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MY RESPONSE TO THE ANONYMOUS JELLYFISH

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Real Estate Agent with Coldwell Banker Residential

I tried to turn the other cheek...

When my boss handed me the letter, I was shocked.  We were in his office.  I never like being in a bosses office.  I feel like I am twelve years old, sitting in the principals office.  Nothing good can come from being there.

Anyway, the letter was vicious.  It said a lot of bad things.  Bad things about me.

The worst part about it was that it was written anonymously, with no return address.  How do you defend yourself from a character attack written anonymously?

I was shocked and upset.  I drove home wondering what I should do. 

The prudent move would have been to throw it away and forget about it.  That's probably what most would have done.  Me?

I post it on my blog.  Smart move.

Anyway, I really didn't defend myself in the post.  I thought the mean spirit of the letter would be clear.

What would Jesus do?  How about Gandhi?

Unfortunately, I have received several calls from friends who read my blog.  They are uncomfortable that I am making myself vulnerable for such attacks by posting so honestly.  They are uncomfortable with the things that were said about me. 

They were bad things, after all.

So, I figure Jesus?  Gandhi?  Those two were WAY better than me.  So without further ado...

My response to the anonymous jellyfish who wrote the letter:

You are a fool.  You are an idiot.  You are a pathetic, lying waste of flesh.

I don't believe you worked for my old office.  You mention RE/MAX several times, but never the name of my office.  I worked for RE/MAX Action for almost three years and was proud of it.  I still have tons of friends there.

I don't believe you have ever even met me.  You mention making fun of me behind my back in the Naperville/Plainfield area.  Why?  My old office was in Lisle.  It's not too cool to talk behind peoples back, by the way, and even weirder to brag about it.

You mock me for writing about key-lime pie in my blog.  It's my blog and I will write about anything I want.  If you don't like it, STOP READING!!!  What's wrong with key-lime pie, anyway?

You mock me for renting.  You ask, "Don't we tell people all the disadvantages of renting?"  I don't.  I try to advise my clients based on their needs.  Renting is the right choice for some while owning is better for others. 

You write of me admitting "to working as a limo driver part time."  Is that a slam on limo drivers?  It's not easy.  Tip them well.  Excuse me for trying to feed my family.

You call me a "dead-beat agent".  What does that even mean?  My motto is honest, hardworking and fair.  I proudly strive to live up to that motto.

You write "I can't imagine anyone asking him to be their realtor."  You obviously haven't met me.  I was born to be a realtor.

You make fun of my financial situation.  It has been tough time for my family, financially.  So you feel the need to make fun of me for that?

You write about my negativity.  Have you read my blog?  I am trying to be inspirational.  Either I am a horrible writer, or again, you're an idiot.

Finally, you accuse me of lying about my decision on offices.  You write "Ken wasn't the one that made the decision on his working there."  Why would I be honest about EVERYTHING else, yet lie about that.  RE/MAX wasn't the right business model for me right now.  Keller Williams is.

My name is Ken Tracy.  Who are you?

Ken

To find your next home, visit my website anytime.

 

 

 

Comments(16)

Leonard Thomas
RE/MAX Dallas Suburbs - Plano, TX

Good for you Ken, I like that you're standing up for yourself - it's a great start.  Jesus & Gandhi (and you and me) all know that I may not agree with your methods (and you mine) but what a horrible sack of !@#$ for someone to fault a man trying to provide for his family.

Kudos to you sir.

Jul 11, 2008 11:32 AM
Kim Sellers
Lake Arrowhead, CA Coldwell Banker - Lake Arrowhead, CA
Lake Arrowhead Realtor - BRE#01412099 - Lake Arrow

That is just mean and wrong Ken.  Funny thing, I can totally relate to this today.  I received an anonymous email this morning that was malicious and hurtful and I have cried all day over it... People need to get over themselves.

Jul 11, 2008 11:41 AM
John Walters
Frank Rubi Real Estate - Slidell, LA
Licensed in Louisiana

Ken like I said before if I were your boss it would have gone in the trash.

Jul 11, 2008 11:59 AM
Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi Leonard and Kim.  Thanks for stopping by.

Leonard!  Where have you been?  I have been anxiously awaiting your next post.  It has been almost 3 months!!  Welcome back.  But be nice.:)

Hi Kim.  Hope my letter made you feel a little better!

