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Life Does Not Guarantee Promises

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Real Estate Agent with Dirt Road Real Estate SA676002000

When we moved here to Golden Valley, AZ back in March of 2017, we looked forward to living here in the high desert with plenty of elbow room and lots of peace an quiet. As my husband, Ken, is a Vietnam Veteran, he decided to visit the local Veteran’s clinic. 

The clinic experience was very positive with the Doctor ordering a test due some sporadic discomfort my husband was experiencing. Fast forward a month, as the local hospital was not responding quickly enough the Doctor became quite irate and we had a last minute appointment within 48 hours.

That last minute appointment on a Friday afternoon turned into an emergency room visit followed by an order for an emergency surgery. The reason is the test revealed a presumed cancerous tumor attached to his small intestine. Since he had a small fever, the surgery was scheduled for the following Tuesday after the surgeon had another test performed.

The tumor was removed and husband was home within a few days.  As this surgery was somewhat complicated, recovery time was over the course of six weeks.

Thankfully my husband had a great attitude and followed the doctor’s instructions. Now eight years later he is doing OK, cancer free, given this experience as well as a new diagnosis of heart issues as a result of exposure to Agent Orange.

I was reminded of this experience after reading Debe Maxwell, CRS 's  post regarding her husband’s injury. Thank you Deb for sharing that wonderful story.

For me, sharing this experience is important as I have the best husband in the entire world. His forthright attitude is something I continue to admire and respect. I am so fortunate that he continues to move forward with little complaints. After now 34 years of married life, I am so beyond grateful and looking forward to our 35th Anniversary.

As an aside, I believe with all my heart and soul had we not moved to Mohave County, AZ my husband would not have survived. The Veteran's Clinic in NW IN was a dismal mess and non-responsive compared to the Veteran’s Clinic here In Kingman, AZ.

Life Does No Guarantee Promises

Ken’s emergency cancer surgery was a complete surprise.  And, I continue to thank God for his recovery, and he is still with me now eight years later.

What we fail to sometimes recognize is the human spirit is very resilient even in challenging and unexpected times. How we react to those challenging times is 100% in our control.

Often after reading the significant challenges experienced by others such as Debe Maxwell and her husband, I am reminded of this quote though not a direct Biblical quote from 1 Corinthians 15:10.

“There, but for the grace of God go I.”

This is my third entry into June’s challenge sponsored by Anna "Banana" Kruchten  and Debe Maxwell, CRS.

P.S. Golden Valley, AZ is home to many Vietnam Veterans as is Kingman, AZ.

#LetsGetBackToRealConversations #WeDoThingsDifferently

Leanne M Smith, The Grit and Gratitude Agent Who Goes the Extra Mile Because Life Begins Where the Pavement Ends.

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Leanne M. Smith, MS, GRI, rCRMS

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Anna "Banana" Kruchten
Retired Broker/Owner - Phoenix, AZ
602-380-4886

Leanne your husband is a hero and an all around wonderful man! And I bet he feels the same way about you as you do him! Isn’t it the best gift to know and appreciate your life every day. Iam wishing you both many more happy & healthy days together! Beautiful entry to the challenge ❤️

Jun 23, 2025 01:37 PM
Leanne Smith

No argument with you Anna "Banana" Kruchten  about Ken being a wonderful man. Yes appreciating life each and every day is a very good way to live.  Thank you and I am glad you enjoyed the entry. 

Jun 23, 2025 03:00 PM
Nina Hollander, Broker
Coldwell Banker Realty - Charlotte, NC
Your Greater Charlotte Real Estate Broker

Hello Leanne... as we get older it becomes increasingly evident that life offers no promises or guarantees. We can only make the best of each day that we have. So happy to hear your husband is now cancer-free. Clearly the issues from exposure to Agent Orange are troublesome... but it seems to me that you both have a wonderful outlook on life and each other to lean on.

Jun 23, 2025 01:49 PM
Leanne Smith

Yes we do lean on each other and share usually a positive outlook on life except for those moments I have when dealing with not so professional real estate agents. 😭 We are both moving forward and still appreciating each other. Thank you for your comment as well.

Jun 23, 2025 02:59 PM
Ed Silva, 203-206-0754
Mapleridge Realty, CT 203-206-0754 - Waterbury, CT
Associate Real Estate Broker

Good news for your husband Leanne Smith   I am a committed believer in all things for a reason and the event that are presented shape our futures and your move to AZ demonstrates that.

Jun 23, 2025 02:55 PM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

I too believe in my words "God works in mysterious ways" as he did in this experience. Good afternoon and thank you for sharing your perspective. 

