Imagine, just for a moment, traveling here & there seeing & all those other people, (your like-kind) about their business but never hearing what they have to say, speaking or sharing? We would all form opinions of everyone & none of it would be accurate to say the least. Sure, the superficial & shallow contemplations would make the rounds but the "who are they" would remain a mystery.
THE STANDARDS of GUESSING?
We would have to rely on body language, their dress, posture, condition, face & figure, shoes & their gait while all revealing do not tell the observer an ounce of truth as to who they are, where did they come from & where they are going
LET'S START WITH YOU
You are who you are within yourself as you know yourself to be but nobody else would know that nor would you know that about anyone. You definitely would speak through your actions, first impressions & facial expressions. So would they
EYE CONTACT (plus)
Looking at someone, looking quickly away, getting an eye for an eye (contact) with or without eyebrows raised, a smile or indifference & watching them turn this way or that is just the beginning of wondering why, who, what, where, how, & when which unlock doors instantly as do greetings, a sneeze, cough or laugh too
WORTHY NOTE: If silence is your choice, act like it is. Also, not everyone is worthy to receive or interact with. Go "Grey Poupon" here. When you do, your stock goes up
THE GREETING
Now the door to that person is slightly open as is ours when we reach out through gesture or word, an attempt to communicate. It can be spontaneous, an inquiry or a fleeting hello or a combo all added to our persona & character of mystery.
WORTHY NOTE: all of the above has an effect but we still lack answers/curiosity
THE EXCHANGE
We now get to experience a bit more about the other if we comment, greet, question, compliment or (?) & instantly, any guesswork is removed & replaced with a "who" process for both mostly positive & satisfying. Just that little sampling too
GETTING TO KNOW YOU
We at random, to our satisfaction, take an opportunity & build on it or into it perhaps a dialog, conversation or opinion of each other willingly agreeing to capture each other for that moment. Who knows where it will go?
WORTHY NOTE: Women excel at this with other women. Men need a reason
THE "WHO WE ARE DOOR" IS OPEN
What comes out of a person has an impact. Here, we are processing what we are hearing & sharing, along with opinions & judgments that we may like, dislike, agree/disagree. How we handle is subjective & can go either way i.e. for pleasure or pain (discomfort). We won't know until we get there.
WORTHY NOTE: Growth comes from risking into the unknown. Handling or processing the experience is another matter
REHEARSAL-PRACTICE
Interaction with each other is something we all want to go well but essentially lack full control over. We all support safety, curiosity & courtesy & need the patience to process what is taking place. Misunderstanding can do harm until corrected
WHEN IT DOESN'T GO WELL
Embarrassment, confusion, pain, humiliation & harm in the mental, emotional & psychological realms are hard to erase or ignore. With strangers, we walk away but with dates, partners, friends & spouses, plus professional colleagues, a price/regret will kick in becoming a learning curve. This too shall pass. Harm? Who can say?
WORTHY NOTE: Perfectly fine to sail your ship wherever you want it to go but check your motives, so you stay healthy & wholesome, honest & credible
THE FAUX PAS (tactless act)
This is one of the reasons people choose to remain silent & not share themselves is their fear of committing or causing an embarrassing conduct. You see everyone wants love & acceptance & causing a disruption in those realms hurts deeply but also can reward in educating us for the better. Hindsight will reveal this later
WHY YOU MUST COME OUT
Reverse this to test it & see the answer for yourself. There are pay-offs galore for everyone when all participate. Next time you are out in public, observe how all those people had the same thought to be out there when you are. Accident?
Who said: better to remain silent than open your mouth and remove all doubt?
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