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If I Had to Start Over: A Real Estate Reboot with 20/20 Hindsight

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Realty ~ 512.750.6899

I’m not one to get stuck in the past chanting the old “shoulda, coulda, woulda” anthem. That’s just not how I roll. Life has a way of moving forward, and so do I. But for the sake of this challenge, I took a walk down memory lane, and what a ride it’s been!

When I stepped into the world of real estate, it wasn’t some long-dreamed plan. I was a single mom who needed a new path—and fast. Teaching no longer felt like the right fit, so I pivoted. Real estate made the shortlist, and before I knew it, I was knee-deep in classes, passed the exam, and signed on with a brokerage.

I had amazing mentors, solid training, a strong support system, and in the most unexpected twist, I met my soulmate Geno along the way. Real estate, as it turned out, gave me more than just a career. It gave me a new life.

Fast forward 33 years, yep, I’ve been doing this since we were flipping through MLS books where the listings were outdated the day we got them. Back when pagers were the hottest tech around and a cell phone was something only doctors carried. Watching technology evolve was exhilarating, and I was all in—learning, adapting, and discovering that my true passion lies in listing homes.

Early on, I carved out a niche by geographically farming my own neighborhood. Living in my farm area made it natural to connect with people, show up, and build trust. But here’s one thing I would change if I had the chance to start over: I wish I had marketed to my previous neighbors and friends right from the beginning.

Post-divorce, I felt embarrassed about losing my home, so I avoided that circle. Big mistake. When I finally got the courage to re-engage years later, I found out they were more than willing, and eager, to support me. It taught me that people don't judge nearly as much as we fear they do. They just want someone they can trust.

Over the years, I’ve learned this business is what you make of it. You are the CEO of your own company. Your broker holds your license, yes, but you steer the ship. The earlier you embrace that mindset, the quicker your business will take shape.

If you’re just starting out, here’s my tried-and-true advice:

♦Decide who you want to work with—and why.

♦Write a business plan. Don’t wing it.

♦Set a marketing budget and market like you mean it!

♦Treat every person with fairness and integrity.

♦Know your fiduciary duty and never take it lightly.

♦Master the art of listening.

♦Guard your clients’ confidentiality like its gold.

♦Create balance, life isn’t just about closings.

♦Keep learning. The industry evolves, and you should too.

♦Be a team player. Help others rise.

♦Be of service—whether it’s your client, your colleague, or your community.

The truth is, most agents are busy, but only a few are truly productive. The difference? Time blocking, sticking to your plan, and knowing your numbers. Review your business annually. Reset. Refocus. Realign.

The agents who create structure, simplify their focus, and execute consistently are the ones who thrive. And now? Yes, there’s a lot of noise in the industry, but within the chaos lies opportunity. Motivated buyers are out there, and agents who stay focused, flexible, and forward-thinking can build something truly remarkable.

So, if I had to start over? I’d remind myself that setbacks aren’t permanent. That marketing from the heart beats slick slogans. And that confidence grows from showing up every day, even when you’re scared.

To those just getting started: You’ve got this. Build your systems. Sharpen your message. Focus on the activities that make money and build relationships. Real estate is more than a job, it’s a journey. Make yours count.

 

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Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Dorie,
This is a Gold-Star Post with so much excellent advice. Your comment that most agents aren't productive reminded me of something I often say: "Do not mistake activity for progress." It's easy to keep busy in this business without being productive.

Thanks for a great post.

May 18, 2025 06:34 AM
Dorie Dillard Austin TX

Thank you so much for the gold star Carol Williams that means a lot coming from you!

May 18, 2025 07:02 AM

Dorie, 

It's always such a pleasure to read your posts and learn one more thing about you and your real estate career. I had that insight about marketing to my old neighborhood - we have expertise there, we know it at a much deeper level. 

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Hi Dorie: Gotta say even for someone like me who started in real estate in 1990 this was very insightful! "yep, I’ve been doing this since we were flipping through MLS books where the listings were outdated the day we got them. Back when pagers were the hottest tech around and a cell phone was something only doctors carried."