Jun 23, 2025 02:57 PM
Debe Maxwell, CRS
Savvy + Company (704) 491-3310 - Charlotte, NC
The RIGHT CHARLOTTE REALTOR!

Oh and I know you are one heck of an advocate for Ken as well, Leanne! I distinctly remember praying to give me direction to be the best I can be for Ray when he was in ICU. I fired a surgeon and fussed at every nurse that walked in the room who didn't was his or her hands!! A dear friend of ours is Ray's Internal Medicine doc. He arrived at the hospital after getting home from vacation - in his shorts and beach hat! LOL

I nearly cried, I was so happy to see him. He said he knew there was no better patient advocate than me and he was there to help me find a new surgeon! I would have spent all of my points/money each time he's wound up in ICU if it would guarantee he stayed with me. 

So, I know how you felt when he was going through all of this. It's a scary time for him but, for YOU too! Thank God you had moved to AZ. I've always heard the medical care there is superb. 

Thank you for another fantastic entry, Leanne! And, thank you for the mention - glad I was able to spawn a post.  

Jun 23, 2025 03:01 PM
Leanne Smith

I had several ideas floating in my head, but your posting prompted this one. From my heritage I am fairly a private person yet sometimes my sense is people need to have stories about the resilience and spirit that reside in us as human beings that is often untouched until an unexpected challenge arises.  As to advocacy, I did do some research on the surgeon and she was highly rated.  The care Ken experienced as the local hospital was outstanding though many folks have shared not so positive experiences. Again, I believe this is an attitude of how you approach folks. When we left the hospital I gave the nurse station a 5# box of candy as appreciation.  What was surprising was that the majority of the nurses and attendants shared this gift was very usual but very much appreciated. 

Jun 23, 2025 03:10 PM
Kathy Streib
Cypress, TX
Retired Home Stager/Redesign

Hi Leanne- it's not easy opening up. I'm glad that you both moved to AZ and that you have a better VA Hospital there. It's when we get older that we realize how precious every single minute it. We also have to come to grips with the fact that there are no guarantees in life (except you-know-what)

Ken is lucky to have you by his side. 

Jun 23, 2025 07:47 PM
Leanne Smith

And I am beyond fortunate to be by his side. Thank you and good morning. 

Jun 24, 2025 06:25 AM
Michael Jacobs
Pasadena, CA
Pasadena And Southern California 818.516.4393

Hello Leanne - the comment by Debe Maxwell, CRS reinforced the importance of advocacy.  In medical situations, relationships and countless examples of everyday life.  

Jun 24, 2025 03:41 AM
Kat Palmiotti
eXp Commercial, Referral Divison - Kalispell, MT
Helping your Montana dreams take root

Thank you for sharing this. Life does not guarantee anything, and when calamity happens, how we address the issue can be the difference between success and failure. Deciding to live in Mohave County AZ was a great move!

Jun 24, 2025 05:00 AM
Leanne Smith

Your last words so resonate with me because we both believe moving to Mohave County even at our age, 60's and 70's eight years ago was beyond a great move.  Thank you and good morning 

Jun 24, 2025 06:23 AM
Kat Palmiotti

Good morning!

Jun 24, 2025 07:18 AM
Brian England
Ambrose Realty Management LLC - Gilbert, AZ
MBA, GRI, REALTOR® Real Estate in East Valley AZ

Having surgery is always a scary thing.  I am glad to hear that your husband's surgery went well.  I hope that his recovery will go well.

Jun 24, 2025 06:43 AM
Leanne Smith

Yes the surgery went well and he continues to move forward with a very good attitude. Thank you and good morning Brian,

Jun 24, 2025 06:58 AM
Cheryl Robertson
Dirt Road Real Estate - Kingman, AZ
Rural land and home specialist serving NW Arizona

Your and Ken's love for each other is a great example of what Marriage can be!!!

Jun 24, 2025 11:15 AM
Lew Corcoran
Better Living Real Estate, LLC - East Bridgewater, MA
Expert guidance. Exceptional results.

Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt story, Leanne Smith. Your honesty and resilience truly shine through, and I appreciate you highlighting the strength of the human spirit in tough times. Grateful for your openness and the reminder that gratitude and attitude can make all the difference. 😊

Jun 24, 2025 02:51 PM
Joan Cox
House to Home, Inc. - Denver Real Estate - 720-231-6373 - Denver, CO
Denver Real Estate - Selling One Home at a Time

Leanne, so glad your husband is cancer-free, and you are very lucky to have such a wonderful husband.

Jun 24, 2025 04:27 PM