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Grammar: Is it: “If I were” or “If I was”?

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Is it: “If I were” or “If I was”? 

That question came up today because my email contained the following message:

“Hi,  
I am still waiting for your reply. 
Please let me know if you are interested! Send you a Pricing,
Thank you.”

It was followed by a copy of her previous email.

I saved it, with the idea that one of these days I’d do a whole post about emails that chase prospects away. Then I started to write my reaction to it, and found that I needed to brush up on my grammar skills.

I wrote: IF I was to answer this, my reply would be: “Had I been interested, I would have replied to your last email.”

And then I thought “No, maybe not. That might be wrong.”

So I went online to find out, and yes. That was wrong. 

I should have written: “If I were to answer this.”

Had I actually replied to her, I don’t know if I’d have mentioned how downright rude her email sounded. Maybe it doesn’t strike you that way, but “I’m still waiting” sounds rude to me. There are several other, better, less abrasive ways to write a follow-up after sending a message that got no response.

Since "If I was" was not proper in my sentence, I started to wonder where/when it would be proper. 

My internet search said to use "if I was" for real past events. I couldn’t think of anything that fit, so looked around a bit more and found an example.

It would be proper to say: "If I was rude to you yesterday, I apologize."

In this case, "if I was" is acceptable because it refers to a possible situation in the past that might actually have happened. If you're talking about hypothetical or contrary-to-fact situations, "if I were" is typically used instead (e.g., "If I were taller, I'd play basketball.").

So - there's the answer. Most of the time, it's proper to write "if I were." 

 

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Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

Thanks for this insightful post, Marte Cliff! It’s always great to brush up on grammar, and I appreciate how you highlighted the nuances of "if I were" versus "if I was." Your tips on clear communication are spot on—keep ‘em coming!

Apr 23, 2025 02:20 PM
Marte Cliff

Thanks Lew. I figure that when I'm confused, I may not be the only one. So after I find the answer, I share. 

Apr 23, 2025 03:14 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Marte- thank you for keeping us on our toes. This one can be confusing but the explanation of when to use it makes sense to me. Now...if only I can remember that!!

Pete Xavier Thank you for that. 

Apr 23, 2025 07:51 PM
Marte Cliff

Thanks Kathy Streib. I think I'll just try to remember that it's usually "were."

May 08, 2025 09:48 AM
Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Marte:

Thank you for sharing your confusion so that we can all learn.

I hate receiving the kind of emails that you received - it's even worse when they say "how come you haven't responded yet?" or something equally rude. It's spam so I don't bother to respond - but I sure can think of some smart retorts. It's maddening.

Jeff

Apr 23, 2025 08:03 PM
Marte Cliff

Jeff Dowler, CRS - I usually just delete those emails. But once in a while they hit me wrong, so I respond.

May 08, 2025 09:49 AM
Patricia Feager
Flower Mound, TX
Inactive/Semi Retired Real Estate Agent

Marte Cliff - I definitely need to brush up on my grammar skills. Thank you for another great educational blog post! 

Apr 23, 2025 08:58 PM
Marte Cliff

You're very welcome, Patricia Feager.  I think we probably all need to refresh our memories from time to time. Of course, some of these issues are things many of us never really thought about until we realized we might be judged by the words we write. 

May 08, 2025 09:51 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Since I don't know, change the sentence to:

(If I choose to answer this...." eliminate was or were. Jeff

Apr 23, 2025 09:46 PM
Marte Cliff

Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI - changing the sentence entirely is always a good work-around! 

May 08, 2025 09:52 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

I already knew that, Marte! Maybe because I had a great grounding in elementary school in grammar. But I find that most people don't know when to use were or was, so a great explanation.

Apr 24, 2025 04:33 AM
Marte Cliff

Thanks Nina Hollander, Broker

May 08, 2025 09:52 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Excellent explanation of when to use if I were versus if I was. I'll remember that for future use!

Apr 24, 2025 05:45 AM
Marte Cliff

Thank you Kat Palmiotti - Now that I looked it up, I think I will too. 

May 08, 2025 09:53 AM
Roy Kelley
Retired - Gaithersburg, MD

This is a good reminder for all of us. I posted your blog on X.

I hope you are having an outstanding week.

Apr 24, 2025 10:36 AM
Marte Cliff

Thank you Roy Kelley. I appreciate your support!  

May 08, 2025 09:53 AM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Marte, thanks for the lesson, and I thought your first response was correct, so tells you how much I know (or not).

Apr 25, 2025 10:46 AM
Marte Cliff

Joan Cox - and that, combined with being not quite sure, is why I looked it up. 

May 08, 2025 09:54 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Apr 26, 2025 06:24 PM
Marte Cliff

Thank you Kathy Streib. That's always an honor.  

May 08, 2025 09:55 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Marte. Thank you for the explanation. I find myself questioning proper grammar all the time. And, many times I make the wrong choice. Let's just say I am a work in progress. Enjoy your day.

Apr 27, 2025 05:10 AM
Marte Cliff

Wayne Martin - we are all a work in progress. That's a good thing, since standing still means going backward. We're right to question it, because even things like grammar check are often wrong. 

For instance, something I wrote this week included the word "advice." Word kept insisting it was wrong and telling me to switch it to "advise." Since one is a noun and the other is a verb, I have no idea why it should make that mistake, but it did.

May 08, 2025 09:58 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX
Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899 - Austin, TX
NW Austin ~ Canyon Creek and Spicewood/Balcones

Good morning Marte,

I'm so so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her Sunday Series as I missed it. What a wonderful explanation! This one can be confusing, even when I was in grammar school, but your explanation of when to use it makes sense to me now. Hopefully I'll remember LOL!! 

Apr 27, 2025 05:47 AM
Marte Cliff

Thank you Dorie Dillard Austin TX. Since my "forgetter" seems to work overtime, I always try to find simple explanations to make it easy to remember things. 

May 08, 2025 09:59 AM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Marte since I don't reply to silly emails or texts like that I don't need to know what to say cause there is nutting to say.  There is that silly enough for Sunday!!

Apr 27, 2025 12:24 PM
Marte Cliff

Anna "Banana" Kruchten - yep! 

May 08, 2025 10:00 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

If I were to comment on all your posts, I would get many grammar rules wrong. But I would get this one right! Somehow I learned this rule early on, and it stuck. You explained in perfectly.

Apr 28, 2025 06:36 AM
Marte Cliff

Thank you Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty. I don't know that I had given this one a whole lot of thought before.  

May 08, 2025 10:01 AM