I love it Dorie!

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Congratulations, Dorie.
This post is featured in the BananaTUDE Group.

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Jeff Dowler, CRS
eXp Realty of California, Inc. - Carlsbad, CA
The Southern California Relocation Dude

Hi Dorie:

Congratulations on this well-deserved feature. Your "tried and true" advice is so right on target.

Jeff

May 18, 2025 12:03 PM
Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Dorie this is by far one of the best posts I've read in a long time on ActiveRain.  You nailed it to a T!   Your advice is rock solid.   And you know what, it sounds oddly much like my story....except I started before pagers!!  But boy I loved techie stuff too and embraced from the git go.  Excellent GOLD STAR post! ⭐

May 18, 2025 01:14 PM

Thanks for sharing such heartfelt wisdom, Dorie Dillard Austin TX—your honesty and experience really shine through. I love how you emphasize the importance of authenticity and resilience in this business. 🌟🏡 Wishing you continued success on your journey!

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It’s funny how much wisdom we gain that you don’t even realize half the time and then by the time that comes when we do understand our wisdom, we all feel like we can be the stages for the ages, you know?

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I always enjoy your posts because You are always upbeat and positive! Great advice here for young and old. There are so many things to like about what you have said here but one of my favorites is to market from the heart not slick slogans! I agree!

Thank you for sharing all your tips and tricks!! well maybe not all of them......✨

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Great post.  Thanks for sharing..

 

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Words of wisdom! 😍

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Yup, divorce changes us and so does being a single mom.  But I can't think of a single woman that isn't wiser and stronger for having walked in those shoes.  

Your list of advice sounds like how I run my business.  

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Well, Dorie Dillard Austin TX - this was an exceptional blog post and definitely worth being FEATURED! Without a gripe, you set things in motion and found the love of your life in the process of starting two new journeys!!! Both went very well for you! And the torch was passed down to your daughter too!

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What a great post and advice to help others be successful.  So appreciate your story!  GREAT FEATURE!

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Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

Another outstanding post and one many newer agents would be wise to read.  Congrats on the feature as well. I would only add be flexible and recognize each transaction is different.

May 20, 2025 11:18 AM
J.R. Schloemer
Kentucky Select Properties - Louisville, KY

Phenomenal advice Dorie Dillard Austin TX! As soon as you listed, "I had amazing mentors, solid training, a solid support system..." I knew your blog was going to be excellent! To me, that is the make or break variable in this business...too bad there aren't more "amazing mentors" out there for everyone to learn the trade. Thanks for your words, great job!

May 21, 2025 06:04 AM
Mike McCann Broker - Mach1 Realty
Mike McCann - Broker, Mach1 Realty Broker-Auctioneer Serving Nebraska - Kearney, NE
ALL Types of Property For Sale 308-627-3700

Hi Dorie Dillard Austin TX   Excellent blog and advice.  The vast majority of your advice is extremely valuable to all of us today! Even those of us who have been in the business since 1992 or before!  Thank you so much for sharing!  Have a great day!

May 21, 2025 01:03 PM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

Dorie Dillard Austin TX  :

What a super entry! This is so true of our buyers and sellers: They just want someone they can trust.

May 25, 2025 07:02 AM
Lynn B. Friedman CRS Atlanta, GA 404-617-6375
Atlanta Homes ODAT Realty - Love our Great City - Love our Clients! Buckhead - Midtown - Westside - Atlanta, GA
Concierge Service for Our Atlanta Sellers & Buyers

Dorie Dillard Austin TX 
Your post could be a class:
Real Estate Success Plan 101
Thanks

May 25, 2025 07:45 PM

Hi Dorie! I love your story and love how you overcame! They say teachers & nurses make the best real estate agents and I believe it! You've obviously brought your first career into this business and built one heck of one as a result. 

Love all of your tips! I have to laugh when agents say, "I work for ___ brokerage" and "I never do a business plan nor create a budget!" I'm always curious how they can call themselves business owners! 

Great entry into last month's challenge. So sorry it took me so long to leave a comment!

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