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ONE RINGY DINGY....TWO RINGY..Well, you get my point!

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"ONE RINGY DINGY....TWO RINGY DINGY" If you know that phrase, you will get my point! It's all in the VOICE!

PART TWO: This is the second in a series of posts regarding the changes we are faced with in real estate. Hopefully, with dialogue, we can overcome some of the stumbling blocks that have come our way since the pandemic. 

Do you remember the famous comedian, Lilly Tomlin, as she sat at the switch board of a big corporation, pre-1990's, and said her most memorable line? Those were the days of the telephone--no one could do business without it. No one could get through a day without spending hours on cold calls or making phone call responses to an interested consumer or potential client.

In this brand new world of brand marketing, have you ever wondered what has happened to the phone calls that we used to HAVE to make to do business?

You may or may not know that here in New York State, during the pandemic, we were forbidden to make "Cold Calls", by law! Until January 2025, ...of this year, the Governor was persistant in her requirement that real estate agents specifically, were NOT to make calls to anyone without their permission! Yes, since 2020!! Thats right, try to make a connection for the first time when you can't make a cold call! Try to get business rolling in when you can't just make a call. 

IN SPITE OF ALL THAT!

We survived! And it was not even shocking that such a state department law was conceived of, much less strictly enforced.

In my humble opinion, the telephone has become the most useless and out of date mechanism you can use in today's world of marketing, especially real estate marketing. If you are lucky enough to find a human to answer your call, you are a rare bird!

 THINK OF IT:

  • A pandemic comes along, no more cold calls
  • unrecognized phone numbers automatically identified as spam...by a third party!
  • Blocked calls because of persistant unsolicited pitches--politically speaking!
  • A.I. taking the roll of receptionist with no idea or care that you want to talk to a human.
  • Concern over the use of cell phones--esp. with 5G (warrented or not).
  • Endless loops of connections to get to the correct party--all through A.I.
  • Text messages have made the cell phone another monster to deal with--everybody is getting more unsolicited text messages that they have to block--report and then delete...
  • How much more do we have to do with our phones? Time consuming, mind numbing activity with these devices, just to clear clutter, has become almost overwhelming.

MAYBE IT IS TIME TO RE-THINK THE WAY WE USE OUR CELL-PHONES IN REAL ESTATE

Now, if you have the patience and the time to manage this contraption, a phone can be the difference between making it or not in real estate. I have had my most successful first-conversations on a phone regarding a property. I have also been better able to qualify a buyer, or identify a questionable character through a phone call. 

So, you ask, "what about all the sharing you can do on your phone?" Well, then use it for that but don't always expect a response. To me, a phone was always a vehicle for verbal communication and it loses something in it's use as a replacement for your computer.

Think of it: You dial (or press) a number and a person answers! It does happen, believe it or not. That is a real door-opener! It opens up some form of communication--much better than sending out an email just to find it never gets opened! In fact, unread, an email is more apt to be deleted than ever viewed by human eyes...

Nothing can replace the auditory sensebility that comes to you through a genuine or fraudulent conversation on the phone. It can't happen in a text. Most texts are lacking in emotion or convincing knowledge anyway--too short and impersonal--and can be very irritating if you don't know the texter.

It is rare that an email gets read by a recipient if you are an unknown sender. Not only that, it takes time to reach out in a businesslike written format. But that is where most of us end up when we send a text or an email:--deleted.

You can't so easily hang up on a person on a phone call but you sure can cut them off or offend someone in a text!

Maybe, with patience, we can once again be able to use phone calls for business without the difficulty of non-human disrupters or looped connections that take forever to overcome in order to reach those irreplaceable consumers and clients.

Maybe one day the phone will become the best source for reaching out to strangers, even if it means you leave a voicemail message--at least an auditory message can be saved to hear later... And that may be your very next client!

Reinvigorating your phone as a marketing tool is a smart way to reach out to new clients. Just make that phone call instead of a text or email.

Your voice is the unique way you start to build trust! Try it!

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Paula I. Hathaway, Senior Broker Associate, Douglas Elliman Real Estate

Southamtpon Village Real Estate Specialist since 1995;  Also Specializes in North Sea, Noyac, Water Mill and Bridgehampton, New York

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Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Ha ha! It is always something! Look at the comedy of those times---the best commedians were women! And they had a lot to say about our lives; relatable things that will not soon be forgotten for the stark reality of life. I miss that and I miss the ability to just pick up the phone and chat with a client or a former buyer. Somehow I think that can be revived--if we take the time to do it. Everybody is in such a rush! So, my goal is to calmly begin the conversation. Consistant effort should bear fruit...Thank you, Carol, for reading and commenting!  

