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The Exhaustion of Preparing to Sell

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with Beam & Branch Realty TREC #547752

The listing appointment has been completed, papers are signed, and now the real work begins as the Sellers begin to gear up to prepare their home to sell. Some homes require a bit more work to get ready to be on the market. The time between signing the listing agreement and being ready for the photographer is a critical time to get the necessary repairs, cleaning, and staging completed.

As I was at my seller's home today to go through the home room by room, it was evident my clients had hit their ceiling of stress and exhaustion. Although the home was shaping up very nicely, they were exhausted and snipping at one another. My role was to stay positive and encourage them the best I could.

I have found that my role as a real estate agent involves being a sounding board, remaining calm in the storm, and, not allowing the tension to affect my own stress level. This takes practice, paying attention to the room, and picking up on the various stress indicators.

Here are a few suggestions to help your clients navigate the exhaustion:

  • Discuss the realities of preparing a home to be placed on the market. This means frank conversations regarding the cost of repairs, window cleaning, re-mulching, trimming hedges, power washing, deep cleaning, carpets, etc. Just the extra expense alone can create a stressful situation for a seller.
  • Help your clients out by providing a timeline for the things that need to be done. I have found when we get out the calendar, we can then realistically schedule the necessary items in a "do-able" manner.
  • A gentle reminder to do some self-care is essential. Getting plenty of sleep, eating right, and taking time away from the home like going on a walk, are all important to help keep the exhaustion down.
  • Remind them there is an end in sight. Remember the goal is to get the home sold for top dollar and when that offer comes in, all of the stress and exhaustion will become a distant memory. That is until it's time to move, but that is another post. 😀
  • If you can, be at the house with them the day before the photo shoot. It's always better to have another set of eyes on things as we can often spot items that need attention. Something as simple as making sure the blinds are level and all turned the same way can make a big difference in the pictures. 
  • On the day of the shoot, I like to send encouraging messages to let them know how great the home looks, thank them for their hard work, and remind them to take a breather.

Whew! Preparing a home to sell takes a lot of work. Helping your clients navigate this part of the process is key. When you can be a positive cheerleader, your clients with your help, will sail through these stressful times. Your role during this part of the process is vital.

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Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

Your post really shines a light on the emotional rollercoaster that comes with selling a home, Dr. Paula McDonald! I appreciate your practical tips for keeping stress at bay and your positive approach to supporting clients through it all. Thanks for sharing your wisdom—it’s a refreshing reminder that every step can lead to a successful sale!

Mar 24, 2025 04:47 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Thank you, Lew. It was a tough day for my clients but an inspiration for this post. 

Mar 24, 2025 04:51 PM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Paula,

Many don't realize how important it is to be the positive cheerleader during the stressful time between signing and the photographer comes. Establishing that time line is so important to sellers, getting it on the calendar is a great visual and becomes doable...seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

Mar 24, 2025 05:37 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

This is so true, Dorie. Helping our clients navigate the stress is so important.

Mar 25, 2025 09:54 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Well done, Paula- you have to think of yourself as a coach or as Dorie Dillard Austin TX said, a cheerleader. It can get exhausting and having an agent such as yourself who can help guide you through this is immeasureable. 

Mar 24, 2025 05:45 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

That is right, Kathy. We wear many hats in this business!

Mar 25, 2025 09:55 AM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

I think I heard something about most of our stress comes from the anticipation of what might be and once we become more present and figure out exactly what we need to do. It gets a little easier..

Mar 24, 2025 06:27 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Those are wise words, Laura. We need to keep things in perspective for sure.

Mar 25, 2025 09:55 AM
Charles Ross - eXp Realty (Salina Group) | Broker
Salina Group - Salina, KS
Love To Help People

Dr. Paula McDonald, your empathy and wisdom shine through in this post! Sellers are lucky to have someone like you guiding them with grace through the stress. 💪 Your reminders about self-care and encouragement are golden! #StayMotivated #PositiveEnergy ✨🏡

Mar 24, 2025 06:59 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Awe, thank you, Charles. Yes, that self-care point is important for all of us.

Mar 25, 2025 09:56 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Paula. Nicely said. As an agent you are also the team captain, coach and cheerleader. Enjoy your day.

Mar 25, 2025 04:37 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

So true, Wayne. We serve in many roles in this industry.

Mar 25, 2025 09:56 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Paula - selling (or for that matter, buying) a property is not as simple as some may think or say.  There is a lot of work involved in the process.  And it can be tiring at times too.  Frustrating as well.  Congratulations to those who successfully take on the challenge!

Mar 25, 2025 04:41 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Absolutely, Michael. So much work goes on behind the scenes.

Mar 25, 2025 09:56 AM
Barbara Michaluk
Weichert Realtors | Phone Direct 240-506-2434 | 301-681-0550 office - Silver Spring, MD
Leisure World Specialist / Full Service REALTOR

Hi Paula, This is a good list to remind agents of some steps they can do to help their sellers get ready to place their home on the market. It's definitely a stressful process and they need all the help and support we agents can offer.

Mar 25, 2025 04:42 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Thank you, Barbara. There are so many aspects of emotions that our clients experience during a transaction.

Mar 25, 2025 09:57 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Paula... I give HGTV lots of credit for one thing... most times prospective sellers call me and say they've already started organizing their home for sale.

Mar 25, 2025 05:26 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

True, Nina. However, some of those shows don't show the true realities of the work that really goes into the preparation.

Mar 25, 2025 09:58 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Your approach is solid and I am sure that it is why you have a lot of success in selling homes!

Mar 25, 2025 06:03 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Thank you, Brian. The two decades I have bee doing this gig has certainly provided me with some rich training.

Mar 25, 2025 09:58 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

I have an older client who I have been helping to get her home ready, but it is overwhelming, we just pushed the photoshoot back a day, and she has decided one room she is going to pack and sort when she gets to her new home. She is exhausted, but she left a lot of things to long.

Mar 25, 2025 06:22 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Nick, yes, we sometimes have to just re-schedule things when those situations arise.

Mar 25, 2025 09:59 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Paula, I just experienced this scenario.  Two homes shoved into one townhome.  They had at least twice as much furniture as needed, but a month later, it turned out great, and I gave them both LOTS of praise on what they accomplished.

Mar 25, 2025 08:49 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Oh, Joan. You for sure have experienced the amount of work that goes into thinning the house of the clutter.

Mar 25, 2025 10:00 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist
KD Realty - 408.972.1822 - San Jose, CA
Probate Real Estate Services

Hello Dr. Paula McDonald - I spent 3.5 hours yesterday with a family discussing the sales process after their mother and grandmother passed away.  They were all exhausted. You are so right about reading the room and guiding them to a place of calm. Reminding them that we will be there for them every step of the way - they are not alone, also helps. 

It was not only the family that was exhausted, I felt like the person on the couch when I returned home ... yet as we know, there was still more work for us to do. 

Mar 25, 2025 09:43 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald

I am so glad they found you, Kathleen. A calm head is truly needed in these situations.

Mar 25, 2025 10:00 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

All excellent points Paula!  I think point about 'self care' is soooo important and always tried to help out when I could....with simple reminders.  And sometimes we'd give them a certificate for a pizza delivery which they always loved.

Mar 25, 2025 05:05 PM
Dr. Paula McDonald

Yes, they are, Anna. If we fail to care for ourselves, we can't contribute too much. Remember, place the oxygen mask on yourself first.

Mar 26, 2025 09:10 AM