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Grammar: Is it: “If I were” or “If I was”?

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Is it: “If I were” or “If I was”? 

That question came up today because my email contained the following message:

“Hi,  
I am still waiting for your reply. 
Please let me know if you are interested! Send you a Pricing,
Thank you.”

It was followed by a copy of her previous email.

I saved it, with the idea that one of these days I’d do a whole post about emails that chase prospects away. Then I started to write my reaction to it, and found that I needed to brush up on my grammar skills.

I wrote: IF I was to answer this, my reply would be: “Had I been interested, I would have replied to your last email.”

And then I thought “No, maybe not. That might be wrong.”

So I went online to find out, and yes. That was wrong. 

I should have written: “If I were to answer this.”

Had I actually replied to her, I don’t know if I’d have mentioned how downright rude her email sounded. Maybe it doesn’t strike you that way, but “I’m still waiting” sounds rude to me. There are several other, better, less abrasive ways to write a follow-up after sending a message that got no response.

Since "If I was" was not proper in my sentence, I started to wonder where/when it would be proper. 

My internet search said to use "if I was" for real past events. I couldn’t think of anything that fit, so looked around a bit more and found an example.

It would be proper to say: "If I was rude to you yesterday, I apologize."

In this case, "if I was" is acceptable because it refers to a possible situation in the past that might actually have happened. If you're talking about hypothetical or contrary-to-fact situations, "if I were" is typically used instead (e.g., "If I were taller, I'd play basketball.").

So - there's the answer. Most of the time, it's proper to write "if I were." 

 

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Thanks for this insightful post, Marte Cliff! It’s always great to brush up on grammar, and I appreciate how you highlighted the nuances of "if I were" versus "if I was." Your tips on clear communication are spot on—keep ‘em coming!

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Hi Marte- thank you for keeping us on our toes. This one can be confusing but the explanation of when to use it makes sense to me. Now...if only I can remember that!!

Pete Xavier Thank you for that. 

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Marte:

Thank you for sharing your confusion so that we can all learn.

I hate receiving the kind of emails that you received - it's even worse when they say "how come you haven't responded yet?" or something equally rude. It's spam so I don't bother to respond - but I sure can think of some smart retorts. It's maddening.

Jeff

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Marte Cliff - I definitely need to brush up on my grammar skills. Thank you for another great educational blog post! 

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Since I don't know, change the sentence to:

(If I choose to answer this...." eliminate was or were. Jeff

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I already knew that, Marte! Maybe because I had a great grounding in elementary school in grammar. But I find that most people don't know when to use were or was, so a great explanation.

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Excellent explanation of when to use if I were versus if I was. I'll remember that for future use!

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This is a good reminder for all of us. I posted your blog on X.

I hope you are having an outstanding week.

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Marte, thanks for the lesson, and I thought your first response was correct, so tells you how much I know (or not).

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Good morning Marte. Thank you for the explanation. I find myself questioning proper grammar all the time. And, many times I make the wrong choice. Let's just say I am a work in progress. Enjoy your day.

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Good morning Marte,

I'm so so glad that Kathy Streib featured your post in her Sunday Series as I missed it. What a wonderful explanation! This one can be confusing, even when I was in grammar school, but your explanation of when to use it makes sense to me now. Hopefully I'll remember LOL!! 

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Marte since I don't reply to silly emails or texts like that I don't need to know what to say cause there is nutting to say.  There is that silly enough for Sunday!!

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If I were to comment on all your posts, I would get many grammar rules wrong. But I would get this one right! Somehow I learned this rule early on, and it stuck. You explained in perfectly.

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