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This month's Active Rain Challenge hosted by myself and Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 gives you the chance to write about a  moment in your life where you bloomed or for the pranksters in our midst you were able to pull one over on a friend with an April Fool prank.

I was thinking about this and thought about when my father died, I suddenly found myself responsible for purchasing for our family business, my brother was already in America running a gallery in New York which we had recently opened having moved from Los Angeles. I felt the weight of responsibility on my shoulders. 

I remember driving around some shops in England and purchasing an antique Worcester trio, that is a coffee cup, tea cup and saucer. When I got home I looked at them and thought to myself, well that is not going to pay the bills. I need to do better. I was very worried I could not do this.

I had a young child and wife to support, plus staff and rent to pay for a shop in the Knightsbridge area of London near Harrods. We were holding a big opening party in New York for the new gallery, my mother still grieving my Dad was going along with my sister and a partner/investor my father had brought into the business in the last year.

On the way, I decided to leave London go to Holland and attend an antiques fair being held in the city of Delft. My father had always gone and I had been in the past. I remember walking round and round finding nothing to buy. My wife and son were waiting in the car and we were leaving that evening for New York from Amsterdam airport. I though about walking round one more time, and then suddenly I looked up on top of a cabinet and there they were. 

The most amazing set of Chinese Export Porcelain, lobed bowls, or cache pots for holding flowers I had ever seen. Decorated in "famille rose" enamels and dating from about 1730 they were decorated with flowering plants, trees and phoenixes of the most amazing design. I quickly asked the price and condition, wondering how they were still there and not already sold. I looked them over carefully for condition wondering to myself how they could be this reasonable in price. I made an offer and the dealer accepted it. I had made my first major purchase and I felt very good about what I had bought.

Suddenly my confidence rose, I blossomed  and I knew I could do this. It turned out we made a significant profit on those bowls, sending them to New York to be sold by my brother. That one purchase gave me the confidence to dive in and trust my judgement and my knowledge.  Over the years I purchased many items that were unusual for us to deal in but which we made good profits on because of that one purchase. In the image below you will see he is jumping in but still has his ring around him, that was how I felt at first, but suddenly I could let go of the ring.

Jump right in

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Nick Vandekar
Nick is a Tredyffrin Easttown Residential and Commercial REALTOR selling The Main Line, Chester, Delaware and Montgomery Counties.

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Downingtown , PA 19335
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Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Lew Corcoran it really did change my whole thinking.

Carol Williams thank you, it was a special time as I was still grieving the loss of my Dad and this suddenly changed everything I felt, like he was there guiding me.

Apr 01, 2025 08:08 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Yes sometimes all we need a little nudge to overcome self defeating thoughts. Thank you for sharing this very personal story.

Apr 01, 2025 08:54 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Leanne Smith I was very young with a lot of responsibilities and was glad that it changed my perception.

Apr 01, 2025 09:12 AM
George Souto
George Souto NMLS #65149 - Middletown, CT
Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 it can be like a light bulb suddenly going on when that moment from nervous & unsure, clicks to secure & confident.

Apr 01, 2025 09:32 AM
Eileen Burns 954.483.3912
Trans State Commercial Realty Inc. - Fort Lauderdale, FL
FLorida Real Estate Connector

Dive right in Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 What beautiful items you were able to purchase.  A sign you were on the right path.  😎

Apr 01, 2025 10:38 AM
Patricia Feager
Flower Mound, TX
Inactive/Semi Retired Real Estate Agent

Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 - what a beautiful story about family and starting a new chapter in your life for your family. Could it be, that your dad laid his hands upon you on Heaven and Earth to guide you and your brother in the right direction?

I could see your attraction to the "Chinese Export Porcelain, lobed bowls, or cachet pots for holding flowers!' Now that was a very rare antique dating back to ~1730! The hand painting was incredible with fine attention to details!

That's a great photograph of your brother too! I am glad you shared this to us here on ActiveRain. It is inspiring to know, that when you believe, dreams can come true!

Question! Do you go to the Antique Road Shows? 

Apr 01, 2025 11:49 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

George Souto that sums it up very well.

Eileen Burns 954.483.3912 it just bubbled up as I thought about the challenge.

Patricia Feager I used to be part of the Antiques Roadshow, actually auditioned to be the host, but did not make it. I have been on TV two or three times. 

Apr 01, 2025 11:53 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Nick, so glad that purchase gave you the confidence it took to be successful.   That is true in real estate as well.

Apr 01, 2025 12:46 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Joan Cox thank you, getting involved at the state level gave me confidence as I learnt more about the industry and met and talked with other practitioners.

Apr 01, 2025 12:55 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Loved your story, Nick, I cannot imagine the pressure you must have felt having just lost your father and now stepping in to purchase for the family business That's a huge weight on anyone's shoulders. Buying that item and relying on your experience and good eye gave you what you needed!!!

Apr 01, 2025 06:38 PM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Nick - everyday life throws curveballs of many kinds in our direction.   You had much to take into consideration.  Your knowledge, determination and ability to confront tragedy combined to help you.  

Apr 02, 2025 03:33 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

That is a great story! It takes skill and know-how to know what to purchase and what is a good price. I have absolutely no experience with antiques and would have had no idea that I was in front of a good deal, even if it bit me in the nose.

Apr 02, 2025 05:14 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Kathy Streib my Dad always said to other people I had a good eye, my brother had a lot of technical knowledge, but I had an eye for a piece or a deal.

Michael Jacobs I was so young and having t deal with this older investor, I learned a lot and we ended up buying him out a little later.

Kat Palmiotti my Dad had never taught me per se, but I learned from being around him and developing my own taste for what was good and worth buying.

Apr 02, 2025 08:41 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good evening Nick,

I loved your story and I personally think your dad was right there with you, guiding you to build your confidence through your extraordinary purchase!!

Apr 02, 2025 04:49 PM
Steffy Hristova
HomeSmart Elite Group Tempe AZ Tel: 602.710.8161 - Tempe, AZ
Tempe AZ Realtor - Your Home Close to Your Work!

What an entertaining story, Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543 . The divvy in you blossomed at that market. :) Beautiful vase!

Apr 02, 2025 05:17 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Dorie Dillard Austin TX I didn't think so at the time, but looking back I think you were right. The fact that I went back and had a final walk around, totally changed everything.

Steffy Hristova thank you, it was a light bulb moment for me.

Apr 03, 2025 07:21 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Associate Real Estate Broker

Great story Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543  one can try to judge the temperature of the water by dipping the toes, but there is really only one way and that is to commit

Apr 10, 2025 01:52 PM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 when I made this purchase it was a commitment, but I knew straight away that it was a good buy and we would do well.

Apr 11, 2025 07:38 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

Thank you very much, Nick, for sharing this story.

Have a productive spring!

Apr 13, 2025 09:51 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Roy Kelley thank you. We went to Longwood yesterday and saw the tulips and the Spring Blooms. Lovely. Also tried out the new 1906 restaurant, very good.

Apr 13, 2025 10:02 AM