Aug 05, 2025 06:18 AM
Leanne Smith
Dirt Road Real Estate - Golden Valley, AZ
The Grit and Gratitude Agent

First loved the title of your blog posting.Second, yes I remember Lily doing that sketch. Third as you implied, personal communication builds relationships and relationships matter. Thank you and this should be a feature blog, how about it Carol Williams Debe Maxwell, CRS ?

Aug 05, 2025 09:31 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Thank you Leanne! and thanks for recomending a feature! Yes, it is all about good solid communication, isn't it? I don't really know of a better way to communicate in a personal, compelling way without talking directly to someone...Do you? Now, it may take a revolution of sorts to get the phone systems back on track so we can do our daily calls and reach the people we need to reach! But I am already seeing that certain health care comapanies are already changng their phone systems to avoid the looping of patients/ customers to so many different recorded voices--that can help a lot in getting through. Let's hope this is a trend!

Aug 05, 2025 11:35 AM
Dinah Stallworth-Lewis
Priority Real Estate LLC - 318.332.8281 - Natchitoches, LA
NATCHITOCHES, LA HOMES FOR SALE

Paula,

I agree with your post, communication is very important, whether by phone or face to face.   We get more robo calls now than ever before ... like Carol Williams stated in an earlier comment,  it makes you think twice about picking up calls from numbers you don't recognize.  COVID has unfortunately changed our world and it will never be the same again.  Good communication and listening skills are key and help us to understand and focus on our clients real estate needs.    

Aug 05, 2025 01:25 PM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Hi Dinah!

Thanks for reading and commenting! Good old fashioned phone calls look like the easiest and fastest way to regain our power to communicate...There is no shortage of spam calls and texts and I see more and more getting through from companies and other non-real estate entities. It's maddening to think that some yoho in anther part of this vast country figures the can plug up the works for no good reason--except to disrupt any possible good communication with a bina fide lead or contact. I'm ready to block everybody who texts me without good cause. In fact I just did the report, block, delete dance with about a dozen this afternoon!

Aug 05, 2025 02:22 PM
Laura Cerrano
Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island - Locust Valley, NY
Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher

Hi, Dinah! a lot of this is before my time, but I still find it fascinating from a historical standpoint and pretty entertaining to read about! Sincere  thanks for posting!

Aug 05, 2025 09:00 PM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Hi Laura,

 

This is Paula--but not to worry, I think you are so right in your observation--it is an oldie but goodie idea but it still may aptly apply to our business--I still like direct phone conversations for building rapport!

Aug 06, 2025 09:09 AM
Will Hamm
Hamm Homes - Aurora, CO
"Where There's a Will, There's a Way!"

Hello Paula and boy this you bring back memories of her at the switch board.  You are such a great writer and keep it up.

 

Aug 06, 2025 04:53 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Thank you Will! I will try my best to "keep up"..There are some pretty awesome writers on the site!

Have a good week! Thanks for he comment!

Aug 06, 2025 09:11 AM
Mike Colpitts
Plum Tree Realty - Fort Myers, FL
Providing Customer Service the old-fashioned way!

Wonderful piece Dinah for those old enough to remember LaughIn and for those who don't you brought it to life! Thanks!

Aug 06, 2025 09:05 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Hi Mike--It's Paula but no problem--I think those days of light laughter and good comedy are very much missing in todays world--no one laughs that much anymore! Tahnks for reading and commenting!

Aug 06, 2025 09:13 AM
Mike Colpitts
Plum Tree Realty - Fort Myers, FL
Providing Customer Service the old-fashioned way!

Sorry! But thanks Paula!

Aug 06, 2025 09:20 AM
Tammy Lankford,
Lane Realty Eatonton, GA Lake Sinclair, Milledgeville, 706-485-9668 - Eatonton, GA
Broker GA Lake Sinclair/Eatonton/Milledgeville

33 years in this business last month and I have NEVER and will NEVER cold call.

Aug 06, 2025 09:21 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Hi Tammy,

Depends on what you call "Cold calling". If I do research on a property for a buyer who wants a certain property and through town data I am able to find a phone number, I'm calling! Thats cold calling and happens to be a way I contact homeowners. But I completely understand your preference to not make cold calls that come from sources that are questionable. I don't do that either...Thanks for reading and commenting! By the way--I'm in RE for 32 years!

