The pain or discomfort I speak about in the posting title is discovering either for yourself, or from being told (true or not) something about you that is disturbing, painful, embarrassing & humiliating too. It is so obvious that it interferes with our moment & making it even worse is when we start thinking if anyone else knows. I ask you, how will we be rid, corrected & cured if not first identified with the need to do so?
WORTHY NOTE: Short-term pain is automatic with personal growth.
this too shall pass
THE PAIN OF EMBARRASMENT
A powerful feeling of self-consciousness, awkwardness, inadequacy, shame, wrong-doing or being exposed with a fault or lack, the mother of it all being guilt. In private, it smarts. In front of others, it hurts & in public, it wounds. If endured, leads to recovery at what appears to be a very slow speed for our tastes & wants. The good news? It is fleeting i.e. the event runs away from you in time. It's gone!
PAIN OF HUMILIATION
Imagine embarrassment on steroids. Deeper, more profound feelings driven & fed by your pride & ego of being degraded or diminished, caused by mistreatment or ridicule. Trying to exercise authority over humiliation is difficult, injurious to our credibility & resistant to smoothing things over or damage controls. It hurts badly!
CRIPPLED BY LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Believing you are not worthy or good enough & having that reinforced to where you act it out, is beating yourself seriously with a giant stick with thorns & poison ivy attached. In other words, you deserve all the negative that comes your way if you practice this form of self-harm. The truth is all are worthy & privileged
YOUR PERSONAL FEARS
These have us coming & going, even running & hiding all by our own hand & can be real or imagined too. Shakespeare says: "The coward suffers a thousand deaths, the brave but one" & Richspeare agrees. If your fear was what you keep thinking, telling & believing it to be, then you give it power. If you stop your part, only then will you see that if it had all this power, you would be dead. Still here? You win!
FEEDBACK & INPUT
These can be intimate friends or food for never-ending arguments. It all depends on you & how much truth you can stand. What people say or say back can be useful, but not if we refuse them. That takes us to the reason for all this
WORTHY NOTE: Any suffering to know the truth will set you free. Worth it!
THE FIRST TRUTH
In the world of truths, we have personal & eternal. Your personal truths are allowed & you must take responsibility for them if they harm another or if they don't work or intrude. Correcting personal truths is not easy. WHY? The most painful truth is the truth about yourself, then other truths that visit & apply. Why does it hurt so?
PRIDE backed by YOUR EGO
An ego & pride death are one of the most painful experiences out there as the pain or assault is in real time & lasts, plus the truth hits target center for these two rascals. They don't want to die, be wrong, diminished or dismissed. They are false gods who will inflict pain for you to stop & falsely reward you if you do.
YOUR OWN IGNORANCE
When you see how ignorant you are in private, public, with another or by actions, it is not a cause to celebrate let me tell you. It is a lingering, sad, non-negotiable pain of discovery (a blow to your blind ego). A glimpse of a high & mighty false you
SADNESS & SORROW
It's not advertised, shared readily or admitted, but remains self-evident for those who can & want to see it is so. Who wants to see anyone suffer, lose, endure pain or loss or be defeated? Sports remind us that there are winners & losers, but with sadness & sorrow, respecting no one & including all like nature, animals, etc.
REALITY IS YOUR FRIEND
It is best friends with the truth, too. If you have not discovered the paradox of "there are no accidents in life" yet, that whatever you are facing is for you to learn & grow from, intended to help you by facing the moments of truth, with humility, courage & the belief of becoming better for it, then you are not real, but you can be, if you suffer for the right reasons to know
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