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When Friendship Comes with a Price Tag | What is the Point?

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Real Estate Broker/Owner with KD Realty - 408.972.1822 CA DRE#01366594

After years of exchanging comments on ActiveRain blog posts, endless phone calls, emails, and planning ...

The day arrives – June 14, 2025. Such a historical day: Flag Day, the Army’s 250th Anniversary, Donald J. Trump’s 79th Birthday, J.D. Vance’s Wedding Anniversary, AND the day I have long waited for, the day I meet Dr. Paula McDonald.

We planned to meet on the last part of their trip to California. Paula, her husband, and son drove from Southern California to San Jose to meet in person.  

I'm anxious and excited, just watching the clock as I watch the Army’s 250th Anniversary Parade on television. I learned a lot about our Nation’s history watching the parade. Unknown to me, I was about to learn a lot about Dr. Paula. 

We meet at 6:00 pm at a Bar & Grill Paula chose from a list of suggested restaurants. Of course, she chose the most expensive restaurant.  It's the kind of place where the menu has names like "artisan distressed kale" and "locally whispered salmon." Fancy, right? I’m thinking, Okay, this is a treat, and I deserve it.

Dinner starts great. We cheer with our drinks - those that cost more because they have mint leaves dramatically hovering over the ice. 


The Pointless Gift With a Price Tag

We catch up on their trip to California, discussing how expensive Santa Barbara is, why Paula and her son spoil one dog over the other, how/why I specialize in probate real estate, and all sorts of things.  We all enjoyed the appetizer, meal, and dessert.  

Then it happens.

The check arrives as Mark gets up and excuses himself. Paula made no move toward the check. As time passes, Mark is nowhere to be found. I slide the check over, pick it up, and study it. We ordered so much that it looked like a CVS receipt. 

I sit there in disbelief as the bill sits there, as I am thinking ... 

I subtly ask, "Where is Mark? Is he okay? Should we check on him?" as I slide the check closer to her side of the table. And then she casually says, “You’ve got this, right?" 

At that moment, I remembered the ActiveRain Point Store is still Open. I said YES, I've got this.  I am gifting 300,000 ActiverRain points to pay the bill.  

 


 

Show Me a True Friend 

Mr. Crappy is at it again. If you believe any of the bull 💩 about the check, it is as fictional as Miss Anna "Banana" Kruchten 🍌🍌🍌 point store and the June Point Store Challenge hosted by Anna and Debe Maxwell, CRS. We are asked to be creative and have FUN! 

The truth is, Mark, long before the check arrived, had pulled out his credit card to pay the bill. 

Meeting my ActiveRain friend Paula McDonald after all these years made my heart happy.  She is everything and more in person than she is online and talking over the phone.  Her husband Mark is a true gentleman, husband, father, and leader. Her son is not only a handsome young man, but he is an aspiring professional and is ever so blessed by his parents, Mark and Paula. 

Paula, I love you. I am blessed to know you and call you a friend. Thank you for making your way to San Jose to meet me, thank you for the autographed copy of your book, and other gifts, and thank you and Mark for dinner. 

 

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Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

SO glad you two finally met, Kathleen! Paula has done a Zoom call with us and she is truly such a dear - so gracious, smart and beautiful inside and out! 

Thank you for sharing your meet-up with us here in the Rain! Meeting Paula (and you!) in person is a dream for many of us here.

Jun 15, 2025 03:41 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS

And you'd better believe you're on mine Miss Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist!

Jun 25, 2025 08:29 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Meeting you Miss Debe Maxwell, CRS is on my list ... someday! 

Jun 16, 2025 07:13 AM
Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!
Red Rock Real Estate (435) 632-9374 - St. George, UT
Southern Utah's Preferred Real Estate Agent.

Talk about sisters from different mister's and you almost had me convinced of the dinner check debacle, Kathleen. 👀 Loved the story and glad you were able to meet up with Paula and catch up!

Jun 15, 2025 04:03 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Haha - you caught that twist of humor on our meetup Miss Wanda Kubat-Nerdin - Wanda Can!  

Love "sisters from different misters"  we certainly have so much in common. 

Jun 16, 2025 07:18 AM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Kathleen- you are a hoot!!!   I loved your post. When I started reading your post, I thought...Who is this Kathleen impostor???  I'm so happy the two of you were able to meet.   I still remember when Sharon Tara and I got to meet. It was like we'd known each other for years.