Ken

Jul 11, 2008 12:00 PM
Anonymous
Not Yet Licensed

I received an anonymous email this morning that was malicious and hurtful and I have cried all day over it...

Dear Kim,

I don't know you but I do know there are a few sick people who send anonymous emails and letters to nice, innocent people and their bosses.  I've said it before, but it's worth repeating.  There are some crazy people on the internet.  I've observed them for about ten years.  Obviously at least one of them is reading Active Rain now.  This type of behavior might be new and unthinkable for you, but it's standard operating procedure for internet trolls. 

Here's a reminder of my warning to Active Rainers.  Do not respond to these trolls.  Their only goal is to stir things up.  They love to provoke a reaction out of you.  Ignore them at all times.  If they post nonsense in your thread, delete them without comment.  If you respond, you lose.  If you ignore them, they will eventually tire of their little game and move on.  I'm serious.  Put yourself in control.  Do not let unknown people play mind games with you.  Think about this from the proper perspective.  Active Rainers are all adults.  OTOH, school's out for the summer.  There are lots of bored teenagers out there who don't have a job so they kill time playing silly games on the internet.

Sincerely,

Bruce

Jul 11, 2008 12:21 PM
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Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi John and Bruce.  Thanks for stopping by.

Bruce, thanks for the solid advice.

Ken

Jul 11, 2008 12:47 PM
Suzanne Sands
Pavao Real Estate - Somerset, MA
Somerset MA Real Estate

Hi Ken,

There will always be negative people and if you allow them to they will suck you right in. I'm sure,  the writer of that letter would have been very disappointed if they didn't get a reaction out of you....but they did!

It's your blog you can write about anything you want. But the drama of it all...do you think this is what your readers want....think about it. :)

 

 

 

Jul 11, 2008 01:05 PM
Kevin O'Shea
Coldwell Banker - White Plains, NY
White Plains, NY Real Estate

Ken,

Move on from this it isn't good for you to dwell on people on that level.

All the best!

Jul 11, 2008 01:09 PM
Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi Suzanne and Kevin.  Thanks for stopping by.

I won't dwell.  But I did feel I needed to respond.  Perhaps another error.  Not my first!:)

Ken

Jul 11, 2008 02:14 PM
Don Rogers
Keller Williams Realty Chesterfield - O'Fallon, MO
Realtor, Broker, CDPE, GRI, OnullFallon MO & St Charles County MO homes

Good morning Ken,

There are some that think they have to step on people no matter where they are, up or down, just to make them feel better about themselves.  Can I make a suggestion, take this out of the public eye and make it a members only post.  Just a suggestion because it sounds like it could be another member that could have sent the letter.

Don R.

Jul 11, 2008 11:14 PM
Harold "Hal" Place
A1 Connection Realty, Inc. - Sun City Center, FL

Hi Ken,

People do what people have to do. I hope you feel better and are able to move on now.

Good luck!

Jul 12, 2008 05:43 AM
Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi Don and Hal.  Thanks for stopping by.

I have moved on and am getting busy with real estate.

Ken

Jul 12, 2008 06:09 AM
Maria Mastrolonardo, IL Probate Specialist
RE/MAX of Naperville & RE/MAX Enterprises - Naperville, IL
Illinois Probate Realtor

Ken - It's really sad when people have nothing better to do, but write a nasty letter, they should be focusing on their RE business. Keep up the great attitude! All the best to you!

Jul 14, 2008 02:32 AM
Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi Maria.  Thanks for stopping by.

I still haven't seen you at Starbucks!!!

Ken

Jul 14, 2008 02:54 AM
Nannette Turner
eXp Realty LLC - Lynchburg, VA
Online Marketing Home Ownership Advocate Specialis

Ken I could not believe someone thought to bother sending such a senseless letter.  That is really a crappy person.  Sounds like this person really needs to focus on their own life!  I probably would have just blown it off like you have. 

Jul 15, 2008 01:03 PM
Ken Tracy
Coldwell Banker Residential - Naperville, IL
Helping clients buy and sell since 2005

Hi Nannette.  Put it behind me know.  Need to sell a few homes!

Ken

Jul 15, 2008 02:09 PM