigate through the dynamic or even rise above. However, do not hide or avoid this for when it comes, you will wish you knew more prior to its coming. It can help or hinder. Let's explore
WORTHY NOTE: Today, trust is more important than ever & in all things. This is present & either working or not, but it is there.
TRUST ORIGINS
This dynamic did not need to be taught. You come out of your mother's womb & within the self is the automatic trust system. You are fed, cared for, diapered, & kept safe with perks thrown in. What's not to trust? As you get older, you still don't use the trust system too much, but instead, accept (trust) what you like or don't
SELF-TRUST
Take a moment here because this affects your entire life. You must trust yourself, not doubt, & discover who you are or are not. When you do, self-trust will serve you
I TRUST YOU...I DON'T TRUST YOU...I'D RATHER NOT SAY
We reach a certain age/circumstances (subjective), where we arrive at the top three dynamics listed above. The first one comes more naturally & we are ready to participate eagerly. It just happens in the retail, personal, professional realms. The second appears with our personal energy (to make the point) & we act out & stand this position because we decided to do so. The last one is interesting in that we may never publicly express this; we act it out not from indifference but choice
WORTHY NOTE: Today, anyone saying "trust me" is suspect & invokes an opposite reaction with one exception: What if it is true? What if that person can deliver?
TRUST ME for the POSITIVE
Someone cares for you & sees where they can help or make a difference & you see it too. Immediately trust is at work & results are to be expected. Add more & a closer coming together (intimacy) with the person or circumstances takes place. Very natural system & we need to command this & not have it command us
TRUST ME for the NEGATIVE
You outsourced something to another either willingly or after being convinced only that person or circumstance is not vetted or known by you. Your decision comes from not wanting to make a decision thus you go along. If you agree to all this, you are culpable & accountable for your part if it goes south. You agreed
WORTHY NOTE: The pain of trusting & being betrayed is so deep/harmful & women can write books about this. All suffer from this betrayal of broken trust
TRUST ME?
For the many, RED flags go up for the worse but that can be used to start an investigation into what's going on. Some people just turn-off the whole situation because they don't trust anyone. This indicates a past BURN or HARM incident being kept alive via resentment, which works against the resentor not resentee
WORTHY NOTE: What if I trust you but you don't trust me or vice-versa? PAUSE
DO WE NEED TRUST?
It is essential as we come & go in things known or not. Take for instance crossing the street. Pedestrians (kids especially) just cross when it's their turn not looking or verifying it is safe to do so. When driving, I trust you to stay on your side of the lines. Even on a date, friendship or new job we assume the minimum trust but remain cautious to see what develops which brings up an important point
TRUST TAKES TIME
We like getting to know our circumstances whatever they are. Taking our time invites trust along & then we travel looking to see what happens forming no opinions until we reach a crossroads. Then, the TRUST path presents itself. You see this with sales when they start out friendly & neutral until they get to the CLOSE
WORTHY NOTE: If you deliberately break someone's trust, be prepared for the long-haul recovery IF AT ALL RECOVERABLE! Don't mess with this but respect it & others will respect you thus trusting you. Remember, the natural way works!
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