Jun 15, 2025 05:52 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Kathy Streib I commented to someone else that anyone who knows me, even just a little, knows that is not my character, which is why I think the story is so funny ... the relationships we create here are like no others. 

Jun 16, 2025 07:20 AM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Associate Real Estate Broker

Any meeting of AR people is always special and the is ever a lapse in conversation nor smiles.

As for the check, the event more than justifies the paying.

 

Jun 15, 2025 05:53 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

No lack of things to talk about, that is for sure, Ed Silva, 203-206-0754 

The ordeal over the check was a joke - just having fun with the point store challenge. 

Jun 16, 2025 07:22 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Beam & Branch Realty - Granbury, TX
Granbury, TX 936-203-0279

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist - you are hilarious! First, I must confess that she was the sly one who arrived early and had already given her card to the hostess. Sneaky girl. It was a battle for that check for sure. But oh, what a wonderful person she is in person. I will write my post tomorrow. It felt like I was meeting someone I had known all of my life.

Jun 15, 2025 08:25 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I look forward to reading your post Dr. Paula McDonald - I started reading your book last night.  💗💙

Jun 16, 2025 07:24 AM
Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400
HomeRome Realty 410-530-2400 - Pikesville, MD
Sell Your Home With Margaret Rome

I love this post! Seeing two beautiful people that I admire meet with so much to share is the beauty of ActiveRain. Thanks for sharing, Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist 

Jun 15, 2025 11:47 PM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Thank you, Miss Margaret Rome Baltimore 410-530-2400 - I admire you as well. Who knows, maybe someday we will meet face to face. That would be wonderful.

Jun 16, 2025 07:25 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Kathleen - what a fun spin on this month's challenge.  And with more than a tip of balance included.  And isn't that one of the many points that makes sense of participating in this community.  

Jun 16, 2025 03:13 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Michael Jacobs -it was a spin for sure ... the goal was to have fun and hopefully people read to the end to realize it was a spin and Jerry Mcquire did not participate in the check equation.  

Jun 16, 2025 07:27 AM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Good morning, Kathleen... well, you certainly had me going there for a minute. So, so, so delighted that you had such a wonderful meet-up with Paula. You'll have this memory forever and it will always put a smile on your face, like the one in your picture of the two of you.

Jun 16, 2025 04:32 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Miss Nina Hollander, Broker - good to know I had you going ... yet I believe you know me well enough to know that is not my lean - just having some fun spinning points for the point store challenge.  

Jun 16, 2025 07:30 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

I have to admit that I am a bit jealous that you got to meet Dr. Paula McDonald since she is someone that I think I would really enjoy meeting.  Good thing that you have accumulated enough points in the Rain to cover a bill that nobody wants to pay, haha.

Jun 16, 2025 06:27 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

You have every right to be jealous Brian England - you would enjoy meeting Dr. Paula McDonald - she is an amazing person inside and out. As for the dinner bill - we were both happy to pay it. 

Jun 16, 2025 07:32 AM
Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho
Sandpoint Realty LLC - Sandpoint, ID
North Idaho Real Estate - 208-255.6227

Special meet for all of you it sounds.  m

Jun 16, 2025 06:37 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Indeed, it was special, Mark Don McInnes, Sandpoint-Idaho 

It seems to have happened out of the blue - I am blessed and grateful.

Jun 16, 2025 07:32 AM
Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty
Waves Realty - Melbourne, FL
Florida Space Coast Homes

Awesome. Sounds like you guys had a truly great time. I saw some of the parade (not all). I hope they also do one for the NAVY because we need to celebrate those who sacrifice so much (not just Memorial day for those who gave ALL). Great post.

Jun 16, 2025 06:46 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I agree that we need to honor and celebrate all of our armed forces Jeffrey DiMuria 321.223.6253 Waves Realty - I learned so much history. I confess it created some emotions - the magnitude of the sacrifices made is overwhelming ... then meeting Paula was a wonderful way to end the day. 

Jun 16, 2025 07:35 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

Congratulations, Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist on meeting up with a true friend, Dr. Paula McDonald. You and Paula and her family certainly had a wonderful time together.

Jun 16, 2025 07:28 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

John Juarez - Dr. Paula McDonald is a rare find - I treasure our friendship. Thank you for stopping by. 

Jun 17, 2025 07:01 AM
Jeffrey Richman
Immediate Home Solutions - Myrtle Beach, SC
Creative Real Estate Specialist

Hi Kathleen,

It's a great day when you get to meet another AR.  Good thing it wasn't awkward and that you all hit it off so well.  It's also a good thing that it didn't come to fisticuffs over the check!

