The root of anger is judgment. Pause for cause here. If & when angry, ask yourself: why am I judging the circumstances, who am I judging, & why this application or approach to the event? This is a great place to start. You see, anger has multiple uses, however in everyday affairs, relationships or result achieving, it has no permanent, welcomed place
WORTHY NOTE: The self-evident fact that "anger" is not inviting, speaks volumes
ANGER DYNAMICS
not in your right mind
First off, you are not yourself when angry. Everyone else knows this too & now you, if angry, know it also. Anger calls on forces that do not compliment a human being. The literal mask of anger is a scowl, a face-contortion, intimidating & not welcoming, promising or rewarding.
ANGER ENERGY
Anger is a powerful energy, admittedly unattractive but useful in rare circumstances. It is a great defense against personal harm, an excellent survival mechanism & when called upon goes right to work. Upset, angry people force you to take note of them aggressively & are relentless
WORTHY NOTE: When anger is used to intimidate, it has a 90% effective rate
INSTANT DISSAPPROVAL MESSAGE
When something or someone exerts an aggressive, unrelenting & focused pressure on you that is not to your liking, your anger stand/reaction will put a stop to it from developing further. Imagine two (2) angry people going at it? Whoa
ANGER (in the spiritual) SUMMONS HELP TO PREVAIL
The person wielding the "anger" ploy is hoping you resent them. Why? That means their tactic won. If you resented, to it you now complicated & compounded whatever is disturbing you & taking place. Do not resent but observe or leave
WORTHY NOTE: Someone is bothering you & is becoming threatening from your point of view. Your anger will stop it dead in its tracks. Survival mechanism here
SOMETHING IS GOING WELL
You, for whatever reason, are involved in something or planned it, where it disappointed or failed & the resulting loss, pain or embarrassment summons your judgment of it all & instantly: Anger appears like a roaring lion. You get worse
SUPPRESSED ANGER
So, you are not an extrovert but a private person perhaps even sensitive in nature & something does not go well, or a slight was performed on you. Immediately we resent the results, anger appears, & in this case, we hold it in. Worse thing to do
ANGER INSIDE
Now your organs are under a self-induced stress attack. Nothing is spared & all gets bruised abused along with high blood pressure, blemish breaking out, headache & unnatural fatigue from misspent energy (nothing to show for it) plus much more. Acne, rosacea, eczema, psoriasis, all hungrily feed off stress (anger)
RESENTMENT's PART IN ANGER
Resentment, anger & judgment, all join hands in an unholy trinity that prior to the episode, did not exist. You see by being angry, you summoned them & now, they want something too i.e. to live out their brief, naughty existence or prolong it
YOUR NEW IDENTITY?
You were not created with anger, by anger or for anger. While trying to solve the riddle of your existence, why not rule out anger altogether. By doing this, we choose another way when things don't go well. There many are good choices too
WORTHY NOTE: Ever see a stone-faced, stiff-necked, troublesome person? Anger owns them & they serve that task master until they stop being angry & resentful
HEALTHY DISAPPOINTMENT
Calmly, without adding to the fray, anyone can state or declare their displeasure, their wanting the cause to stop (if warranted), & an instant change for the better by stating or acting that way out. In other words, people see your dissatisfaction, upset, & displeasure. If someone close to you, this is a call for love. If not, it is a call to flight. Making one's displeasure doesn't take negative energy, just a response
YOUR CENTER of BEING
Your inner observation post, the one you use to observe & come & go with, is under your command to do, or not do with no explanation necessary. Anger outsources that post to another or source, who will do as they choose with your center!
PROVOCATION
A deliberate action or speech intended to make you annoyed, frustrated thus angry. If successful, you give up control & then they have it. We must learn to navigate through these temptations or rise above them. They cannot be avoided
PARTING THOUGHT
If you get results by using anger, you are addicted & dysfunctional. If anger is used against you, there is your chance to sharpen your skills, demeanor, & stance, & grow in another way for the better. Grace, understanding & insight await you
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