Aug 06, 2025 10:16 AM
Dr. Paula McDonald
Sand 'n Sea Properties - Galveston, TX
Galveston, TX 936-203-0279

I loved that old, Lilly Tomlin skit. I have not and never will "cold" call. Not in my DNA.

Aug 07, 2025 06:28 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

i agree; however I have no qualms calling a number from Town Data, if there is one. Most of our records in the Town are public domain. Although there are more and more LLCs buying houses! Those never supply numbers so it is getting harder to do. Meanwhile, I had fun pulling the concept together about phone use and Lilly Tomlin....Thanks for reading and commenting

Aug 07, 2025 07:07 AM
Nick Vandekar, 610-203-4543
Realty ONE Group Advocates 484-237-2055 - Downingtown, PA
Selling the Main Line & Chester County

Congratulations on the feature. I am not a lover of phone conversations, preferring in person over phone, but it is a necessary evil and something I avoid more than enjoy. 

Aug 07, 2025 07:38 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Hi Nick--i used to be a big avoider of phone use. Something happened in my hildhood I think! 😏But now, as a marketing tool, I think it may be that one much needed tool to rebuild relationships---for me and the fact I missed more than a year of active real estate because of an accident--it is going to be my excuse and hopefully my re-entry into the market. Thanks for reading and commenting!

Aug 07, 2025 09:59 AM
Michael J. Perry
Fathom Realty - Lancaster, PA
Lancaster, PA Relo Specialist

The good news is that it’s still a People Business. It is more important than ever to touch your SOI/Past Clients 4-12 times per year ……. 

Aug 07, 2025 08:56 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

I agree, Michael! it is STILL a people business and I think it could benefit all of us to lay out a solid schedule--even if it means leaving an engaging message--to make a phone call to our contact lists. It can't hurt! Thank you for your message here!

 

Aug 07, 2025 10:03 AM
Jeff Masich-Scottsdale AZ Associate Broker,MBA,GRI
HomeSmart Real Estate - Scottsdale, AZ
Arizona Homes and Land Group/ Buy or Sell

Oh yes, talking on telephones might help  to prevent COVID brilliant thought pattern by New York government. Was also very strange that if you were at least 6 ft away from somebody in line you were okay but 5 ft you might spread the infection. Also covid did not spread in grocery stores but all other businesses had to be closed during that time frame.

Aug 09, 2025 10:40 PM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Good morning Jeff,

 

That was really something, wasnt it? And to think that people went along with it! No one laughingly said "What does a cold call have to do with spreading COVID?"--Simple enough question. The response from th epublic should have been "NO! I will not comply..I have a business to run" I think we all know the purpose of that law...control; absolute power to control absolutely. It was freightening . Thanks for reading and commenting!

Aug 10, 2025 04:33 AM
John Juarez
The Medford Real Estate Team - Fremont, CA
ePRO, SRES, GRI, PMN

I answer my phone for most calls. More than I need to. There are so many unidentified numbers that turn out to be spam. At least I get to block those numbers. Yet there are always more. But I still answer hoping for the rare call that is an agent to whom I want to speak or who is a lead that I would have missed.

And don't even get me started on the text spam and computer email spam that is constant.

Aug 13, 2025 03:44 PM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA
Douglas Elliman Real Estate - Southampton, NY
"Deeply rooted in The Hamptons---local expertise"

Good morning John,

This post came into being because of the relentless scam, spam and regular disregard for my privacy==isn't ironic that we are getting notices all the time from companies telling us how they are ensuring our privacy when in reality, nothing is more privacy invading than being bombarded with spam emails, phone calls and texts. And yes, the email and texts are the worst sort of invasive, constant spam. Thans for reading and sharing your valuable point of view! 

Aug 14, 2025 06:28 AM
Pat Starnes-Front Gate Realty
Front Gate Real Estate - Brandon, MS
601-991-2900 Office; 601-278-4513 Cell

Great post and awesome title! I remember the line, but it took a minute for my brain to process the information. 

Always have a purpose for calling... I read in your comment to Tammy Lankford, above. Yes, if I have a reason to call as in the example you mentioned, I'm calling too. The problem is finding a phone number to dial! I have been so bold in the past to walk up and knock on the door. :)

Aug 28, 2025 09:10 AM
Paula Hathaway, REALTOR, LBA

Hi Pat,

Me too. It is the most difficult thing to do--more difficult than calling but if you do not have a number--I think it is just fine. We have a problem here in that most people do not live here year round so I do find it hard to locate an owner. But the phone is still the best way for me--if I can get a darn human to answer!😁

Aug 28, 2025 09:38 AM