Jun 16, 2025 07:29 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

The fisticuffs situation is exactly what I wanted to avoid Jeffrey Richman 

It was a wonderful evening. 

Jun 17, 2025 07:02 AM
Carol Williams
Although I'm retired, I love sharing my knowledge and learning from other real estate industry professionals. - Wenatchee, WA
Retired Agent / Broker / Prop. Mgr, Wenatchee, WA

Hi Kathleen,
I knew your dinner check story had to have a twist.  It made me think of those credit card commercials with Steve Martin and Martin Short. Steve Martin is always passing the bill off on Martin Short because he gets "points" for cash back.  

What a special meet-up. I am so glad you met Dr. Paul and her family. You two are like two peas in a pod. I loved every minute I spent with Paula, too. I'd like to return to Granbury sometime and stay in their boutique hotel. 

Jun 16, 2025 08:57 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

So you know from experience Dr. Paula McDonald is a wonderful person and a kind soul.  Their boutique hotel would be a great place to stay.

 

Jun 17, 2025 07:05 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ
Value Added Service, 602-620-2699 - Scottsdale, AZ
HomeSmart Elite Group, REALTOR®, EcoBroker, GREEN

What a GREAT member meetup!  How fun for you all.  And to boot, a funny AR Point post.  That's so wonderful for you both!  

Jun 16, 2025 09:41 AM
Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ

Good for you!  Will have to read! 

Jun 17, 2025 09:58 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I am enjoying the twist to the point store challenge Jan Green - Scottsdale, AZ - my fourth and final post is brewing in my head.  

Jun 17, 2025 07:06 AM
Brian Skaar
VanDyk Mortgage - VA, FHA, Conventional, VA Jumbo, Jumbo, Purchase Loans, & Refinance, Direct Lender - San Diego, CA
Purchase Loan Specialist - VA, FHA, Conventional

What a great story - the Artisan distressed Kale, LOL.  You had me rolling!

 

Jun 16, 2025 10:14 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Brian Skaar - thank you for stopping by.  Glad you found comic relief. 

Jun 17, 2025 07:07 AM
Lise Howe
Keller Williams Capital Properties - Washington, DC
Assoc. Broker in DC, MD, VA and attorney in DC

and now that you were featured you have even more points to pay the bill!  Lucky girl - and thanks for the entertaining post! 

Jun 16, 2025 11:44 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Yes - keep those points coming Lise Howe - I have so many more ways I want to spend them. 

Jun 17, 2025 07:08 AM
Wayne Martin
Wayne M Martin - Oswego, IL
Real Estate Broker - Retired

Good morning Kathleen. There is nothing more powerful than a personal meet-up with a long time Active Rain friend. Your post brought back memories of many I have been privileged to personally meet over the years and ones I still long to meet in person. Thanks! Your turn to pay nest time, ha, ha! Enjoy your day.

Jun 17, 2025 05:08 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

I agree, Wayne Martin -  there is nothing more powerful than a personal meet-up with a long-time AR friend.  I would like to do what Carol Williams does - get in the car and start travelling all around and make plans to meet so many incredible AR peeps. 

Jun 17, 2025 07:09 AM
Hannah Williams
HomeStarr Realty - Philadelphia, PA
Expertise NE Philadelphia & Bucks 215-820-3376

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist  It's terrific to meet another AR friend, and it's lovely of you to spend your points on dinner. It's a special feeling to finally meet the special person we've talked to for so long and bond with them in a personal way, as only Active Rain Friendships can do. By the way, you look fantastic Kathleen.  

Jun 17, 2025 08:47 AM
Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist

Hello Miss Hannah Williams - it is terrific to meet an AR friend - and some day it will be nice if we meet in person.  The restaurant was gracious with the point payment 🤣

Thank you for your kindness. 

Jun 17, 2025 03:36 PM
Hannah Williams

Kathleen Daniels, Probate & Trust Specialist  I would love to have the opportunity to meet you in person. I feel like I know you, but it would be awesome to get a real hug. Glad you had a great time it was truly points well spent 

Jun 17, 2025 03:45 PM
CA COASTAL ESTATES Lauren Selinsky Perez CRS
California Coastal Estates - Aliso Viejo, CA
"Your Real Estate Broker" #oclauren

What a nice gathering it seems and quite funny you are. That 300k points should take care of that check :) LOL.

Hope to see you soon too. 

Lauren

Jun 25, 2025 10:51 AM